Ok here is the deal... I fell in love with my GF...we got married behind everybody's back and told my parents about it last night... They flipped out.... Tonight going to the house to discuss it with them... I am IN LOVE with her and do antyhing for her... We are planning a real wedding next year, but we just wanted to marry each other this way cause we just feel the same about each other... Should i bring my wife with me to the parents house and discuss it or just me myself to my paretns. and then maybe bring her afterwards....
2007-06-20 04:20:06 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You two should go as a married couple.
You have chosen the woman that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with so be proud to have her at your side.
Your parents will learn to adjust to this situation.
Growing up is hard on everyone.
2007-06-20 04:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're married now. So now you two need to discuss this together and make the decision together. This is the first of many challenges you will face as a married couple.
What does she think? Does she think it is a good idea to go? Does she think it would be better if you spoke to your parents first alone?
This is your first test as a married couple. The way you handle it together could start to set the tone for how you handle future problems. Start out right - talk to each other, listen to each other and make the decision together. That alone will show your parents that you are serious.
No matter what happens with your parents, stand up for your wife. Your loyalty is to her now. If you don't back her up, she will forever be second to your parents and that is disasterous for a marriage.
Good luck.
2007-06-20 04:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy that is a tough one! Maybe you should go alone first to spare your wife any bad confrontation that might happen. People say things they don't mean in the heat of the moment then the words can't be taken back after everybody cools off.
Also, cut your folks some slack -- the marriage of a child is a really big deal and they probably feel like something was stolen from them. They will probably get over it in time. Just try to talk to them without being on the defensive. Maybe tell them that you didn't realize that it would hurt them and you are sorry. That will help diffuse their bad feelings.
Good Luck
2007-06-20 04:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by Busybake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you really love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her then you need to take her with you to your parents house. This is a hot topic with your parents right now and you and your wife both need to be able to express how the two of you feel towards each other to them so that maybe they will understand. And also this gives your parents the chance to say and maybe ask your wife the things that they need to know and hear from her to approve of this marriage. When you marry someone it is for better or worse and you are now one with each other. This is a tough situation and right now the two of you need to stand tall and proud next to each other. You will get through this and no matter what you have to remember now that you are married she is your #1 priority in life not you parents or how they feel. I wish the best for you and your wife. Good Luck!
2007-06-20 04:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! you must be very young, if you have to ask if you should bring your new WIFE to your parents house to get their approval. If you are old enough to get married you don't need anyones approval for your actions. YES take your new wife with you, you are now a couple and you MUST take responsability for your actions. You seem to me to be scared of your parents? what's that all about? are you legally married? and if so and you have consumated the marriage ( made love to your wife on the first night) then no one can stoip the marriage.( it can't be annulled) unless...you or your wife is under age. Good luck
2007-06-20 04:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would bring her. you loved her yesterday and you proved that by marrying her. so stand tall and let your parents know that there is nothing that they will say to change your mind. call in advance and let them dwell in it tho.let them know if they do or say anything to upset your wife,you will both be leaving. and they will have to deal with your decision. it will be ok. but i think ..in my oppinion only ..if you dont bring your wife with you.she will feel left out. and maybe hurt by the gesture . thinking that your parents dont approve of your decision to marry her. i could be wrong. but thats how i would feel..ps what really is there to discuss..its not like you or anyone can take it back..let your parents know that your decision stands..let them know you didnt do it to make anyone feel bad..but it was something you both knew deep in your hearts was the right thing. could help soften the blow of the angry wolves on the other side of the door...lol..good luck
2007-06-20 04:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by nunya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 04:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by courcelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you kids always rush into things..yea I was "in love" when I was 17..when I was 24 I realized it was lust. good ruck kids. what kinda job do u have to support your new wife? where do u live? playing house at a young age can be very bad for you. You should've waited..cause IF you're in love then 1 year aint so long to wait..u needa good job, a home, car..etc. Do u have all that stuff? IF not..then ure rushing into stuff. How long have u and wife dated before married? Maybe u got married to piss everyone off. Go to your parents by yourself...why drag the girl into a "mess" good ruck though!
2007-06-20 04:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by rogerbondage007 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bring her with you. You are married now and partners, and she should be there when you talk with your family, which is hers now too. And if your parents say anything to upset her, leave. Let your parents know that you are serious about this marriage and let your wife know that she ( and this marriage) is more important to you than getting your parents to accept it. And your parents will eventually accept it. They may be hurt that they didn't know about the wedding, but it will pass.
2007-06-20 04:26:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her with you. You must show a united front from the beginning. If you dont your parents will always think they have control of you and your life. Start putting your wife first now. Grow up and be a man and take her with you. Let me know how it works out
2007-06-20 09:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by yougood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋