I want a baby so bad but my husband doesn't want one.. What should I do?

Answer 1

Talk to your husband and find out the reason why he doesn't want a baby yet and discuss the reasons you do. Let him know how important it is to you but also listen to his reasons. There is nothing else you can do other than be open with each other. You should both be ready to have a child and being ready is a decision only you too can make.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

If he doesn't want one then try and ask him why and figure out what the problem is. He might be scared about the idea or worried. Or maybe he just wants to wait a few years before you have a baby. He also might just not know what it's like to be around kids, most guys never 'baby sat' as teen agers like girls normally do so they normally don't get the chance to be around babys unless they had younger brothers or sisters and so in either case they don't know what to do with a baby. Ask a friend or family member who has a small child if you can watch the baby for a week end. This way it'll give the parents some time off and they'll love you for that, and it'll give your husband a chance to see what kids are like. Just don't tell him this is the reason youre watching the kids tell him the family member or friend came to you about it.

In the end if he doesn't want kids no matter what however you might need to go to a pro for help, or find a different husband to start a family with.

Answer 3

Leave and get another husband, You do not want to have a baby with a man who dose not want children as you and baby will not have a happy life. If you stay and have no kids you will later resent him. I do not know how old you are but you can't change someones mind about this. I know of a couple that have 2 children the husband told me he never really wanted kids. When I see him around his kids it is so sad. The kid is looking to be with his dad and his dad acts like the kid is always bug gin him I know this child feels hurt the other child is a little older and avoids the father. The wife is not very happy so I would give this allot of thought. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you.

Answer 4

This is hard.

You shouldn't have a baby until your husband wants one, that much is clear. What's not clear is how long you should wait or how you can convince him that it's time.

If he wants kids eventually, then the question is a little easier. You just have to figure out when, and if that's acceptable to you. You need to be a little patient, but like they say the clock is ticking. It's important to talk about it, but don't pressure him, or most men will push back just by nature. Ask him what will change that would make him want kids.

If he doesn't ever want kids, then your decision is so tragic. It's either stay with him without kids, trick some kids out of him, or leave him and hope you find someone that will have kids.

I hope that he wants kids, just not this soon. If that's the case, and depending on your age, it's probably just a matter of time until his friends have kids and he realizes that it's time.

Answer 5

Well, remember that babies are not an accessory!! They grow into real people seperate from yourself. You might be feeling your irrational mother instinct right now, but think of it realistically, the world is on the verge of over population. Is it really the responsible decision to be bringing another child into this?? Could you love that child and raise it as if it was not just your own, but his or her own too? Maybe. If the answer is a serious yes, if you could give it all that money could buy and then some definitely, adopt, but another baby in this world and one with a father that doesn't want one? Maybe you should re-evaluate your decision, talk with your husband and convince him or otherwise, move on. Move passed the instincts. Do the right thing.

Answer 6

Didn't you talk at all before you got married? This is kind of a biggie. There isn't much you can do to force a change of mind on someone. If your husband doesn't want a baby in his life, then he doesn't want one. Please don't do the old "I'll just happen to get pregnant, then he will love the baby when it gets here". He might not. But he might very well resent the hell out of you for forcing fatherhood on him. You will feel unfulfilled and resentful if you don't have a child. He will feel trapped, tricked, and resentful if you do have a child. If you two can't resolve this, I suggest you go your separate ways. It's a very important issue. Don't see any other way. Best of luck.

Answer 7

Your husband is probably not mentally ready for a child.

Sure, you both might have the financial needs taken care of, but it really matters if both sides of the relationship are comfortable with this big decision.

If you have been married for awhile or have a very deep connection and bond... what you should do is talk to him about it. Ask why he doesn't want one and put out the reason why you do. If he is a good husband, he'll listen to what you have to say. But don't nag him about it everyday, give off small hints and clues about what it's like having small little feet running around your house.

Answer 8

you should wait until he is ready as well, if he's married to you then there should be no excuse for not wanting a child as one of the main reasons for marriage is to eventually raise a family. Dont forget, u are a woman and ur biological clock is ticking, he can afford to wait longer, but u can't! so give urself a timeline of maybe 2-3 years depending on ur age. if he doesn't change his mind by then, find urself another husband who does want a baby? U deserve 2 have what u want, no one has the right to make u unhappy. Not even ur husband.

Answer 9

Is this a topic you both discussed before you were married? If not, why not? If you did discuss this, why doesn't he want one? Is it because timing is bad, finances are bad, or your marriage is bad? One thing you should not do is go ahead and get pregnant, otherwise, you'll probably end up with a resentful husband and divorced. Being a single mom will be no picnic for you.

Answer 10

This is a marriage-breaker for some people and something you should have talked about prior to getting married. If you are just as committed to having a baby as he is to not having one, you definitely need counseling. It may not help resolve the issue, but at least you can walk away from your marriage knowing you tried everything. Whatever you do, don't trick him. He may turn out to be a very disinterested father and you'll find yourself a single mother chasing him down for child support every month.