What is wrong with these women?

Question

i have been reading some of these women with marriage problems and im sad and the answers from other women are even more depressing. I mean have women became so selfish and uncaring to men and children? I can remember my mother and father had problems but they worked it out for me and my sisters at least till we were all grown. It seems that the "2 paychecks are better than one" has outnumbered the "till death do us part" and "for better and worst"
I mean im no angel im divorced but my ex wife did not want to work at anything and maybe im a little one sided but it seem with the women of today early 20's and 30's if something gets a little tough they give up so easy
someone that is objective answer this for me?

great input guys and gals i was suprised with these intelligent answers
i left this out but i do think there are good women out there and some that work their butts off to save marriages and i have a lot of respect for a woman that does

good point msberrypicker i respect that answer but i am not guilty and i said i was no angel but one can only do what one can do i took my vows but at the same time i respected her wishes but very good answer i like it

lol im am from the south lol and like i said my mother and father stayed to together and they've both said they didnt like each other at the time but they loved being with their kids and giving their kids a father and mother more than each other and i will always respect them both for that selfsacrifice

Answer 1

I think to say it is women of today is a little narrow. Unfortunately, it is the "couples" of today. I know that I am in a very similiar boat right now. My husband of the last 15 years moved out on May 6 filed for divorce on May 18. I have been fighting tooth and nail to recover my husband and my marriage, and he at this point says he wants to work on things. But he refuses to drop the divorce which means that if I don't get an attorney and defend myself by July 17 I lose everything. I keep trying to explain that to him and that if he is serious about working on this he needs to drop the suit. I am starting to think now he is just stringing me along trying to leave me holding the bag. I hope I am wrong because I love my husband and our children and I want my marriage to work. We do have a counseling session scheduled for July 2nd. We are still living apart but talk almost daily (because of me) and are intimate usually once a week (because of both of us). So, it is not just women that view marriages as disposable or as not worth fighting for. It is everyone.

Answer 2

I can see your point, but it is the same way with men. We have become such a throw away society that I guess it is intruding on relationships. I am also divorced. I am ashamed everyday that I look at my kids. I have remarried and I am happier than ever. This time however I was older when I got married and knew what I wanted and what it would take. I for the most part believe in the "old ways" of relationships and rising children, but yes I screwed up. I believe morals are being easily forgotten to go and find something better or new. I bet you'll find with this question there are still people who can tell as a whole people aren't taking marriage and family as serious. Good Question.

Answer 3

What specifically are you referring to--women who respond "Just leave him!" and similar things like that? I do my best to urge families to stay together...unless, of course, something happens that seems abusive. When a couple has problems, the last thing one needs to do is leave for good, but sometimes it's good for them to take a break to see just how they feel about each other.

When a couple lives together, it's impossible to see how great the other person is. All we see is how they leave the cap off the toothpaste and mess up the bathroom. Once they live apart, it's easier to see what they fell in love with to begin with. And then when they get back together, sometimes it's easier to overlook the things that we thought we couldn't live with.

I know marriage is rough! I've been doing everything in my power to make my own marriage better, and we've been together as a couple over 20 years! I think it's something that we can never settle down with. There IS no easy answer whatsoever. People think once you get married, things get easier. That is so not true! There are times when you're just starting to get used to living with each other, times when they annoy you, and times when you know they're the only person on earth for you.

But marriages don't always work out because people have different agendas. If on top of that you feel that someone doesn't love you, then all of a sudden all bets are off.

Answer 4

The unfortunate situation is that marriage is not spelled with a capital "M" anymore. It's not a lifelong commitment, as it should be, it's a "neat romantic gesture" with common and easily-available "Exit" doors, marked before you even get inside.

I wish it was the same, too. I am 32 and not married because I do not want to fail at it, but the times are different now, that's for sure, so my odds are poor of ever getting married and not facing a divorce. I am waiting for the right woman ,in what marriage really is, before I do anything even close to going in that direction.

>>Any women out there a bit old-fashioned with their understanding of what marriage really is supposed to have always meant? Email me! It would jsut be good to know that there are really people out there that don't even consider divorce an option. <<

Answer 5

I feel like if you're miserable in a marriage and you have done everything (counseling - individual and couples, etc) and it still doesn't work, you're better off being honest with yourself and your children by ending the relationship. I would be no good to my kids to stay in a marriage just for the sake of appearing to be happy. Kids know more than you think, and we tried to make it work for the kids, but I knew in the long-run that if we couldn't make it work, I needed my kids to know that making yourself happy lends to a better more fulfilling life. My kids are young and have adapted beautifully to the divorce.

Not to say this wasn't the most heart-wrenching decision I've ever made, and not to say the kids didn't/haven't had rough days, but I don't regret getting a divorce for one instant. My ex and I get along fine now and as long as the kids see that we can have a civil, normal relationship then they're going to be fine.

Happy parents make happy kids.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

One of the reasons I posted a question on here was because I'm out of answers, my husband refuses to go to marriage counseling and I'm afraid that our marriage will end...so I'm hoping for advice from other married couples in order to make my marriage better. It isn't that I'm wanting to or even willing to give up...but when the word divorce starts coming out of anyone's mouth, its a slippery slope...so I am trying to head it off at the pass. I repsect the sanctity of marriage and want to be with my husband, we just have to learn how to work through our hardships, not just leave when things are tough.

Answer 8

I agree. The feminist movement has made women feel like they 'deserve' to be treated a certain way regardless of how the woman acts and treats others. It's ridiculous. Women get so caught up in being the 'downtrodden woman' that they forget that perhaps they aren't being very loving and caring toward their men. Women forget that men do have feelings. Women want to emascualte their men, want them more sensitive and bla bla bla, but then blame everything on the man when it goes wrong. I totally agree with you.

Answer 9

you sided this all towards woman. when two people marry their is a man and a woman. when a marriage works or doesn't, it is because both people were involved in the discision. so with this said, you are just as guilty in your divorce as your wife was. she may not of tried, but you allowed it to happen. why didn't you make it work? what happen to till death do us part?

Answer 10

The 2 paycheck idea has left the kids home alone to often thus the kids don`t get the direction they need at a young age.