A couple that we were friends with whose wife left him "to find myself" but turns out actually left him for a man she had seen secretly for 6 months before are now separated. I am having a party for one of my kids. I want to invite HIM to come with their son. I don't want her there.
". . .being judgmental, blah, blah, blah..."
It is not being judgmental. I just don't want to be around her. May infect everyone else to believe that what she did is OK.
2007-06-08 03:14:17 · 13 answers · asked by tiaburkeangry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a parent I can say kids parties are too important(they grow to fast).I think it's more important for everyone there to have a great time,so if someONE is going to put a raincloud on the party,then it's not fair to EVERYone else.Maybe she can go "Find herself" somewhere else that day and let everyone else have a great time.
2007-06-08 03:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by whatever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, you can invite anyone you want to YOUR party.
Send the invitation to HIS address and include his name.
LIke "Bobby and Fred Jones"
Why would his mother even know about it?
If they are still living in the same house, send the invitation to the husband and HE should get his own mail.
If HE forgives her, then YOU need to get off your high horse, and get over it, too. You seem very hateful, angry, judgemental, and unforgiving. Like YOU would never do such an awful, digusting thing. Well, guess what ,
people do--all the time. It is about being lonely, bored, and not having the skills to fix it right.
This might be an opportunity for YOU to see someone else's pain, sadness, and poor life skills compassionately. To reach out in love and gentleness to a lonesome and hurt person.
All of them are hurt-not just the poor guy...
No one can INFECT you, unless you let them. What if one of your children STOLE something, cheated at school, or accidently killed a puppy-you going to divide them from "decent people" and judge them as unfit for a birthday party because they might infect the other children?
You'd probably will explain that is it unsuitable behavior, protect other kids from VIOLENCE, and then punish him in an appropriate way, and then STOP punishing him at some point.
You can hate what someone DOES without Hating the person.
2007-06-08 10:35:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are separated, then there's no way I would invite her. Invite him and their son, but not her. Why would you want all the tension at what is supposed to be a celebration?
I don't think you are judgmental, just practical. Even if you are judging her, you're entitled to your opinion.
2007-06-08 10:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by ╚╔╩╦ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then call and personally invite them and ask him not to bring his ex. He would more than likely be greatful for not being supportive of what she did to him.
2007-06-08 10:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
off course you don't invite her it would end up putting a damper on what should be a happy occasion .and what she done has no bearing inyour choise not to invite her.don't worrie about it and have a great party.bye
2007-06-08 10:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is the child living with. If he is living with his father put on the invitation (for example) Frank & Tim. And if she comes she invited herself........HOW RUDE! lol
Ms_A-Rod
2007-06-08 10:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. A-Rod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no law that says you have to invite her. put only his and his sons name on the invitation.
2007-06-08 10:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its your party invite whomever you feel is appropriate. People will talk either you invite her or don't invite her. So do what you feel like doing
2007-06-08 10:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not understanding, r u inviting the guy she is with now or her ex? if its her ex then why would she feel invited anyway? if it is the guy she is with now and you are friends with him then tell him you would rather her not come. simple.
2007-06-08 10:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by sarcastic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way dont invite her it will be too painful for her husband
2007-06-08 10:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋