Marriage & Divorce - 20 June 2007

(im 23 hes 29 weve been engaged for 2 months)i knew he watched it before we moved in together. hes obviously ok with it but im not so much. call me old fashioned, high maintenance, whatever, im a just chick who gets turned off by it. anyways, he volunteered giving it up, even gave away the dvds. but now he just trys to hide it. now its not just about respect and the whole is it or isnt it cheating, now its about honesty too.
we have great sex, he will totally admit to this. he might say i cant really keep up with him but he would also say he wants it all the freakin time.
anyways, its driving me crazy because i know hell never stop, i also know i will never be ok with it.
if he cant change for me should i change for him?? and if so, how do i do it w/o feeling like sh!t?

2007-06-20 13:36:01 · 32 answers · asked by in the big easy 2

What is the cheapest way to get divorce? I don't want it to be messy, I just want to go our seperate ways. Is that even possible anymore? BTW, I live in Illinois

2007-06-20 13:35:05 · 16 answers · asked by nerdys_cool 3

I am 18 and i might be pregnant. My boyfriend is very supportive, yet scared. We've been together 2 years and knowen eachother for much longer. Should we get married for our baby?

2007-06-20 13:21:39 · 16 answers · asked by Jess ╗╙ 3

My husband is chubby, but so am I. He tells me he finds me attractive, and when he puts on a suit I still get excited but when he goes to bed in boxers it grosses me out. We aren't having sex often.I just can not get into it. Part of it is that he doesn't help around the house and there are things I can't do myself so when he gets home from work I ask him to do those things he says he will and never gets to it. Eventually I nag after about 2 weeks of asking politely. By the time I'm nagging I'm so angry that the idea of being intimate just angers me further. The combination of his appearance and his being a lazy bum is causing a rift. I've talked to him about losing weight and he gets angry (I've been very nice about it and we were supposed to do it together. I've lost 15 lbs. by myself b/c he won't do it with me) and I've been through every way of asking him to help, I don't know what to do but I want to be attracted to him and to want to have sex without feeling obligated.

2007-06-20 13:20:32 · 27 answers · asked by its about time 5

My bf for 5yrs goes out about once a year and smokes crack. should I leave? I have 2 kids by him and 1 more from a previous marriage. what do you think?

2007-06-20 13:09:34 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous

He loses his job. She has better pay job, so they decide he is 2 stay home & watch baby until it is old enough 4 day care. She comes home from work finds out that he has not done any housework, etc. She figures what the hell, Baby is hard work.
Baby becomes easier to take care of. She notices that Man now sleeps all day, spends lil time entertaining Baby , will not help out in the house, & is up all night w/friends. He is also making comments about no $$ for "fun" things. She sits him down and tries 2 have a talk about why she cannot do EVERYTHING and go 2 work 2. He makes her feel guilty, tells her that it is her fault he is depressed. She says she will try harder. She comes up with way for him to go back to school and get degree. She pays for everything. They get married. He graduates, has to look 4 work. She's still supporting the family. He ignores his wife, puts her down, doesn't listen when she is sad about situation. Twists what she says & says it's her fault. She loves him.

2007-06-20 13:08:31 · 14 answers · asked by Whyruafraid? 4

can they take his pay and set an amount? Do I have to go to court and set it? no guess's please thanks!!!

2007-06-20 13:06:26 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been reading through the questions in the Marriage/Divorce section and i'm really starting to lose faith in marriage. I've always wanted to get married but is disheartning to see all these people getting divorced, fighting over custody, cheating spouses, etc.

My grandparents were married for 60 years (well 60 years less one month to the day b/c my grandfather passed). Such marriages just don't seem possible anymore, divorce & greed are more prevalent than "for better or worse".

Do you agree or disagree?

2007-06-20 13:06:18 · 10 answers · asked by ? 3

My husband and myself have been seperated for about 3 years and he as never paid any childsupport and he doesn't see her that often maybe once a month on a good month maybe twice! He as never had her over night(never wanted too not my choice) Now that I am asking for a divorce he says he is not going to pay child support and that he will go after custody of her! Can this really happen? I know he as rights and I am all for them but what about mine? I have raised her own my own with no help from him can they really reward him by taking her away? Why punish me? Please help!!!!!!!!!

2007-06-20 12:53:23 · 15 answers · asked by rere 2

I went to college up until I had my baby. I was a stay at home mom until my daughter was 4. Unfortunately my husband left me so I was forced to enter the working force to support the 2 of us. I have only been separated for a year so she is still adjusting. I already feel guilty about working full time. I was thinking of just taking one or two classes per semester. Will this have a negative effect on my child? Or will it be better in the long run if I get a degree? Please help.

2007-06-20 12:51:55 · 8 answers · asked by nina 2

I was in a chat room last night and i could not believe how many people do not support our troops.They think by supporting our troops we are supporting the war.In this case
one has nothing to do with the other.We can support our troops without agreeing with the war or why we are there.
Let our troops no we are behind them by answering this question.Show them how many Q&A people are behind them all the way.

2007-06-20 12:24:00 · 16 answers · asked by Teenie 7

I've been only married with my husband for 6 months and already he's been verbally abusing me and sometimes being physical already. I am 5 months pregnant with his first child, but he constantly blames me for everything, even if its not my fault, which causes me to be insecure with myself, and he gets even more upset when that happens... Help, is it my fault why he's acting this way with me? How can i stop it. I tried leaving him for one night and yet he didn't realize anything, i was the one who went running back to him.

2007-06-20 12:23:01 · 33 answers · asked by Valerie K 1

This guy i know at my sports center is always teasing me in a nice way that makes me laugh at myself, and saying nice things to me too, and keeping his eye on me and likes to stand up close behind me. One day at lunch there was a bunch of us eating and he wouldn't talk to me. He didn't even look at me till someone else talked and then he joined in. talks about divorcing his wife. I don't say anything as i don't want to be party to any of that but i am just wandering if he really likes me or just flirting for his ego. He asks me questions and we find we have so much in common. I feel all nice when he is around. I find i can open up with him in a way i can't with other men. I feel so comfortable and he even said he feels he has known me a long time though we just met 5 months ago. what is going on in his head..i know, i know...who really knows, but you know..i just want some speculation and thoughts and maybe some one has had these things going on inside of them too and can clue me in..

2007-06-20 12:21:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am getting a divorce soon and i don't want to claim anything from my husband. If i claimed ''his'' house he will give me hell the rest of my life. Money is his god and his baby. I really want to leave in peace and forget him and get on with my life. The money would be used to pay off deep debts he made anyway. I could make a deal that he pay off the loans that are in his and my name that he wants me to pay too but i have no money! That way i could not have any bills and he could have his money, house, etc. what do you think?

2007-06-20 12:14:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

he is 56,married 4 years,both never had kids. now he is trying many ways to force me by saying how happy other people are with kids. but for 4 years,he never satisfied with anything,complaining everything,job,boss,his did,his mom,his brothers,my ways of living,my way of cleaning.......i really dont want to have kid with him. but what should i deal with him.

2007-06-20 12:11:56 · 10 answers · asked by Carol H 3

Last year while at a rally some lady gave my old man her phone number and he put it in his wallet. I found the number, called the lady and then went to her house. She says she didn't know my old man and that if she had met him at the rally that she was drunk and doesn't remember giving him her number...... I showed her pictures and the number which she admitted was in her handwritting..... She completely denies knowing him.....

I then went home and asked him about it and he said she gave it to him at the rally and he didn't even realize he had it.... I questioned him as to why he placed it in his wallet since we have been together for several years. He claims he didn't remember doing that. He did though, or the number wouldn't have been there....

ANYWAY.... today my home phone rang and this woman's name and number came up on my caller ID. It was her daughter and come to find out my daughter and her daughter are good friends from school.

2007-06-20 12:05:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-20 12:02:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

What is a really good, easy, quick way to get high legally?
I want to forget about how bad I hate my life... about how bad I hate everything... I just want to forget it all.

2007-06-20 11:53:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have a huge issue with my fiancee watching porn. he promised not to watch it anymore and even gave away all his dvd's. its been almost a month and i found him sneaking it like a little kid. his defense is that hes a guy and he needs it and since im just a girl i will never understand.
am i wrong to think once you decide to get married to someone its time to put away things like beating off to some other chick????!!!
what do i do?
do i give in and say whatever and just resent him for it for the rest of my life or do i stand my ground???

are there guys out there who dont watch porn all the time??

are there guys that would give it up if their fiance asked them to?

please help.... this is driving me crazy and starting to make me rethink getting married.
the real problem is that i cant get excited because i keep thinkin of him getting off to some s.l.u.t. it turns me off and i dont want him to touch me,, what do i do?????

2007-06-20 11:51:25 · 48 answers · asked by in the big easy 2

My fiance and I are from 2 different cities. Hes from chicago and im from a small city in Ohio. Hes a city boy and im a country girl. Dispite those differences we get along quite well...we just accept that we are different. However we do often disagree on where to live when we are married. I wans to live here because the cost of living is cheaper, and in Chicago it is outrageous. I also would not mind living there because his parents will be there for our kids and mine would not. (i was raised by my grandparents). I want my children to have grandparents around... but is it worth the cost of living in Chicago?

2007-06-20 11:48:22 · 6 answers · asked by ♥JeSs♥ 2

My wife and I are getting divorced. It's in the process and we go to the lawyers next Monday. I think it will be final then. I've been seeing this wonderful new lady (the woman I left my wife for---being honest here) and she wants to have kids. I do to, but I don't want to until we're married. I'm gonna propose to her on her B-day next month. I have two daughters from my soon to be ex wife and I don't want to make them feel awkward, but I really want to get my lady pregnant this year. How long should we wait? I'm 33 and she's gonna be 29. She has no kids.

2007-06-20 11:45:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My divorce was finalized in February. I didn't ask for child support because of guilt in addition to the fact that he gets the kids for 4 hours on Tues and Thurs and then every other weekend so it SEEMED like the time was split equally. It's not and anyone who has kids knows that the more time they're with you, the more money you spend.

My ex splits doc copays, prescriptions and any extra-curricular activities the kids might be involved in, but even at that I have to ask him repeatedly to pay up.

As a result, I just want to go to court, ask for a flat amount of child support per month and be done with it. There are two problems with this: Foremost, even though the kids live with me and we have joint conservertership, in Texas you have to name a primary guardian. My ex is the primary guardian. Secondly, I've heard that in Texas you have to wait 3 years to go back to court to change the custodial agreement, etc. Is there any truth to this!

Help!

2007-06-20 11:42:35 · 6 answers · asked by cort_art 1

I want to be single again not just for the other women, but Shes not smart, has no aspirations, has no sex drive. What should I do? should i stick to it and not be happy anymore? What will my family think? My family lover her to death.

2007-06-20 11:41:56 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been reading some of these women with marriage problems and im sad and the answers from other women are even more depressing. I mean have women became so selfish and uncaring to men and children? I can remember my mother and father had problems but they worked it out for me and my sisters at least till we were all grown. It seems that the "2 paychecks are better than one" has outnumbered the "till death do us part" and "for better and worst"
I mean im no angel im divorced but my ex wife did not want to work at anything and maybe im a little one sided but it seem with the women of today early 20's and 30's if something gets a little tough they give up so easy
someone that is objective answer this for me?

2007-06-20 11:40:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is a Police Officer. And yes they do lie big time. He's been talking with a high school friend for about 6 yrs. I ask him why didn't he tell him about her. he said because I didn't feel like it. she's just a friend. I have been finding cues here and there. naked pictures of girls he took a couple of pictures of himself as well. I personality think that my husband is just as sick. He's got an addition. Lately think have been out of control. I want a divorce. I told him I deserve better. I need someone to treat me with respect and to love me.As long as I been married to my husband he never knew how to tell me that he love me. Oh other thing. We have not had any intercourse togther. for about 4 yrs. I wonder why. Probably because he was to busy seeing someone else or getting from someone else. I read one of he's email and told this girl that he's been chatting with.he told her my wife is going on a trip with the church for about 4 days. I will call you when I get there. luv you

2007-06-20 11:40:23 · 8 answers · asked by Bea H 1

Why does Married couples seem to change when they get married? Did yours???

2007-06-20 11:34:05 · 8 answers · asked by LEANN 2

My fiance is in ADC and filed for divorced last August to his wife in Sacramento. He was never served with any papers and dosen't know if she was either. how is he able to find out if they are divorced?

2007-06-20 11:33:56 · 14 answers · asked by Dawn F 1

My mother in low got very sick so me and my wife decided to take care of her and so we brought her to england where we leave, soon she ended up in the hospital and a few months later doctors told us she was about to die. We knew that she wanted to be next to her family grave so we decided to sent her back to her country and so make her last wish become true. It took 15.000 pounds to move the body in there including several seats on the plane, ambulance, doctor fees and on and on. Last year however we got separated for different reasons and we both agree that we would share the debts we made as the decision of clearing off the credit cards was taken from both, and especially I did it with my heart. Now I'm with this other woman for the last 6 months and she beleave I should dump the debt on my ex wife as, after all, she was not my mother and we could use that money to have a better life and also plan to have a baby next year. Is it immoral or should just think about money?

2007-06-20 11:26:28 · 34 answers · asked by cristian.t@btopenworld.com 1

2007-06-20 11:01:38 · 19 answers · asked by Sidereality 3

Okay i have been married almost 13 yrs now this is my second marriage and have three great kids.My eldest son is 15 yrs old he is from my first marriage that lasted 6.5 months and my twins girl/boy are 12.5 turning 13 soon.I am starting to feel a bit old i am 35 yrs old and starting to question what i have done with my life?I went to college got pregnant then married sons father soon after divorced.I graduated from college by the skin of my teeth with a lot of help from my parents.Met my hubby started dating got married had twins.Went into business with my mom who owns landscape design company,also doing house flips and am in process of trying to add interior design branch to her small company.I love my job and family but feel as if time went by in a fast blur?I always thought i would make a difference i world somehow but really i have not done much in grand scheme of things.I want to start trying new things maybe to feel bit younger again.Is this a midlife crisis?

2007-06-20 10:55:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous