Marriage & Divorce - 8 June 2007

The law firm that had the contraverial 'Life is Short. Get a Divorce' billboard up has now taken to advertising on the sides of trucks. The advertising has a woman in lingerie and a man's muscular body exposed. Do you think they're making light of a serious problem Americans have, or do you think people are making too much of an innocent advertisment?

2007-06-08 04:33:19 · 36 answers · asked by razor_sharp_redhead 3

My wife left 4 weeks ago after an abortion. She started screaming at me and the kids that nobody was taking care of her. Basically losing control. I had to physically remove her from my son’s room because she was yelling terrible things like “I just got my guts ripped out for this family and nobody is cleaning up the house!” Right in front of the kids. I know she was emotional but you just can’t take it out on children like that. She accused me of abusing her when I had to get her out of the kids room, she packed, and then she left. Told me she wanted a divorce and all this by email. Told me what she wanted out of the house. I didn’t agree with what she wanted and emailed her back to tell her I loved her so why doesn’t she calm down and come back. No communication from her in 3 weeks…..none. No attorney calling me, no email telling me when she’s moving out….nothing. It’s really bizarre. It’s like she vanished. I do see her car around every so often but other than that no communication. However she seems to want to see me in the morning because she waits at this convenient store up the street when I leave for work but I just avoid her and drive on. I haven’t gotten an email, note or anything from her in like a month. It’s so weird. She’s staying with family and I told them what happened that she got an abortion and she drinks a lot when down so they need to watch her. What do I do if she’s totally not communicating? I tried to email her but got nothing back. It’s the weirdest thing I’ve ever experienced. Just two weeks before she left I was the love of her life. Then when I couldn’t wait on her hand and foot after the abortion she lost it and told me I loved the kids more. Well they’re kids and they need food, attention, and someone to wipe their nose. I did go in every hour to check on her to see if she needed anything and brought her dinner. I don’t know what else I could have done. Now…..nothing. she’s gone. Totally. No communication. Nothing. What do I do?

2007-06-08 04:24:19 · 21 answers · asked by survivor 1

So my boyfriend and best friend of ten years has decided to take a break and I told him no and that I would rather just break up. I'm so sick about it. I can't do anything, I can't focus. When will I begin to feel normal again? I love him but I didn't want to take a break because we tried this before he goes out as much as he wants, yet we aren't allowed to see other people, we still talk everyday and say I love you, but we can't hang out. Those are his rules and they do not make any sense to me. I feel like he just doesn't want to be with me anymore and is trying to take the easy way out. I just want to get over him, I don't want to sit on a break for weeks wondering what his decision is going to be. If feels as though he has all the power. It's going to be hard for the past ten years I have talked to him every single day. How will I get through this by myself. How can I prevent myself from calling me? If he really does love me he will come back even if I broke up with him right?

2007-06-08 04:12:21 · 17 answers · asked by Lily 2

2007-06-08 04:04:45 · 46 answers · asked by booboo 1

This may seem daft, but I wish my husband would notice me like he used too. I know that after a few years the passion can subside, but I do miss it.

He just seems utterly blind to me as a sexual woman with needs. We only make love once or twice a month. We have been together 5 years.

Other men notice me, and it gives me a buzz, but I wish my husband would look at me in the same way! A gorgeous guy at work has made it clear he is attracted to me and it makes me feel warm and giddy, like my husband used too. I would not do anything, but I fear that the lack of love and attention from my husband will one day drive me into someone elses arms.

I am open about how I feel, but I dont think he see's the problem. I am currently loosing weight to regain my self confidence, but have not told him, I want to see if he starts to notice me again.

Ladies, I know alot of you out there have felt this way at some point during your married lives. Do you have any advice for me?

Many Thanks

2007-06-08 03:51:13 · 0 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband & I are having marital problems. Things seem to be fine when out of no where he picks fights, resulting in ignoring each other & being resentful. He tries to spin situations around, but I know the truth & don't allow for these mind games. During our most recent confrontation concerning problems in the marriage he continuously boasted (with arms stretched on back of couch) about how great he is, even using these words to describe himself; great, fantastic & even perfect. I asked him if he thinks I should bow down to him, he said yes! Now I know any decent human being wouldn't feel the need to announce their "greatness" but am some what confused as to why he felt he had to convince me he was this great person. Is he trying to sell me on this I'm so fantastic attitude? B/c I'm not buying it! Can anyone tell me why? Possible signs of bipolar? My profile tells more. If there's anyone who can seriously help me, my email is available. Thank you to anyone that can help- Lauren

2007-06-08 03:43:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

The situation is complicated. My husband and I got married and had our first child last year--just after we started dating so we weren't ready for it. He also has two kids to whom he is *supposed* to be paying child support to. He is actually trying to get a job and it isn't his fault he lost his last one but he's pretty behind now. I'm confident he'll find work soon however, I'm not sure he'll keep his job long. He has a long history of quitting jobs.
The other issue is that he has 25,000 in student loans and only has a 2 year degree. He has tried continually to go back to school but fails all his classes. He barely managed to get his 2 year degree and had exactly a gpa of 2.0.
I have tried to explain to him that he should wait to go back to school and save up some money, as we have no money, lots of debt and are still living with my parents. He won't listen and says if he doesn't do it now, he never will. He doesn't function well and probably needs some medication that he won't

2007-06-08 03:42:37 · 11 answers · asked by alfeebester 3

I know he was divorced in Lewiston, Maine but there are so many court houses I don't know which one I go to.

2007-06-08 03:41:35 · 9 answers · asked by kinky_werewolf 2

okay..am i dumb?
My husband left 3 months ago, and wants a divorce.I think that he thought that women would be falling all over him, and they are not.I saw him out with a neighbour who he has had sex with, but she has a boyfriend too, and he says that they are just friends, but also says that they may hook up, and this women is a slut.
My husband tells me he still loves me,cares for me etc,we have 3 kids too.We have had sex a few times since he left too,and are still attracted to each other. He says that we may get back together,but maybe not, he is not sure, but is filing for divorce still.
Heres my question,is he just stringing me along?He knows that i love him very much, and will wait for him,will he come back?will he live wih this other woman?i guess maybe im just venting,but what are the odds of them getting together,and staying together,she is a cheat, and a liar,and im heartbroken that my man wants that in his life,were together 12 years.

2007-06-08 03:20:51 · 12 answers · asked by lolly 1

2007-06-08 03:20:47 · 15 answers · asked by bud 1

I recently found out that my friend's ex-wife filed a temporary restraining order against him when she filed for divorce. Is this normal for someone to do in a divorce/custody situation?

2007-06-08 03:20:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-08 03:18:25 · 12 answers · asked by bud 1

My husband has never really placed much importance on "occasions" but has certainly never forgotten one before. I reminded him about our 10th wedding anniversary as I truly think it is important and would like to have done something special..... I had a feeling he was going to forget anyway...and he did. I was surprisingly disappointed. But he thinks it is not an issue at all and has done nothing to even apologise or attempt to redeem himself in anyway. He is making no effort at all, and that makes it even worse !
Am I wrong to have feel let down?

2007-06-08 03:16:23 · 37 answers · asked by Nix R 1

i am recently married and my husband has been doing things, or not doing things rather that bothers me. also saying things or not saying things. i vent to my female co-workers. they always seem to tell me that my husband is insecure. so my question is....what are the behaviors of insecure men? if they match my husband after i read your answers....what can i possibly do to deal with his insecurity???? please help, my marriage depends on it. serious answers only please.

2007-06-08 03:16:19 · 12 answers · asked by jenni 2

A couple that we were friends with whose wife left him "to find myself" but turns out actually left him for a man she had seen secretly for 6 months before are now separated. I am having a party for one of my kids. I want to invite HIM to come with their son. I don't want her there.

". . .being judgmental, blah, blah, blah..."
It is not being judgmental. I just don't want to be around her. May infect everyone else to believe that what she did is OK.

2007-06-08 03:14:17 · 13 answers · asked by tiaburkeangry 1

How you personally feel about porn is not an issue. I find porn to be a form of cheating, DH knows this and promised not to look at it again on-line. I went into the den this AM and porn was up on the monitor. I'm ANGRY, hurt and insulted. We've gone round and round on this issue. We've been married almost 15 years and have 2 kids. I find his lack of respect (this is the only thing I've asked of him) for me to be a deal breaker. So here's the question- do I allow him to continue with empty promises and hollow apologies or do I put my foot down and boot his butt out the door?

2007-06-08 03:12:50 · 9 answers · asked by mommyof2greatkids 2

Met a guy from another state this past weekend. We were both on vacation and he really seemed to like me. We shared a few nice kisses, but nothing else. He gave me a rose and said I had a piece of his heart (which is BS but the rose was very sweet). Then he wrote me down his number and asked for mine. He asked if this was really my number, I told him if I didn't want him to call me I would tell him so. I was leaving the next morning and the way we said goodbye was rushed and awkward. So three days later I had him on my mind and i just bit the bullet and called. I am an adult and figured I am just gonna be the one to call. I wanted to leave on a better note and by telling him that made me feel good. He was very sweet and glad I called. He said he wants to meet me again. Then he says I'll call you in a couple MONTHS!? I was so blown away by that I just said bye and threw his number away so I will never call him back. Strange right? Whats up with that is he married? MONTHS???????

2007-06-08 03:05:29 · 23 answers · asked by Maria 5

I'm hearing reports from veteran married folks, that even though a guy doesn't say so, he loves it when his wife calls him every day even though neither has anything much to say, and they love it when their wife is stuck to them like glue and is there at every turn the hubby makes. So, I get scolded everytime my hubby and I am not together. He's cool with it, but by others. Apparently I'm supposed to literally think of him as the other half of my body; and well, as u know, it's hard to live w/o half of ur body, and so u tend not to. I don't know how to shut other well wishers up. I and my mate are fans of personal space, but others make us stick together because there's time for personal space 20yrs down the line. Why should I think about 20yrs now? Am I wrong to not want to be with my man ALL the time? Is he wrong for feeling the same way? Why do others have a problem with the way we feel? Insights would be appreciated, thanks. Would not sticking to him like super glue now be grounds

2007-06-08 03:00:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My buddy's wife went on vacation last week with a couple of her girls. When she got back, she told him they met a few guys on the trip and they hung out at a club. She of course told him it was just drinks and dancing and even showed him pictures of the trip including these guys. Most people would be ok with that, but his wife had an emotional affair 6 months ago with a co-worker and he still doesn't completly trust her.

Also, I guess they e-mailed each other since the trip (one of the guys), but she told him about that too. Should he be worried
?

2007-06-08 02:56:40 · 13 answers · asked by tHEwISE 4

Is this possible????

2007-06-08 02:54:12 · 27 answers · asked by snowhepburn 2

he left me last may, telling me to put our home up for sale! he never returned to pick anything up! i had to sort out everything! we had three dogs, and i have a son, from my first marriage. nows hes trying to say i had an affair with my ex-husband,that i was only married to him for money, that i was abusive towards him, and trying to make out he's the perfect angel. he's now trying to divorce me, he wants to claim costs, part share in my new home, shares in my pension and is trying to rip my life apart now! what can i do??

2007-06-08 02:49:13 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

I realy love him. but I have my reasons
1. I am not ready
2. I don't trust him
3.I am afraid HIV

2007-06-08 02:43:57 · 17 answers · asked by Lucky 1

How much do I have to pay in court to file? Im not getting a divorce yet but I want sole custody of my son he's 4 months old

2007-06-08 02:36:03 · 9 answers · asked by Jilliana C 1

I've heard arguments that it enhances marriages, especially the sex life within a marriage. I've also heard arguments that it detracts from the same. I'm looking for married people on Y! Answers to weigh in with their opinions. One-liner response answerers need not bother.

2007-06-08 02:26:41 · 33 answers · asked by Scotty Doesnt Know 7

Again, my husband and I filed for divorce. We separated our bank accounts. Since we have a child, he's still paying the mortgage and child support. He comes over to mow the yard and fix up the house. I can also call him to talk and we do talk when he calls for the child.

If we are still in each other's lives, what is really going to change? Will things be this way forever? I just want to know what to expect once the divorce is final.

2007-06-08 02:13:44 · 15 answers · asked by blue eyes 2

How did you know you wanted to marry the person? What had you needed to accomplish in life before you wed? Did you know you were ready or hoped for the best? Just curious and would like to hear about everyone.

2007-06-08 02:06:44 · 12 answers · asked by Low Pro 1

I'll be 32 next month and my girlfriend is 19. We have been together for two years and I am thinking of taking this relationship to the next step. We have talked about this 13 years gap but she insisted that she prefers older men than young men and she is looking forward for my birthday next month.

We share a lot in common and we always have a great laugh. She always ask me when I'm going to marry her and have my babies. I want to settle down with her but I'm concerned with her age. Age does not matter to me but I'm worried that if we settled down and probably have babies, later she might leave to experience life or cheat on me. What do you think guys?

2007-06-08 02:02:57 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was to be married this July and I took the ring off and cancelled marrying him or moveing in because I miss understood thought he did not want to marry so I hung up on him. The he showed up at my door knocking and begging me and I would not listen. His mom says he loves me with all his heart and she loves me and my kids too. My friends however say let it go. So why am I missing him today? Am I wrong?

2007-06-08 01:58:37 · 12 answers · asked by me 2

Yes, I asked this question a couple of days ago, but only got a few responses and would like more thoughtful input...

Okay, my brother and his wife decided a long time ago to not have childern. My brother goes and gets clipped, problem solved, right? Wrong, 14 years later and two attempts at a reversal later, they want to have a child. So they ask me to donate sperm and I am okay with this, but they do not want to pay the doctor fees, they just want me to have sex with her until she gets pregnant, and my brother is okay with this!! He said that since I was his brother and it was not some kind of affair. Am I just being too old fashioned to not want to have sex with my sister in law even though it is just to help them have a baby? She is very attractive, so no comments about how she looks.

2007-06-08 01:45:18 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

The Church instituted marriage and monogamy.
Looking at divorce figures, marriages are in trouble.
Since prehistoric man until recent history men had many women, like most animals today. Is marriage Natural?

2007-06-08 01:33:09 · 33 answers · asked by Hector of Troy 3