I am 18 and i might be pregnant. My boyfriend is very supportive, yet scared. We've been together 2 years and knowen eachother for much longer. Should we get married for our baby?
2007-06-20 13:21:39 · 16 answers · asked by Jess ╗╙ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you did not intend on getting married before you got pregnant then dont.
As a very good friend of mine once said to me, " Don't let one mistake destroy 3 people's lives"
I would suggest you have the baby and if you still feel that you love each other later then get married.
Having a baby doesn't draw you closer it can seperate you.
Every time you have a fight one of you would say if you or I hadn't gotten pregnant we wouldn't have gotten married.
Make sure when you get married you do it for the right reasons, because you want to spend the rest of your lives together and you love each other, not because you have a baby together.
Your baby deserves a happy life, not a makebelieve one with fighting around.
2007-06-20 13:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough question. You're young and its hard to be married without a baby, letalone to be young and pregnant. While in the long run it may be better for the baby, will it be better for you and your boyfriend? If you two believe that your marriage will last and its the best thing to do, go for it and congrats! If you think that you should get married ONLY for the baby, reconsider. Many children have involved parents who are not married...or who have grown up and married other people...it can work if you cooperate and make it work. Just be sure that you've thought BOTH options out completely before deciding
2007-06-20 20:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by its about time 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shotgun weddings at a young age are doomed to disaster in the future. Getting married becaus of a baby is the honorable thing to do but at what expense. If there is no real true love involved here, it would certainly be disasterous for you two. You both need to talk to your parents or priest/father about this and what the best way to proceed from here is. You both are about to grow up real fast and hard here due to a little fun, but theres going to be some very hard decisions to be made here, because of the baby. Get the help and good luck to you both
2007-06-20 20:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got my girlfriend pregnant, I was working at a crappy job, in a crappy part of town. So I decided to join the Navy for financial security and then I decided to marry my girlfriend for the emotional side for the children. Then again if you guys are not happy together, than dont get married cause that will just put emotional stress on the kids when they are older.
2007-06-20 20:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Period. Don't get married unless it's for the right reasons. I do suggest that the two of you sit down with an mediation attorney to write up a parenting plan prior to the baby being born though.
2007-06-20 21:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by starrrrgazer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER marry for a baby, only yourself. It would be the wrong reasons and thing to do. "IF" you are indeed pregante, you both can be wonderful parents without taking the big jump. If things work out, then sure get married later on when your sure, but not until then, and definatly not for the sake of a child.
2007-06-20 20:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by How can I help? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. Who's going to raise this child? Your parents or you two? (Real rotten thing to do to your parents. Like they wanted this burden at this time of their lives!) Can you afford it? Do you both have full-time jobs?
You say you "might" be pregnant? Are you or aren't you? It's either one or the other, there's no halfway! Go to the drugstore and get a test - duh, that's obvious. Why are you asking these questions NOW? This is something you should have thought about BEFORE (that is, if you were a responsible adult). You wanted to play at grownup games, now you have to take the grownup responsibility that comes with it - along with the cost!
2007-06-20 20:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two big babies trying to raise a little baby. He is not a dad, not a sperm donor in a hormone driven affair. Neither of you are prepared to be parents. It's a long hard life ahead no matter how you cut it.
2007-06-20 20:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can't be a decision based on your child...marriage is between you and your partner, long after the children are gone its going to be the two of you...is that what your looking forward to? if so yes get married...if not wait until you know for sure.
2007-06-20 20:30:33 · answer #9 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your boy friend's opinion. If he does not want to marry you, then turn to your parents for support, love and attention.
2007-06-20 20:28:47 · answer #10 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋