Why does Married couples seem to change when they get married? Did yours???
2007-06-20 11:34:05 · 8 answers · asked by LEANN 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I don't know what changes you are talking about, but yes life changes....relationships evolve, nothing stays the same. Life has a way of taking over, the bills, the kids, the responsibilities....it's much better to enter into marriage thinking you are going to WORK at it to make it a good one than to think, "happily ever after." a good marriage takes work from both people.
2007-06-20 11:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only reason why married couples change when they get married is because they should have never been married!
They don't even know what marriage is.
This happens constantly. At a very young age, they meet each other and THINK they're in love. A couple of months later, many times because she's pregnant or because they would have a place to live or because they would have two paychecks, instead of one, etc.. they decide to get married.
NOW THEY GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER!
Imagine, making a commitment to spend the rest of your life, till death do you part with someone you don't even know? Well, never blame it on the word marriage. It's the idiots that totally disrespect what marriage even is. It is getting destroyed in this world and the children are suffering to grow up and do the same thing to their children.
Marriage is LOVE. When you love each other so incredibly that you could never be apart. Like me and my husband. We met at age 33 and we were married 5 years later. We both knew exactly what we wanted and both knew we found it the second we layed eyes on each other, but we rushed into nothing. After we were married, it only got better. We are both so happy and we have a wonderful life now for 13 years. Believe me, it could happen.
2007-06-20 18:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If both people are putting 100% in the marriage then neither one of them will change. If they both love each other and continue to do the small stuff and put the effort into the relationship than things more than likely will continue to run smoothly. I have noticed that the people that go into a marriage half *** are the ones that end up getting a divorce. Some times things are just out of control and that happens but marriage is some thing you need to work on every day!!
2007-06-20 18:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly_2blue 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The problem is complacency. People gradually lose respect for those they love because they are comfortable in the relationship. How many married guys do you know who still open the door for their wives. It is such a simple gesture but there is no need to impress your spouse with your character since you have already won their love. Same goes for the wife going to bed un~sex, she thinks "why the bother since I know he will sleeping with me". I try & tell people that habits can be bad & stick you in a rut where no growth occurs.
2007-06-20 18:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Did mine.... friends did they now us's rather than jon and so and so and things like that they a family unit... which is why being single at 33 is hard when friends married you can't take them out as wife says bring him back by...... and they have to be..or else... like i'd lead them astray.... was always other way round till that ring was there
2007-06-20 18:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone changes with time we grow, and this is a good thing. Yes mine changed I stood up to my husband and told him I'm tired of being your slave for the last 30 years, do not feel sorry for me I woke up thank goodness!!!!
2007-06-20 18:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You grow as does your marriage. Don't be afraid of change. Sometimes change is for the better. Not always, but sometimes.
2007-06-20 18:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by hunting4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope, it just got better and better and better!
2007-06-20 18:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋