I am getting a divorce soon and i don't want to claim anything from my husband. If i claimed ''his'' house he will give me hell the rest of my life. Money is his god and his baby. I really want to leave in peace and forget him and get on with my life. The money would be used to pay off deep debts he made anyway. I could make a deal that he pay off the loans that are in his and my name that he wants me to pay too but i have no money! That way i could not have any bills and he could have his money, house, etc. what do you think?
2007-06-20 12:14:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The house is community property. It's half yours just like it's half his. Let your attorney handle it. Splitting everything down the middle is the fair way to handle a divorce. It's when one side gets gready that it can get nasty. But if he has a problem with you getting half then he's the one being gready. With splitting it equally then you will each have the money you need to pay off your bills.
As far as him giving you hell for the rest of your life, I would think once you divorce him, you would be smart never to see him again. And since you don't have children then there isn't a "reason" to continue any contact with him.
Just let your attorney work out a 50-50 compromise. You deserve as much as he deserves. I believe in being fair.
2007-06-20 13:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by LAL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really prepared to leave with nothing, and no debt, that is the offer you should make him. Depending on the length of the marriage, you are entitled to a fair portion of the marital estate as well as responsibility for debts of the marital estate. If the debt is less than the assets, and if he won't agree to assume all of the debt, with no other settlement or support to you, you have nothing to lose by taking the matter to court to be decided. Play hardball; he's probably getting a heck of a deal.
2007-06-20 12:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is nasty but you have the rest of your life in front of you and you deserve what is rightfully yours. Let a lawyer handle the fights and tell your lawyer your fears and then walk on out the door. That's what lawyers do they fight so you don't have to. Tell your ex to be that you want to be as peaceful as possible but you are not going to give up what you are entitled to. Leave it at that and don't argue or fight with him. Don't be intimidated by him. Get your advise from a reputable lawyer and claim the house.
2007-06-20 12:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by Maizy * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but the house is half yours and i would not let him have it .Tell him to pay you off if he wants the house.I can't believe that a man who once loved you and is the father of your baby would let you walk away with nothing knowing that you have no money to take care of his baby the way he should be taking care of and the way you have grown accustom to taking care of him.Shame on your husband for only thinking of money at a time like this. So many men hold the money over our heads when they no we have no where to go or no means to support ourselves after years of being taking care of.That is why so many women stay in loveless marriages these days.How can a woman with a baby and on her own take care of herself with the way costs are today .There is no way and the husbands know this and take full advantage of this. They would never admit to this but we no.
2007-06-20 12:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to consult a lawyer. It may be easier to get the house, sell it and pay of the debt, than to make him soley responsible for the bills. See what kind of settlement you can do.
2007-06-20 12:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by missadvice411 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most states are community property states where assets and liabilities are split down the middle. Do what your lawyer says to do and make sure you are not ripped off. Then move to another state and start over!
2007-06-20 12:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the house sell it and get yourself out of debt.
I would say try to get everything that you possible can. He will not try to haunt you the rest of your life. You are under no obligation to see or speak to him again after the divorce.
2007-06-20 12:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by tejanomoreno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah.i agree with you.just ask him to pay what he needs to pay and move on...but if he cheated get his azz for everything he got........:) good day
2007-06-20 12:24:39 · answer #8 · answered by Babygurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let it go. you dont need the added debt.
2007-06-20 12:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by princessfionafantasy 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋