If you put him through graduate school, stayed home with the kids and entertained so that he could get ahead, didn't advance your own career to help advance the family because it was best for everyone and your kids, cut the grass, took care of the house and his ailing parents so that he could focus on his career for the best interest of the family and you STILL wouldn't believe that you deserve a share of the net worth, not to mention that your kids shouldn't become poor because he has lost his mind, no matter even if temporarily while you go to school. and you would still say to let him go with all of the assets that you worked for?
And you wouldn't get your own lawyer to protect the furture of your kids? Thanks.
2007-06-20 04:35:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm a little confused but I say get your own lawyer, get a fair settlement for you and your kids and next time, remember that YOU are also part of the family and you can't just be a doormat.
2007-06-20 04:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I'm not the other woman, I am on marriage number 2, he is on number 3. If you CHOSE to not work and make a financial contribution to the family, You Chose to do all the household chores, no point in crying about it later. you made a choice, the past is gone. You are right he shouldn't leave with all the assets, perhaps half of the net worth, you should receive the other half, if your children are under 18, ask for child support, if you didn't work, being his wife and a woman you are probably entitled to an alimony payment. You should always have your own lawyer no matter what the circumstances. You cant say that you worked for the assets if in actuality you were a housewife, you looked after, cleaned, dusted, them but did not purchase them. My question is Why Does Divorce and Death Always End Up Being All About The Money?
2007-06-20 05:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear RMNow,
YES!! Get your own attorney. At the very least, one attorney for two sides of a divorce is a conflict of interest!! One attorney cannot represent two opposing interests. NOT POSSIBLE.
That said, I now strongly urge you to get all you can. This is, unfortunately, an unequal world. You will not be able to make up the time you have lost and the energy you put into your family and "catch up" to continue to live in the manner to which he hopes to keep you from having ever again.
Next time, love, DO NOT cut the grass. Just from what all you have done for him in the past, he is a good for nothing shiftless, lazy, selfish skunk that you are well rid of now.
Make sure that he pays for the kids through college!! Ask for 3 times what you know he can pay for child support so that you can get some negotiating room. Keep in mind that the child support guidelines are EXACTLY that - guidelines - you can, and should, ask for MORE.
Good luck.
2007-06-20 04:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. You were the Starter Wife. You were there to help him get up the ladder of success. But I'm not sure if he left you for another woman, or he's mad because you now want your rightful due and are going to school? Don't share an attorney get your own. Do NOT let him go with all the assets, you worked just as hard, if not harder, than he did. This is so sad that it's 2007 and women are still going through this bulls.hit. It's enough to want to kill someone, I swear. To do all that and then he leaves, trades you in for a younger model and she reaps the benefits of your hard work? UGH!!!!!!! This has never happened to me, but it infuriates me to no end. It's so painful to be hurt like that. But don't get mad, get his money. Sue his sorry a.ss and leave him broke. See if little miss whatshername wants him when his a.ss is driving a ford focus. Give em hell and good luck!
2007-06-20 04:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, your letter sounds like you were involved in an Abusive Relationship. You didn't know or realize it at the time and still probably are in denial. You need 'counseling'. Abusive isn't just physical. You were mentally, financially and emotionally abused and are now a product of 'Co Dependence'. You allow him to do everything 'for' you and accept it because that's what your use too. YOU ae not protecting the future of your children by using his attorney. There ARE attorneys' out there, that under certain situations, will consider Pro Bono assistance EVEN in Divorce situations. Get a hold of your local resource guide and check it out. He obviously 'ate' your 'self preservation' and 'all' your pride in order for you to believe and behave in a such a manner. God Speed Little Sister
2007-06-20 04:45:38 · answer #5 · answered by happy dream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the case above. Obtain Your own attorney and seek your fair share. Simple, protect Your Interest and not others. Selfish, yes, but in this case selfish is what it is about "protecting yourself"; it's not a bad thing in this particular instance.
2007-06-20 06:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by Adonai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving up your own career to allow your husband to further his was your decision and you are left with the consequences. Get your lawyer and get all you can!
2007-06-20 04:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman hater women will still argue that they can do it alone and you "should not have left your career behind so it is your fault." Ignore them.
Get all that you can, baby. Your kids will respect and appreciate you.
2007-06-20 04:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by jazz41 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he has committed adultery. You can divorce him and get half of his assets, child support and alimony. When you are married it is our net worth, not his or yours, but ours.
2007-06-20 04:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ivana Trump said it best in First Wive's Club...
DON'T GET MAD....GET EVERYTHING!!
Good luck!
2007-06-20 04:40:14 · answer #10 · answered by Beckie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋