Here goes..Me n my LDR (long distance relationship) B/F hav known each other about a 1yr N hav been dating about 6months of it.He's an X-Marine of 8years N just now has started skool agin(which i think is great).Even tho he had told me tat he wasnt lookin 4a relationship at the time, 4months later we start'd datin.Everything has been goin great,but recently the LD has been wearin on me.I miss him horribly,we've seen each other 4x's in 11months N he's been goin to skool the whole time.Once he starts a semester he doesnt have very much time 2talk 2me(which is all we hav,tat N the internet).Im not blamin him or sayin tat its his fault, but we'd hav 2wait at least 4yrs b4 we could B 2gether.N i just met this guy this past weekend tat seems really sweet N Im slightly intrigued by him.So i told my B/F we need'd a break 2figure out wat we're goin 2do about our relationship.I think i did the rite thing,(But did i?)i dont want 2endup cheatin on him.How long should i take this break?What now?
2007-06-20 05:09:40 · 9 answers · asked by la_bluegrrl02 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when i say cheatin i dont neccesarily mean have sex wit this guy. And im almost certain that im attracted to this guy b/c 1. he IS good-lookin and 2. i miss the physical attention and flirting
2007-06-20 05:24:16 · update #1
Break? You're not taking a break! You're testing out how the other guy works before dumping the LDR!
Be mature about it and let your LDR go.
2007-06-20 05:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, whatever you do, don't cheat with the new guy until you've broken up with the old one. You'll be doing the right thing, and preserving your self-respect and making yourself a better partner for whomever you end up with in the end.
Basically, though, how long you take a break does not matter. Think about it really carefully. Do you really think the LDR is worth it? Is it going to work? Do you really, truly love this man? If so, then forget cheating and forget the break. Commit yourself and make it work. If you really know that it WON'T work and you really DON'T love your LDR guy, then break it off now before you both hurt more than you already do. The sooner you get it over with, the sooner BOTH of you can move on with your lives and find someone more suitable. If you are not sure, then maybe you should break up anyway and ALSO not get it on with the new guy either. Your uncertainty may just mean that you are not ready for a relationship with anyone. Think about it, and make the right choice. You'll be glad you did. Good luck!
2007-06-20 05:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, you're checking to see if the grass is greener on the other side. Break it off with the LD guy. It isn't working out or you would not have pursued this other interest.
2007-06-20 05:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely did the right thing. Other people asking questions here could learn from your actions. Take a break for as long as it feels right, but don't be surprised if your boyfriend is not there if you decide to get back with him.
2007-06-20 05:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LD may be the right guy just at the wrong time. Explain to him that you can't handle the LD thing. Be honest.
2007-06-20 05:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by K B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you did almost the right thing. Just break it off with teh LD bf.
2007-06-20 05:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by Neka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already made up your mind...let the LD go!
2007-06-20 05:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not cheating. You did good. Who knows what he's doing over there.
2007-06-20 05:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you remember that old song? Love the one you're with!
2007-06-20 05:36:02 · answer #9 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋