For those who have read my earlier questions, I just wonder if I am doing the right thing now. Firstly, I think he has emotionally cheated me once and now is contacting another lady thru mails. Some ask how can I accept my husband doing. But my question is, did he really did something wrong. He had told me he is trying to get overseas contact to help explore some business opportunity. I wanted to trust him but like you guys say, if there is nothing between them, why don't he tell her he is married. He did told me once when he first when to meet this lady but the 2nd and 3rd was without my knowledge, I guess he doesn't wants me to make another fuss after I expose his encounter with the 1st lady. Am I trying to find excuses for what he did. Sometimes, I felt very stupid. Why should I tolerate all this. But then again, I'm happy with the way we are now by pretending not to know anything. Am I right or just stupid. I don't want 2 divorce becos I've kids but I'm financially independ.
2007-07-17 18:39:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Everyone is giving you great answers, most could be from past experience. It looks like you are in denial of what is happening.of coarse he will make excuses to why he is meeting a girl. hes not going to tell you the truth. you need to ask this lady in a nice way, you know woman-to-woman. Confront him after yo hear from here, so you have the facts. take the kids and pack up for a night or two. he will realize what wrong he has done and beg for you guys back. if he doesn't, its obvious he don't love your relationship anymore. you have option like alimony and child support. don't depend on him. you area beautiful woman and great mother. there are better men out there who will treat you better
2007-07-18 02:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're more than just financially dependent on this man.
The truth is....he won't stop, because you're not standing up for yourself.
How can he respect you, if you don't respect yourself enough to say "Enough is ENOUGH"?
The best thing you can do is give him an ultimatum. Either he stops the online escapades and "meetings" or you leave.
Even if you have to live with you parents and get on your feet, at least you'd have the peace of mind.
Plus, you can always drag his cheating *** to court for child support.
There are options. Everyone has them.
Stop making excuses.
Living in ignorance isn't setting a good example for your children.
2007-07-17 22:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by darkening_hope 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is cheating then you shouldn't stay with him because it's not fair to you or the kids. how can you trust him if he didn't even tell you about the 2ND and 3rd time. it sounds like to me you are just making excuses for him. you should have to tolerate this at all. just because you have kids with your husband doesn't mean you need to stay married to him. once a cheater always a cheater. if he did it once he's going to do it again and you shouldn't just stand there and take it you should do something about it. how can you be happy by pretending not to know anything? you already know and if you were happy you wouldn't be talking about it to anyone. you might think you are happy but deep down your not really happy at all and that you feel like you need to stay with him for the kids sake. which isn't a reason to stay married really. honestly I would think you were stupid to stay with him after he cheated on you once but I also know that women stay for all the wrong reasons too. you have to do what's right for yourself. good luck.
2007-07-17 19:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by thydarknight 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and move on! If you were happy preteneding not to know anything, you would not be asking for anyone else's opinion. Never stay together just for the kids because you will not be giving them a truely happy home and they will grow up with the belief that cheating and lying is acceptable behaviour in relationships.
2007-07-17 23:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you even posted this question. I've read some of your other questions and it's obvious your husband is cheating and it's obvious you don't want to leave him. You say you're happy pretending you don't know. So, I can only say just keep on hiding your head in the sand. You are a glutton for punishment.
2007-07-17 18:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is better not to divorce first. you are a good mother and wife. Because you care about your husband and your kids. But, Because me myself hate and don't like people to be broken family and so i hope you don't divorce. Maybe let him get into trouble with those ladies he woo then he will know you are the best. But i hope you can try something to prevent and stop your husband firlting.
2007-07-17 20:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by Danson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pretend. Don't ignore. I did for a long time and it escalated into a full blown affair that smacked me right in my face. I couldn't play the denial game anymore and it cut me to the core. Put a stop to it right away before you really get hurt.
2007-07-17 20:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not stupid. There are so many emotions involved in your situation - it's difficult to be logical.
Get out of the marriage. Go to your mom's and pull yourself together.
Another man will come along who will love, respect, and cherish you as a husband should.
2007-07-17 20:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by hpfgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why stay with a man who treats you like that in time he will leave one day and not return . in my opion?
2007-07-17 19:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋