My buddy's wife went on vacation last week with a couple of her girls. When she got back, she told him they met a few guys on the trip and they hung out at a club. She of course told him it was just drinks and dancing and even showed him pictures of the trip including these guys. Most people would be ok with that, but his wife had an emotional affair 6 months ago with a co-worker and he still doesn't completly trust her.
Also, I guess they e-mailed each other since the trip (one of the guys), but she told him about that too. Should he be worried
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2007-06-08 02:56:40 · 13 answers · asked by tHEwISE 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A lot of you said the same thing I did, but he's saying that because she was up fron twith him, that it must be innocent. It seems a little squirlly to me too.
2007-06-08 03:42:57 · update #1
Only he can decide that for himself.
2007-06-08 03:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes he should be concerned. She is giving Mr. Emotional Affair a little taste of his own medicine. He should be confronting her behavior and sitting down with asking her if this is about what he did? Or simply ask what is going on? If she is not upfront maybe couples counseling. However this is sure sign that she doesn't trust him and that she is VERY angry with what he has done.
However, I see nothing wrong with platonic relationships between the opposite sex. In this case, I don't believe this is what she is doing. She wants him to say something. And if he doesn't...she will take it as a sign that he doesn't love her and make another move. And he may not like what that move is.
2007-06-08 03:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by kaiynasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be worried if I was him. Just because she's being more open about it, doesn't mean something couldn't develop. If the other women she was with were single then I guess she sort of had to go along for drinks if that 's what her friends wanted to do (not really, but I'll give her the drinks with the guys anyway just for arguments sake), but she shouldn't be exchanging information of any kind (e-mail, phone numbers, etc...) with any of these guys. That would be the worrysome part for me. She seems to be still interested in dating when she is married. Especially with her back ground of being emotionally attached to another man before, she seems like she is asking for trouble.
If I was her and I went out for drinks with my friends and we ended up with some guys, I may be polite, but there would be no mistake they would know I was a happily married woman. I would never exchange information with any of them.
2007-06-08 03:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by ╚╔╩╦ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't go to clubs, and I'm married, I do it out of respect but my husband feels other wise. Anyway, if I was him I would be worried a tad bit "only" because she had an emotional affair before so she's obviously not happy with the relationship so it's easy for her to revert back to having another emotional affair. So I'd be a little concern....
2007-06-08 03:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by All the way live! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be telling him all the details just to cover her behind or because she feels guilty. Either way, it isn't good. The fact that she feels the need to even explain these guys to her husband shows that she may be up to no good. In short, yes I would be worried because I have cheated, and that is exactly how I would act if I had. Good luck to your friend.
2007-06-08 03:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by flowerbug26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly would be mad as hell at my husband if he went on vacation with the boys and spent it dancing and drinking with some bar skank. Then came home and sent e-mails back and forth. That sounds romantic, not friendly. And to have the balls to bring photos of them home. ***** that!
2007-06-08 03:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll bet she cheated. She is probably just telling him about things so she will have an excuse if anything else comes out of the woodwork. But I will bet she's not telling the good stuff.
2007-06-08 03:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A married woman should not be going to clubs at all. Clubs are for single people. She's acting like she's single. If I were her husband, I wouldn't be worried, I'd be angry!
2007-06-08 03:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if her husband allows her so much freedom that she is feeling anxiety over it by trying to make him jealous. She sees him as a pushover and is slowly losing respect for him. Tell him to man up and I bet she will like it.
2007-06-08 03:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems he is allowing it to happen and showing her that it is alright since he has not put his foot down. She will probably go further at some point.
2007-06-08 03:37:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is on the up and up this time, but sometimes the best place to hide something is right out in the open.............
2007-06-08 06:26:03 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋