my husband and i have been seperated for 2 years but we talk every now n then. he wants a divorce but now he is having his girlfriend handle all his business. She is the one ive been talking to about the divorce and she brought me the papers to sign.and when i did see him he couldnt even look at me in my face. why is this
2007-06-20 04:31:24 · 16 answers · asked by beautiful 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lmao He is whipped - badly! the reason in which he cannot look at you is because of the guilt, embrarrassment, and love that he still feels feels for you. As far as letting her handle this issue - is he crazy? It doesn't pertain to her and I wouldn't do anything further until he himself can start taking care of his issues.
2007-06-20 04:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by lilbeamlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to attempt to answer your question I am just here to make a comment.
Being divorced twice I can truely say life hands us doo doo every now and then. But take heart my friend...The strange thing about the doo doo is in the end it often ends up in the face of the one who dished it out.
The hardest thing I have found about divorce has been,( that at least on my part,) is that someone else has been given the right to make descisions that should be entirely your husbands. When this woman does this to you it is like pouring salt into an already seeping wound. It seems disrespectful on his part to let her do you this way.
I was fortunate that I remained civil with my ex husbands. I tried to say little about our relationship, because I learned a long time ago that words can not be taken back. We say a lot in anger that we do not really mean...we do it to inflict pain on the other...
( Because if we inflicted pain the way we felt like doing we would go to jail for assult and battery with a deadly weapon hahahaha)but then down the road we sometimes discover that we never should have said something..and it's too late then.
As to the reason your husband can't look you in the eyes is it because he was with this woman while still with you...before you decided on divorce.
What so many men and women don't realize is that just because a couple is having problems in thier marriage, is not a free ticket for you to step in and make matters worse or cause more confussion. There would be a lot less divorce if people had a chance to work on thier marriage without input from the outside world, and influences from men and women with no common decency for marriage vows.
Well that's my opinion...and you know what they say ...everyone has one.
GOOD LUCK with your life and to finding something that makes you happy. Things won't seem bad forever.
When you go through divorce # 2, Then you can worry about just how bad things can get.
2007-06-20 04:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by nobodyspecial 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is calling all the shots now. She wants the divorce so he can be free to marry her. Sounds like hes whipped. Give him the divorce, chances are he might run from her when he gets the papers all signed, Maybe he didnt want to be married again?
2007-06-20 05:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real winner. Maybe he's scared to face you. Maybe the new gf is pushing for things in the divorce that she wants more than he does. Maybe he is just that busy and she doesn't mind doing it. But it sounds like she keeps his balls in a glass jar on her nightstand.
2007-06-20 04:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by Neka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously feeling insecure about you and wants you to know she is the one who is pushing the divorce. Her behavior is inappropriate. Your husband sounds embarrassed by her behavior, as he should be!!! He also might be using this new woman as a sword to hurt you. Regardless, sounds like you are better off.
Know you deserve better and don't them them make you feel ganged up on !
2007-06-20 04:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to grow a set. Tell him that since he is the one divorcing you, you only deal with him not his girlfriend.
2007-06-20 15:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is a gutless loser, hiding behind his girlfriend. Be happy to get rid of him. But when you sign the papers, tell his girlfriend that she is marrying a ball-less man.
2007-06-20 04:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not even want to get a divorce she might be pushing the envelope for him to divorce you
2007-06-20 04:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by mrsknowitall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you tell your husband that either HE brings you the papers or his lawyer sends them to you. His girlfriend should NOT be involved in any of it at all. If she brings you anything to sign you have the RIGHT to not accept it.
2007-06-20 08:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is a puussssy being led around by the nose.
2007-06-20 04:38:24 · answer #10 · answered by jazz41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋