Marriage & Divorce - 20 June 2007

I have been in a relatoinship with my fianance now (in total ) for over a year, until recently, she has had a difficult time controlling her anger and emotions. I was the one who stepped back and made the responsible decision (we are both 26 years old) that we both were not obviously ready for marriage, and that we should think about it more before planning a wedding.

SHe went on a big tirade and even ripped her dress, and screamed and yelled, before grasping numerous kitchen knives (large ones), and pointing them at her chest. I had to forcefully remove them from her, at which point I notified her doctor and parents, she kept telling me over and over that she wanted to die.

I have decided that I am in a really bad situation and am moving out this Friday (without her knowing). I do not simply feel safe in my own home. she has done very little to correct it, and her mother is convinced that she is fine. Am I doing the right thing here?

2007-06-20 05:15:38 · 24 answers · asked by B B 1

It depends on the restaurant I take my wife, sometimes food is bad, sometimes very bad.

2007-06-20 05:13:41 · 11 answers · asked by alfred pimples 1

It's driving my poor boyfriend crazy! He is on the verge of leaving me.
We had a big blow-up yesterday and he told me that I'm not the same person I was when we met- that I've become a control freak. I argued with him because, well, I'm always right! Haha just kidding. He made me realize that I AM a control freak in every aspect of my life and I want to change.
My question is, how? Where do I start? I pay so much attention to what he does with his free time, and need to know everything. I get really jealous when he hangs out with his friends. I don't let him clean, do laundry, cook, anything. I thought I did it out of love, but now that I think about it, I do it because I want it to be done right! It's actually caused him to be more lazy and just sit around all the time because he knows I'll get everything done!
I don't know, if anyone has been through this before and has figured it out, I'd really appreciate some help. Help me save my relationship. I know he is THE ONE. Thank you

2007-06-20 05:10:57 · 36 answers · asked by Melissa♡ 3

Here goes..Me n my LDR (long distance relationship) B/F hav known each other about a 1yr N hav been dating about 6months of it.He's an X-Marine of 8years N just now has started skool agin(which i think is great).Even tho he had told me tat he wasnt lookin 4a relationship at the time, 4months later we start'd datin.Everything has been goin great,but recently the LD has been wearin on me.I miss him horribly,we've seen each other 4x's in 11months N he's been goin to skool the whole time.Once he starts a semester he doesnt have very much time 2talk 2me(which is all we hav,tat N the internet).Im not blamin him or sayin tat its his fault, but we'd hav 2wait at least 4yrs b4 we could B 2gether.N i just met this guy this past weekend tat seems really sweet N Im slightly intrigued by him.So i told my B/F we need'd a break 2figure out wat we're goin 2do about our relationship.I think i did the rite thing,(But did i?)i dont want 2endup cheatin on him.How long should i take this break?What now?

2007-06-20 05:09:40 · 9 answers · asked by la_bluegrrl02 2

If you did, how long did you stay? Where children involved? Do you still love them?

2007-06-20 05:05:19 · 10 answers · asked by K B 3

2007-06-20 05:04:46 · 29 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6

I am from a very rich family...my parents r spending alot for me...but, i m in love with my mom's cousine...we married secretly..he can live without me and i cant...but, its bit abnormal in society to marry mom's cousine.....i dont want to give such insults to my parents..they dont deserve it...but, i love him a lot and we r already married......am i doing wrong? people will say bed...should i sacrifice our both's life for people?? i m in very mental pressure...plz advicee me....in one side my love, another side my parents's pride..if u were in my place, what would u do?

2007-06-20 04:56:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 25 yrs of age and my fiance is 19 and we have a one month old. She is from a small town. I just got out of the military. I live in a state where the jobs are scarce. I have exhausted all of my efforts in finding a decent paying job. (Most around here want to pay you $10 an hr). I have told my fiance that I have to start looking out of state for a job. She does not want to move but she says she will if we have to. I come to find out that her mother has been trying to talk her out of marrying me. While I would never force her to do anything, what ever happend to the notion that when you get married you end a life with your parents and begin one with your spouce? What should I do? Is our relationship doomed?

2007-06-20 04:50:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am short of the required income level so i need to know if that extra income (child support) can be used

2007-06-20 04:48:33 · 4 answers · asked by wyc_pet23 1

My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 3 years and have been broken up for about 2 years.It was my decision to end things. In that time I met my husband and we were married 3 months ago.I love my husband very much and I am very happy with him. I don't want to be with my ex but sometimes I miss him alot. A lot of times I will have random dreams about my ex and alot of times its about becoming friends again. Sometimes there are dreams where we just hug, and in my dream I am still aware and in love with my husband, but I am also happy to have made ammends with my ex. He pretty much hates me and wont talk to me so how do I get over wanting to make friends with him? I don't know how to forget about him.

2007-06-20 04:46:32 · 14 answers · asked by missmae 1

Do you think sex is a Big thing in a marriage or relationship? I am married and my husbands sex drive vanished and mine is sky high.. He puts me down when I want to do it.. I cant deal with it... Its not me and I know that for sure.. He is really stressed and I think it is from that,, but to me sex makes my stress go away.. What do I do? He is only 23...

2007-06-20 04:45:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is excepting jewlery from a married man cheating...specially if you are married? I believe it is what do you think?

2007-06-20 04:41:27 · 31 answers · asked by ME 3

2007-06-20 04:39:44 · 53 answers · asked by cunit31 1

If you put him through graduate school, stayed home with the kids and entertained so that he could get ahead, didn't advance your own career to help advance the family because it was best for everyone and your kids, cut the grass, took care of the house and his ailing parents so that he could focus on his career for the best interest of the family and you STILL wouldn't believe that you deserve a share of the net worth, not to mention that your kids shouldn't become poor because he has lost his mind, no matter even if temporarily while you go to school. and you would still say to let him go with all of the assets that you worked for?

And you wouldn't get your own lawyer to protect the furture of your kids? Thanks.

2007-06-20 04:35:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

so i have been living with my fiancee and her 6 yr old son for 6 months now in a house that we bought together...

she is a good girl, a very smart and studius person, and honest to a fault...who just graduated from masters school and is looking for a job.

i am having a very major situation with her over the last couple months...its that our relationship is migrating in a direction that i do not like at all...

its like i am constantly the 'bad guy' i dont do enough housework EVER! if i took off a day from my 8-10 hour a day job to clean ALL day she would still have complaints that i do not do enough...

my job, which is hard and not so rewarding on the cash end, has her bugging me everyday to get a new one, which i am actually starting to send out resumes and honestly look for something that is all around better for me...

another thing is that when we didnt live together it was sex 4-5 of the 7 days a week i would go out with her. now i am lucky if once a week i get mine

2007-06-20 04:31:57 · 16 answers · asked by ignoramous i 3

my husband and i have been seperated for 2 years but we talk every now n then. he wants a divorce but now he is having his girlfriend handle all his business. She is the one ive been talking to about the divorce and she brought me the papers to sign.and when i did see him he couldnt even look at me in my face. why is this

2007-06-20 04:31:24 · 16 answers · asked by beautiful 1

So I thought I was very lucky but when I told my 15 yr old daughter this, she asked "what's wrong w/him and why's he with you" ? I was shocked by her response. I 'm divorced and have 2 kids. I wanted to keep an open relationship w/her so I told her about him. I have to admit she hurt my feelings. She also has a problem w/him being Italian. She says we should date our own race! W'e're Puerto Rican. I know this is her father talking. I told her I married a Puerto Rican 17 yrs ago (her dad) and look at us now. She responded - so it didn't work out date another Latin man. The conversation got ugly. Not the way I planned it. I'd like to tak to her again, when I calm down. Any suggestions?

2007-06-20 04:29:35 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years. We have a 18 month old daughter who has to go to several diffrent therpist because she was preemie. Shes got a lot of catching up to do developmently so it makes alot of stress and work in our house.
My husband currently doesn't have a job and is working towards becoming a police officer. I stay at home with our daughter.
My husband won't pick up after himself. Its just simple stuff like his shoes or dirty clothes. Nothing hard just some to help me out a little bit. He doesn't want to do anything out daughters therpist say because it makes her cry. He would just rather let her do what she wants or give in to her tanturms so he doesn't have to deal with her crying. It not good for her.
Well today I got tired of not saying anything and I asked him to help me out and do what the therpist say because its for her beneifit. He basically sat there like he didn't care the said he wanted a divorce. I still love him. Please help???

2007-06-20 04:29:28 · 13 answers · asked by victoriabrandonoct22 2

I am a full-time working student and when my old friend from highschool who had two kids between her age of 18-20 'told' me I was the maid of honor for her budgeted wedding, I was a little excited. As it gets closer, I have seen the couple fight and the groom get socked in the face by my friend, mistreat eachother, and wonder if the money for the wedding could've been used on a down payment for a house so they could get their kids out of an apartment. I am supposed to be spending a lot of time and money here on my dress/presents. My question is, has anyone ever been in a wedding they felt the couple shouldn't be getting married, and were you part of it anyway?

2007-06-20 04:25:40 · 3 answers · asked by Wonderment 4

Okay, I have been dating my boyfriend for about 1 year now. We've known each other for about 5 years though. My parents are not very fond of him. They don't approve of him at all. His parents don't have any problem with me or us dating and all. My parents are really 'old-fashioned' and I'm starting to think that me and my boyfriend are going to end up getting married and things, and I don't know what my parents will think about it. I still want my relationship to be good with my parents, but I'm afraid if he proposes soon, they won't be fond of me! What should I do? Should I end my relationship with my boyfriend to keep my parents happy, or should I go with my heart and my parents just have to deal with it? help! and thank you! =]

2007-06-20 04:25:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok here is the deal... I fell in love with my GF...we got married behind everybody's back and told my parents about it last night... They flipped out.... Tonight going to the house to discuss it with them... I am IN LOVE with her and do antyhing for her... We are planning a real wedding next year, but we just wanted to marry each other this way cause we just feel the same about each other... Should i bring my wife with me to the parents house and discuss it or just me myself to my paretns. and then maybe bring her afterwards....

2007-06-20 04:20:06 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

why cant i feel loved? why cant i feel like i deserve it? iam married, we have our problems but i cant seem to get out of this hole i feel like iam....why do i care so much? wish just for one day i could put me first and not him!

2007-06-20 04:13:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do you let go of a relationship that is hazardous to your health? I've been had an affair for 5 yrs. I know, I'm the epitomy of a terrible person but you don't know the mental abuse I went through w/ my alcoholic husband. Anyway, I had an affair and fell in love w/ this man who treated me like a princess. I left my husband and moved out to my own house. The other guy helped me financially b/c I couldn't afford to leave on my own. The other guy turned out to be a control freak. He gave me a 10:00 curfew or pay the consequences. He broke into my house & went thru my things. He grabbed me by the throat. Anyway, stupid people like me believe it's all b/c he loves me so much. when my lease was up I moved in w/ him. He actually tried to make me sign a contract that I wouldn't listen to rap music & wouldn't park in a certain spot in the driveway. I moved out & went back home to the house that my husband & I shared b/c it's my house too (nothing between us) and the other guy has had it!

2007-06-20 04:05:50 · 4 answers · asked by budambassador 1

We were married for 6 years, I went on business trip amd my wife had an affair and eventually she left the hosue with my 3 sons 1 year old and 2-1/2 year old.
I still love her and saying to her Iw ill do anything to get her back. Not Just because I love her also because our Kids are so small they need momy and Dady togather.
She is saying she is not coming back. her parents her friends everyone is on my side but she is not listing.
I feel like hell with her lets move on but as soon as i look at my kids I want her back.
She is now saying we can be best friends but She is not comign back.
Can some one sugest a plan how can i try to bring her back home.. I trusted her so much that for sake of her I did not even make any other friend in last 6 years we worked togather we lived togather and traveled all over the world togather.
I am so devestated and I am willign to do anything to win her back...any and all sugestions are welcome

2007-06-20 04:03:04 · 16 answers · asked by SJ Grewall 1

I am from a very rich family...my parents r spending alot for me...but, i m in love with my mom's cousine...we married secretly..he can live without me and i cant...but, its bit abnormal in society to marry mom's cousine.....i dont want to give such insults to my parents..they dont deserve it...but, i love him a lot and we r already married......am i doing wrong? people will say bed...should i sacrifice our both's life for people?? i m in very mental pressure...plz advicee me....

2007-06-20 03:59:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

A friend of mine is receiving child support from her EX. His payments would be cut in half if she tells him about the big raise she got. Should she tell him?

2007-06-20 03:49:43 · 17 answers · asked by ♫Problem Child♫ 7

After few year marriage life, couple usually stop kissing (tongue kissing)why? when making love, how many couple do it with out kissing their wife or husband?

2007-06-20 03:45:34 · 19 answers · asked by sarah@520 1

I have been happily married for many years. I've never thought of cheating on my husband. We sold a house to a man, all I had to do was sign the papers, I hadn't met this man before. When we met, before even saying hello, my knees started to shake, my heart started having palpatations, I was sweating, and could only stutter. I affected him in some way also, he didn't speak to anyone but me, kept staring at me, and standing close enough to touch me. I haven't seen him since. I'm bumfuzzled as to what happened. I don't belive in reincarnation or anything like that. This will puzzle me to my dying day. I could have easily just climbed in his arms.... and I'm not like that!!!!Please let me know if anything has ever happened to you like that.

2007-06-20 03:43:36 · 10 answers · asked by ransomschoice 2

im 30, gf is 27. we are best friends and do everything together, same hobbies and get along great. however there is no passion and sex is barely ok. its like we are friends who have sex. we live together and she would have no where to go if we did break up. new woman is 37 w/ 2 kids, we have been friends for 6 months, kissing for 2. we havent had sex but have heavy makeout sessions. we have some things in comon but we have incredable passion, passion like i wouldnt believe existed if you told me about it. what my gf lacks in maturity and independance the new woman has. gf went back to college and we moved in to my moms house so we could afford school and rest of bills. i am bored and dont know if gf will make me happy in marrage, espically if I have already kinda cheated. gf and i quit smoking pot a year ago and since then our relationship has become a routine. i know the grass is always greener on the other side but am i crazy to want to leave gf for this new woman?

2007-06-20 03:39:50 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

And there's bad talk goin' around that Papa had two outside children, and another wife...(and that ain't right)

2007-06-20 03:32:35 · 5 answers · asked by Perky_gurl 4