I miss my wife but she is not willing 2 admit she is wrong and can't even say Im sorry, my kids r suffering but I cant go back 2 an verbally and physical abuse relationship! What should I do?
2007-07-17 21:34:23 · 10 answers · asked by budman11901 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe try to have someone close to both sides help you figure out wat you can both do to improve your relationship
2007-07-17 21:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by JK 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are all hung up on who is "right" or "wrong" you will never solve any differences. That is a child-like way of relating to another person. If you are more mature and give up being "right" you will be able to get down to the business of figuring out how to get your problems solved. Or you can just stay "right" and lonely. Verbal and physical abuse is never okay, but if you both have a willing heart, there is a solution for that also. But as long as one of you is arrogant about proving yourself right, then there will be no point in trying, even with professional help.
2007-07-18 08:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't go back at all to a verbal and physically abusive relationship. It's little wonder the kids are suffering, they have to see their mother attacking their father.
You should never go back. Go for access to see the kids but leave her behind.
2007-07-18 04:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to tango buddy. Whatever happened between the two of you was not all her fault. I think it's time for you to take a step back and see what YOU may be doing wrong in this situation. If you are trying to blame her for everything, no wonder she's not willing to work this out. Once you accept some resposibility, she may be more willing to work on it. If she is under attack, she will react defensively, and I don't blame her.
2007-07-18 08:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by yankeegirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deserve an apology, especially for physical abuse. If you go back and she continues, call the cops. Don't take garbage from anyone like that, they aren't worth it, I know, I've been there, done that. Arrange to see your kids, they love you, but if she won't work it out with you then she doesn't want to be with you.
2007-07-18 04:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by Me in Canada eh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know what's happening between u & your wife but why don't u just apologize to her instead of waiting for her to apologize for u? so what if she is the guilty one? sometimes it's better for the other party to forget about their ego and say sorry even if they did nothing wrong. at least that will give u the chance to make up with your wife and work things out. u know, u just have to be a man and take things easy for you & your kids.
2007-07-18 04:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by roxxx_13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am all for marriage and trying to keep a family together. That being said, this woman is hurting you. If she is not willing to get help for her issues then she is not worth your time. The biggest worry I have is the children. If she has them she will do the same thing to them. Keep your children safe. If that means taking them away from their mother then that is what it means. Good luck!
2007-07-18 04:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by marylou c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad. Some women don't appreciated what they have until it is lost. If she is seriously not willing to make it work and apologise (If she was wrong) then I guess you will have to move on. Explain to the children what is going on so that they know. It is better and they will understand. Good luck!
2007-07-18 05:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by girlygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot DO anything - she sounds stubborn and pig headed, and I doubt she would change without getting some serious hours in at a counselor, so if you CAN, hire a lawyer and get your kids away from her before she destroys them too.
2007-07-18 04:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be she is not wrong.
i think u should meet and decide to forget about the whole issue and never discuss it again , this is for the sake of ur children
2007-07-18 05:03:11 · answer #10 · answered by stranger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋