When you got married....?

Question

How did you know you wanted to marry the person? What had you needed to accomplish in life before you wed? Did you know you were ready or hoped for the best? Just curious and would like to hear about everyone.

Answer 1

I never planned to marry, never planned to fall in love, thought all guys were the biggest a$$es but then I met my hubby. We were friends for years and I never really saw it coming. He asked me to marry him 5 times before I said yes, think he was getting worried but I wasnt sure I was marriage material. I didnt feel the need to accomplish anything, didnt know if I was ready or not, just hoped it would work out. Strangely enough, I had a hard time with the blind faith part. It is hard to hope for the best, to go into the unknown, to live without surety that you will be together forever. we have been married 11 years now, have 3 kids, and are still very much in love but we have both grown up alot, we did it together and were we ready for marriage at 20 and 21, probably not but we made it through, we grew up together and our lives are happy. I wouldnt change anything.

Answer 2

I knew he was the one when I wanted to be with him more than I wanted to be apart from him. I know that sounds silly. I've never been the clingy type. Even in fresh, new relationships I still wanted my space. I didn't want my space with him. Also, we had very common life goals, and similar personalities.

I didn't need to accomplish anything prior to getting married. I really think that sort of thinking is what we tell kids to slow them down from getting married too young. I didn't have any major life goals. Frankly, any goals I did have could be accomplished married or single.

I did live life prior to getting married. I had already been in and out of the Navy. And when he and I met I was working full time and part time in college. I was really struggling with college then. Now years later, I'm in college again. It is SO much easier to go to college with the full emotional support of a husband.

I KNEW I was ready. Strange part was I had lunch (in Oct) with his mother months before he and I met. I told her, "I'm ready to get married. I just haven't found the right guy yet." So, by that following April I married her eldest son.

So 7 years later here we are. I'm grateful everyday that I'm married to him, and not some of the other bozos I dated.

Answer 3

I married "later in life" in my mid-30's and this was after years of horrible dates and some really good boyfriends. I had accomplished several things for myself and I still had a long list of "Things to do," but when the right person comes along you just know - there was no science involved. Just a feeling and unconditional love :-) and you merge your "things to do" lists and accomplish things together.

If you spend some time dating and knowing & liking yourself when you find the right person you are more certain as opposed to getting married young (19 or 20) and not really knowing yourself or the world. Just my 2 cents.

Answer 4

If I knew then what I know now.....I met my ex when I was 20 and he was 19....we married 5 years later, 5 years later we had a son, and hit the 11 year mark when he cheated and it was over. I was in my late 30s when he did this and I'm 40 now still trying to get my feet on the ground. I thought I knew him so well but turns out, I guess he had another side.....If I could've done it differently, I would've lived my young life for a while longer before marrying...

Answer 5

I knew I wanted to marry my husband when I realized that I just couldn't live without him in my life anymore. He just managed to shine a bright and warm light into an already happy life.

I didn't set a marker on what I wanted to do before we got married, you shouldn't have to stop doing and being just because you get married.

I don't think you are ever sure if you are read to get married or have kids, but once you do, you learn and grown and adjust. It comes naturally.

It is a scary thing, but it is also one of the best things on earth you could ever share with a person. Falling asleep in their arms and knowing that they will be there in the morning.

Answer 6

I never had any aspirations except to be a wife and mother. First marriage, together 10 years, just kids when married at 20-he cheated on me, I left, I was miserable, so I forgave him and decided to go through with the marriage and set a date. Divorced, friendly terms @ 25. I wanted a little house and family and he didn't.
Remarried @ 26, we had the same goals. Except he had champagne taste on a beer budget. After not successfully getting PG...things turned to sh!t. He started spending $$$$ ran us into debt and became abusive. I finally got away @ 35.
Though I'm happily single with a beautiful baby girl, I do think about sharing my life with a man again, sometimes.

Answer 7

Myself???? Married way too young and didn't know a damn thing about marriage and life in general. He and I were friends and I thought that was enough to base a marriage on. 18 years later I finally figured out it was not and there had to be love involved somehwere in there. Divorce will be final this month.....still love him as a friend but not "in love" with him, never was.....live and learn I guess......

Answer 8

I am not married yet... and i hope u allow me to answer :)
well i am confused like u... i have been asking similar questions as well here...
but i wonder if we should believe in what other people say....
if people say one thing it's not necessarily that things will happen in same way for u...
anyway gd luck... hope u get a gd life partner

Answer 9

I felt he was the right person my heart told me so, but after 33 years of marriage and the lack of him helping me in every way a husband should, I called it quits, now I need to readjust my life, and move on.

Answer 10

its all and individual feeling, even after your married you feel sometimes if you made the right chose but that's OK, you learn as you go, just treat each other with respect and always say thank-you, always work on each others dreams to become reality and always hold hands,pray together and never stop kissing, always appreciate the little things you do for each other .