Has anyone else ever had this experience?

Question

I have been happily married for many years. I've never thought of cheating on my husband. We sold a house to a man, all I had to do was sign the papers, I hadn't met this man before. When we met, before even saying hello, my knees started to shake, my heart started having palpatations, I was sweating, and could only stutter. I affected him in some way also, he didn't speak to anyone but me, kept staring at me, and standing close enough to touch me. I haven't seen him since. I'm bumfuzzled as to what happened. I don't belive in reincarnation or anything like that. This will puzzle me to my dying day. I could have easily just climbed in his arms.... and I'm not like that!!!!Please let me know if anything has ever happened to you like that.

Answer 1

It's called lust. It gets the best of us at times. You did good for not letting the impulse get the best of you. You just felt really attracted to him and it's normal. As a male I think the way he was acting is the way a lion would to his prey. When a male senses that a female is attracted to him he will " as you say " go in for the kill. He didn't speak to anyone else because he didn't have to. He had you exactly where he wanted you. Staring at you to see if he could get ANYTHING ELSE out of you. You experience the same type of feelings when you watch TV and you see Tom Cruise. It may not seem like it but think of how you would react if you saw him in PERSON, and he was close enough to TOUCH YOU, and he just kept STARING AT YOU. Now you see how your feelings come into play. Don't let this haunt your thoughts because it will tear you apart and possibly your marriage. You will begin to think of life with this man and forget your husband. Or you will think about him at the wrong time if you know what I mean.Just make sure you keep you family together and not let a stranger break up your happy home. I'm telling you this from experience. Stay Fresh

Answer 2

Yup! About twenty five years ago I met a lady who did the same to me. It was like in the movies, instant, intense, unbelievable.

I can't explain it other than to use a cliche that it's chemistry gone amok. I have no idea what made her so intensely attractive to me nor I to her.

Unlike you though, at the time I was separated, I divorced about a year later. So I had the freedom to pursue the opportunity which I did. This too was an incredible experience.

Being near her I was intensely happy, an intensity I'd never felt before and have never felt again since. I found myself hurting when I was away from her. A few times I even felt jealous, an emotion I generally feel is immature and destructive, and an emotion I simply never feel. The moments we were together were truly moments made in heaven. I would have died for her without hesitation.

It also wasn't lust. We didn't actually make love for about three months. It was enough to just date and get to know one another, in fact it was enough to just touch and be together. When we did finally succumb to our passions this too was an awesome experience.

Unfortunately though, in my case there was no happy ending. I don't know what was wrong with her, I did learn that two psychiatrists could never figure her out. She was poison to me. As intensly as I felt happiness, I also never in my life hurt so much emotionally either. I broke it off after six months, the swings between intense misery and intense happiness were just too much for me to bear. I couldn't cope with it at all.

We stayed in touch for a while and even briefly dated again. I knew that it was impossible to go back but for some reason my brain wasn't connected to my heart, making me try again. That failed too, I had to break it off again. A year later she committed suicide.

I've heard of such love before but I had never experienced it before that moment or since. I also learned that couples who have it together and experience these feelings do often succeed in forming a union that lasts for a lifetime. Alas, I wasn't among them though I can tell you I wished I were.

The other thing I found is that she burned herself so deeply in my soul I've never been able to forget her. Thankfully time has dulled the longing and the pain so I am able to remember today without suffering. It's clear though that this will never go away as long as I live.

I also don't regret the experience. I learned that day what the poets are always blathering about. I discovered the true meaning of love. I discovered why lovers will die for the one they love. I discovered the intensity of what it is to love. And I discovered that there is nothing in life more precious and poignant than love, it makes life come alive, it makes you walk about with an incredible radiance. It makes everything in the world possible.

And if she had not had a problem I might today have been telling you to for that opporutnity you have experienced. In fact you might still consider it. Though like me, you could be in for an unhappy surprise in the end, I can say getting there is pure heaven even when it doesn't work out.

Still, you're probably wise to have avoided it. In fact I really admire your strength and determination to resist. Had I still been married at the time, even happily, I'm not sure I would have been as strong as you, I suspect I might have gone for it anyway and consequences be damned. You're amazing to have resisted.

Answer 3

This happened to me about 1 month ago. I also didn't know what happened but I felt that if that man asked me to marry him I will leave my husband immediately. I felt extremely guilty about this and I prayed a lot because I really love my husband. I thought of him for days but then one day I woke up and felt NOTHING. It was just lust and it passes eventually. Today I cannot imaging being with him and not my husband. Be strong.

Answer 4

I believe in reincarnation because of that mainly. Yea there have been people that I feel almost and instant connection with and its too weird to not have ever known them.

Answer 5

I think we all have one or more of those moments along the way. It's just a connection you made with another person, somehow that happens occasionally and I don't think there is a real explanation for it.

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Answer 6

oYou are really attracted to him. That happens to me all the time! What I do is tell my husband about these feelings, and brush them off as a "crush" and I NEVER act upon them.

Answer 7

yea, when i first started in high school this girl asked me out, so i said yeah, then i met this other girl who wos hot!, i wanted to ask her out but i didn't want to hurt the other girl's feelings. so i kept away from the other girl and asked the hot one out, she said yeah, so try it, Ur older but i don't see y it wouldn't work. if u think he's Ur dream guy, then get him, hope this helped

Answer 8

chemical attraction. it happens sometimes. I had it happen to me many more times than when it was mutual.

Answer 9

bumfuzzled, lol i think you were just having a panic attack or something

Answer 10

Charish that, it doesn't happen often.