I realy love him. but I have my reasons
1. I am not ready
2. I don't trust him
3.I am afraid HIV
2007-06-08 02:43:57 · 17 answers · asked by Lucky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do not have to do anything you don't want to. If he can't respect that, then he's not worthy of you. Stand your ground and drop this guy.
2007-06-08 02:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your question has nothing to do with marriage & divorce, but I'll answer it anyway.
That's not how a boyfriend should be. He should respect you and not coerce you into having sex, when he knows you aren't ready for it. By the way, are you even 18 ? And if he truly loves you, he would still want to love you and talk to you, not give you the silent treatment and pout like a spoiled brat who doesn't get what he wants.
And if you have trust issues with him, or fear that he may give you AIDS, then it's an indication of problems in your relationship. Personally, with all these things working against you, I think you're right to hold off. When you make love to someone, it should be with the right person, for the right reasons, without a shadow of a doubt that you're ready and it's what you want to do..
2007-06-08 04:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the first important thing in a relationship. If there is no trust there is nothing. All 3 of your reasons tell me that you really don't love him. If you truly loved someone making love with him would be something you would be looking forward to and you would be ready. HIV is something you have to be careful of but if you really wanted to make love with him and he wore a condom that would be ok but I don't think this is the guy for you. Good luck.
2007-06-08 04:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by Sheila B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not make love to any boy or man when you know it is not right. The worst thing a woman can do is have sex to early on with a man. It takes away the mystery and he has no reason to get to know her any further.
I don't know if you thought about this or not. This male that you are calling a boyfriend, is telling what he wanted you for in his actions. He wanted you just for sex. Now that he is not getting is, he has moved elseware. A man that truly wants to get to know you will wait. He might try to coax you to in the intimate direction but he will repect your wishes and wait. He will continue to call you and do things with you. A man just wanting sex will do just as your boyfriend has done. He will move on. So to all you inexperienced ladies reading this, wait to have sex. It is the best test to find out if a man really like you.
Your boyfriend has done you a favor in not talking to you any longer.
2007-06-08 03:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should wait to have sex until you are married. Secondly why are you with a guy you don't trust? That is one of the most important things to have in any relationship. And if you aren't ready and he keeps pushing you, dump him! He's only thinking about himself and what he wants. I know saying no to someone you really love is hard, i'v been there but you have to think about you and what you want from a relationship and if sex isn't it right now, it's time to get out and move on.
2007-06-08 02:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No-don't do it, don't do it, don't do it! You aren't ready and you will regret your decision forever. You say you really love him and that is great. But, if he truly loves you, he'll wait until you are ready. Guys get really hung up on this-maybe his friends are pushing him. Stand your ground-he is going to do one of two things-he'll either leave you and, if that happens, he doesn't really love you (this will be hard to take but you'll look back and be glad you made this choice-a real man will be in your future) or he'll get over it and respect your decision. I hear all the time of young girls having sex before they are ready because they thought they loved their boyfriends and who thought their boyfriends loved them only to find that they were wrong-and gave up something that they wished they could take back. My husband says (and there are plenty of these guys out there) that young men should never, ever push a young women into having sex before she's ready-it is like mental rape and a real man wants a real woman-someone who is truly ready for that commitment and can enjoy it with him instead of him taking it from her. You can never go back. Don't do it.
2007-06-08 02:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You dont have to do anything you dont want to for whatever reason ad dont ever let anyone push you into it if your not ready. If your boyfriend is not willing to wait til youre absolutely ready (childish actions) then he may not be the right man for you and he definitely isnt ready for sex either. Its your body and only you can do whatever you want with it when youre ready to do it. There are laws against someone pushing someone into certain action if youre not willing to take part in
2007-06-08 02:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he treats you this way, I can see why. Stick to your guns, don't do anything you don't want to or what makes you uncomfortable. If he can't respect the word "No", you need to seriously rethink the relationship, whether you feel you love him or not. Trust is the most important thing when it comes to sex, if you don't have that (#2 on your own list) you shouldn't be having sex.
2007-06-08 02:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by foodieNY 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. You are a smart girl!
2. Don't ever have sex with someone you don't trust.
3. Don't ever get involved with someone who easily gets angry and doesn't want to talk to you.
2007-06-08 03:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personnl;y think that you should wait until you get him checked out for HIV. If you di this now im pretty sure you wikll regret it because He is already mad so if you do wat he wants you to just because he is mad i will realy make you do some things that he wants you to do every time he is mad.....Make a smart choice Before you do somthing you will regret later on in life .............Good Luck.!!!!
2007-06-08 03:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by marquise r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound mature enough to make that decision. Take out the word LOVE because you really don't understand that word either. Don't be pressured into it. You will regret for a long time to come
2007-06-08 02:50:31 · answer #11 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋