This guy i know at my sports center is always teasing me in a nice way that makes me laugh at myself, and saying nice things to me too, and keeping his eye on me and likes to stand up close behind me. One day at lunch there was a bunch of us eating and he wouldn't talk to me. He didn't even look at me till someone else talked and then he joined in. talks about divorcing his wife. I don't say anything as i don't want to be party to any of that but i am just wandering if he really likes me or just flirting for his ego. He asks me questions and we find we have so much in common. I feel all nice when he is around. I find i can open up with him in a way i can't with other men. I feel so comfortable and he even said he feels he has known me a long time though we just met 5 months ago. what is going on in his head..i know, i know...who really knows, but you know..i just want some speculation and thoughts and maybe some one has had these things going on inside of them too and can clue me in..
2007-06-20 12:21:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Coming from a guy, since he is "talking about divorce" he is probably just going through a really tough time with his own marriage. He needs his ego stroked I am guessing as most men do when they are not confident in themselves.
I would suggest that you leave this one alone and don't give him any positive feedback to your advances. I almost guarantee that there is one extremely hurt wife attached to this one.
He is not being sincere. Tell him stop immediately because it makes you feel uncomfortable.
2007-06-20 12:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by Fallen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie...move on! He's a flirt!!!! He probably behaves this way with other attractive women. Give yourself the respect you deserve. A REAL MAN will be shamefully obvious he's into you. He'll call you the next day even though the protocol says to wait a week (who wrote that moronic dating bible anyways?). He'll look into your eyes when he's talking to you. Pay you genuine, very personal compliments. There are no games. If this guy has been playing with you like this for some time, he's not serious. He would have asked you out by now.
Show him what he's missing by moving on. And for effect, laugh, giggle, and flip your hair around him. Show him you know you've got it with or without him!!!
Be blessed sister friend!
2007-06-20 19:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by Freakin Out! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said something about him getting a divorce. That is the way for you to engage him in a private conversation. Start by offering him your sympathy and asking if there is anything you can do for him without talking about your feelings.This personal yet distant conversation will give you the opportunity to evaluate where he is coming from as well as allow you to think about what you want to do and how to do it. One word of caution though!Make sure of his marital status before you get involved if you find out that you like him.
2007-06-20 19:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let time pass because it is way too soon to tell if he is for real. When men talk about divorcing they know it is a way of attracting women. Dont rush things but dont trust him completely. Time will tell. Also listen to what he says very careful, this type of men says thing between lines. Just be careful. This will give time to you to know what you really feel and also time for you to know what he really wants with you.
2007-06-20 19:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by Gila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's unhappy in his current marriage, this doesn't mean that he's looking for a replacement. Yes, he makes you feel good about yourself, as you probably make him feel good about himself as well.
But I would take this as just a mild flirtation and not make any more of it. Because if he does in fact leave his wife, you don't want to be the rebound that he turns to. He might just be playing on your sympathies and trying to get you to fool around with him while he remains married.
2007-06-20 19:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's having problems in his marriage. He's looking for comfort elsewhere. He's able to reel you in like that because he's been married and living with a woman for awhile now. He knows what to say, what to do, and how you will react to his every move. He's playing you honey. He's just looking for some lovin' and then he's going to go back to his wife. Flirt to your heart's content, but don't go beyond that.
2007-06-20 19:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by Kam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine you are his wife-your hubby is out at hockey, she has no idea he's thinking about divorce .. how would you feel if you knew he was out trying to pick up another woman?
2007-06-20 19:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by mathma2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he likes you. All you really have to do is ask him at the right time. If its really bothering you, let him know. You said you can open up pretty well to him, then do it.
2007-06-20 19:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's married. He doesn't know what he wants but you should be sure that you don't want hi. He sounds great but he's married. Never a good situation and you don't want to be his rebound girl.
2007-06-20 19:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by PK211 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's feeding his ego to me, but I don't know the whole situation. Use your instinct.
2007-06-20 19:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by Nonexistent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋