Again, my husband and I filed for divorce. We separated our bank accounts. Since we have a child, he's still paying the mortgage and child support. He comes over to mow the yard and fix up the house. I can also call him to talk and we do talk when he calls for the child.
If we are still in each other's lives, what is really going to change? Will things be this way forever? I just want to know what to expect once the divorce is final.
2007-06-08 02:13:44 · 15 answers · asked by blue eyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Eventually you both will find another person romantically in your lives. That will cause a big change..... for both of you. Right now you are keeping the conversations safe by discussing the needs of the kid, and that's fantastic! Keep that in mind when one of you gets into a new relationship.
It sounds like the biggest change will be that he won't be as available in the future. When and if you find another man, that man will probably want to mow your yard and not be comfortable with your ex coming and going so much.
Many experts say that until your kid reaches adulthood, its best not to date. I am not sure if I personally agree with that or not....... only you will know for sure what you want. I would strongly suggest that any changes that you make are explained to your child. Like if Dad isn't coming around like he used to, make sure you kid doesn't assume they've done something wrong.
Good luck to you............you and your ex might be one of the lucky ones who are better off divorced but still able to co-parent effectively.
2007-06-08 02:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have a child the two of you will always be connected. I too am going through a divorce after 33 years, oh the stories I can tell you!! But after nearly two years since I filed mine in not over with maybe next month will shed some light on this. Mine never helped around the house, never, so count your blessings!!!
2007-06-08 09:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will obviously always have a bond, because of the child.
But eventually, you guys may move on and only talk when it concerns the child. Be happy that the divorce is going so nicely. Could be alot worse!
2007-06-08 09:25:36 · answer #3 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is just a legal way of dissolving a marriage in tody's society......
u may never divorce at all but still stay so apart from on e another that the marriager is practically non- existent.
on the other hand, u may divorce legally and still stay connected and very much love each other in ur own unique ways.U may also really care genuinely about each other.
Infact, i say a couple who are divorced and still stay in touch and care for each other are the best friends that they will ever get ever in their lives.
2007-06-08 09:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by saurabhpriya04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things will never change once you have a child. Myself and my ex are still in each other's lives for the sake of our child.
To minimise the connection, just deal with him regarding your child but start getting other help when it comes to the rest of your other activities/ materialistic things etc.
2007-06-08 09:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by monica p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not helpful to allow him to still play the husband role he gave that up. sure he has to be daddy but find some new people to talk to and have someone else mow the grass.Are you sure you two needed to divorce
2007-06-08 09:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by yasten69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope it will be alot different when he finds someone else and after divorce you probably will only talk about child...
2007-06-08 09:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by hb2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get the WHOLE bed to yourself.
You get to control the heat/ac.
You get to control the tv.
You eat what you want when you want.
You answer to yourself.
You pick up after yourself, not him!
You date other men.
The list goes on and on.....
2007-06-08 09:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-06-11 06:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by ikkidifenix83 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-06-11 02:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋