2007-06-08 03:18:25 · 12 answers · asked by bud 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, that will not get better, take my word on it. If you really have a problem with it then you might as well leave now.
"Once a momma's boy always a momma's boy"
2007-06-08 03:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by All the way live! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband would tell other people stuff and not me (some major like putting a bid on an apartment, some like working late or working weekends) and I would feel like a schmuck when I found out from someone else. He would either claim it was because it would upset me or I didn't ask. I tried to explain that I wouldn't know to ask half the questions and while I might not be all for the idea, I would be more upset when I did learn from someone else or after the fact. When he would ask me questions about something I would answer vaguely as a childish retaliation. Nothing worked so I adjusted my expectations and ask what questions I think of (even though he hates questions too - they are an inquisition), and when he does tell me something I don't make a comment, facial expression or do anything that can be considered negative. We did try marriage counseling, but I would do the homework and he wouldn't so I gave up. In my case it is different though because he doesn't respect women's opinions and I have learned to accept this. Many psychologist suggest setting aside at least 15 minutes a day of alone time where you have to talk. If you do approach him don't be judgmental, it is recommended to say, "I know you don't mean it this way, but when you _______, I feel _____." Also it may help if you are not opposed to him confiding in his mom, but you got married to share your lives and would like to be included in his. I don't think you can force someone to confide in you, but I still hope you find the answer you seek.
2007-06-08 03:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats.youve got her hands on a real life mommas boy. Unfortunately nothing short of moving clear across the country or world, or the demise of mommy dearest, theres not a whole lot you can do to break up the dynamic duo. Once a momma boy,always a mommas boy! All the talking to him about his mommy and him wont do a bit of good. So until mommy is out of the picture completely,youll just have to endure this crap. Youre not alone in this boat either as many onQ&A have the exact challenge.Good luck
2007-06-08 03:43:16 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the apron strings are cutting off much needed blood supply to the brain. He needs to learn how to communicate with you. You need to tell him right out that this habit of his needs to stop if your relationship is going to work. An experience I've been through, I assure you. After hearing something from her mouth that I spoke only to my husband about was the final straw. I told him in no uncertain terms that any thing that was planned, said or done in our house was to be kept in our house. If he wanted to stay with his mother he shouldn't have gotten married. It helped that, half jokingly, I told him the next time he wanted sex, I would call and get her permission first. The expression on his face, priceless.
2007-06-08 03:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by foodieNY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the Bible there is a scripture that says a man shall leave his mother and father and join his wife and the 2 shall become 1. He has a right to talk to his Mom about anything and he has the right to let her be the one he talks to first but if it involves you he should come to you and you alone. Who is he gonna talk to when something happens to his mom? She like all of us aren't gonna be around forever.
2007-06-08 04:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sheila B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to stop being a Mommy's boy....lol joke aside. He does not have his priorities right, his mother still means to him more than you. There is nothing wrong in loving and caring about your mother/parents, but also realize that you are now responsible for loving and caring about another person to whom you are committed to spend your entire life. If you can make him understand that, then you have some hope
2007-06-08 03:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ephesians chapter 6
"A man shall leave his mother and cleave unto his wife".
2007-06-08 03:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. Sounds like you married a mama's boy and that needs to stop.
2007-06-08 03:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Red 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mamas boy!!!!! Good luck, that's a bond that will be hard to break. Tell him you don't want him to do it any more it's worth a try. Good luck....
2007-06-08 03:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ew that sucks, get a new husband who has a set of balls perhaps
2007-06-08 03:27:05 · answer #10 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋