Marriage & Divorce - 4 June 2007

I think my wife cheats with a married Air Force pilot screenname(LiftrPlt) I would like to inform his wife do you think this is right?

2007-06-04 11:50:02 · 4 answers · asked by Theron H 1

Is sex once a week good? Twice a week better? What about the third, fourth and fith time? At what point does the amount of sex you have (with a partner guys...) become excessive and potentially a problem?

2007-06-04 11:44:30 · 16 answers · asked by J 1

A very close friend of my wife's is so close it makes me feel uncomfortable. My wife is quite flirty but this is different to flirting - they act like a couple. Whenever we are out as a group I don't get to walk with my arm around my wife because he always has his around her. On one occaision she was holding his hand, so I held her other hand - she kept dropping mine until I went away and later told me that I had made her feel uncomfortable. This man has told her that he loves her. My wife has assured me that she only loves me and would never leave me, yet I seem to see less of her than he does. My biggest problem is that I don't know how to bring this up without sounding like the jealous husband trying to keep her from her friends. Should I say anything?

2007-06-04 11:40:21 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK My husband had a meth problem a few years before we met. I have found things in the past that I have overlooked. I recently found some evidence that he is using again, I don't know how often or how much. I know if I did some digging that I wouldn't like what I found. His dealers phone number was on our phone bill.

Here's my dilema. I am a SAHM and I go to college full time. If I left my husband I would have to quit school and take a dead end job to take care of my 3 kids. If I find that he is on meth I have no choice but to leave. He's a truckdriver and home less than 4 days a month and never alone with the kids. There also hasn't been any money missing from the account.

Should I keep looking away long enough to finish school (2 years) so that I will be financially able to care for my kids. I could do some digging, get a job and struggle for a while. Is it wrong or selfish for me to look the other way? BTW he really isn't a great hubby. He's become a moody, needy pessimist.

2007-06-04 11:29:26 · 10 answers · asked by kidzrdrivinmekrazy 3

i have always taken vacations with friends and i am willing to take the wife on vacations also. Should i give up my time with friends because the wife asks me to ?.

2007-06-04 11:22:39 · 19 answers · asked by kmantgab 2

My husband is in the army and I am considering divorce. Who is most likely to get custody? does the military allow alimony in the situation that I have no education and I have a 2 year old child. I will not have the money to pay for an education or child care if I am working a min. wage job.

2007-06-04 11:20:02 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know this is a pretty dumb question. My husband and I seperated for a year, we are back together, but I think he is sharing OUR money with his exgirlfriend in GA. He puts money in his old account that he no longer needs, because we have a joint account together...so my question is why would he need a seperate account if we pay our bills out of one account? Any questions I can ask him to let him know I am onto him or any secret ways to figure this out?? Please no rude remarks...I feel stupid enough already!!

2007-06-04 11:17:41 · 14 answers · asked by Bailey 1

I am soooo against porn, magazines, and strippers. Yet, I came home tonight and went to the computer and he forgot to close the window and there was a porno on the screen. I am so angry and I feel betrayed. How should I respond?

2007-06-04 11:16:07 · 29 answers · asked by Kay 1

Okay my husband and i got married a month and half ago after 4 yrs of dating on and off.I was very unsure about whole thing because while i love my husband but i am not in love with him the way i should be.He's an attractive guy but i am not sextually attracted to him?I felt like i had finally landed the nice guy and this was the natural progression of things.I freaked out the day of my wedding i called an ex.bf from highschool up whom i am close friends but have had on and off flings with over the years to talk.I felt like my life was flashing before my eyes and i had sex with him.I feel horrible and now i am pregnant i had a blood test done to confirm.Husband and i used condoms but my ex and i did not.What to do i do?

2007-06-04 11:15:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex wife video taped me playing football and our two girls while they were being looked after by their 15 year old cousin. And is taking it to her solicitors and putting a compliant in that I wasnt looking after them. I have them every second weekend.
Can she do this ?

2007-06-04 11:02:08 · 8 answers · asked by flashland63 1

On Saturday my sister married a man she just met on Thursday. We are in the US, he lives in the UK -- he will be here for another week, then go back to the UK until September!!

The two of them have been talking online for a couple of months and before they got married she asked me to send her an email with my opinions of what she was planning...like a fool I did and of course that started a fight. I was then left out of all wedding plans, not even invited or asked to attend.

Now it's my bad that I didn't go and my mom expects me to suck it up and pretend to be happy. I am so hurt about being left out of my sister's wedding and her blatant disregard for the rest of us that I don't know if I can go to the family gathering my mom has planned this weekend. I'm supposed to go and play nice, but don't know if I can.

What would you do??

2007-06-04 10:53:51 · 13 answers · asked by SheDontKnow 2

my parents are divorsed, and my mom has legal custidy, but my dad has visitation rights, what is the legal age to choose who i want to live with. can i choose or do i have to stay with my mom. or how does that work?

2007-06-04 10:52:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I ask this question because I'm doubting myself. The reason for doing so is because my husband says that I see things only in black and white.My husband walked out on me and says he's moving on with his life.Me trying to save the marriage I sent him an email suggesting that we go to marriage counsellings. .I told him that I loved him and know that we can make it with the help. He said no. About 3 years ago he agreed to go with me to counseling. He went for one session and the first argument we had he says that he wasn't going back to counseling again.I tried reasoning with him reminding him of everything that we talked about in counseling and how we would handle ourselves during our first fight. But I couldn't get through to him.I couldn't help feeling that he didn't really love me . Because he refused to go back when we really need to. Am I wrong to think like this? if your husband refuses to go to counseling when it's so necessary . That it's because he doesn't love you enough?

2007-06-04 10:46:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

She left 3 months ago for another man. For first month we did not know were she was. She had here mobile switched off. Just before her birthday she started to text people. Now she only text kids ( 19 & 22hrs old) once a week, if that. She don't phone them, she don't see them. She met with me a couple of times in 3 months, now she doesnt even return my e-mails for last 2 weeks. She only made one 30 second phone call to her parents. She ignores her freinds. Is she going through some sort of mental breakdown ? I wonder.

2007-06-04 10:44:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know this guy that goes on and on about himself and the influencial people he says he knows and the parties he goes to. I wonder how much is true and why he talks like this. Years ago he sort of dumped me when he went back to college. Then I had moved on by the time he called my back the next year. Now he says that he did not know he had done anything wrong and that then he did not know what he had. He now has a live-in girlfriend of almost 19 years and calls her his ladyfriend. He calls me sweetheart all the time - never by name. He wants to see me and he talks about sex but says he loves his girlfriend and could not "kick her out". Sometimes I think he brags on what he has and what he does so much because I did not come chase after him years ago. I feel like he is punishing me. Is trying to get me to be some kind of playmate? I don't feel well after I talk to him.

2007-06-04 10:39:22 · 12 answers · asked by formy p 1

I have been home for 5 hours and tubby hasnt said a single word to me. I guess he is in a man strop! Are other wives ignored by their hubbies or is it just me?

2007-06-04 10:37:49 · 14 answers · asked by tubbyswife 4

I am a fairly successful person. I make more money than he does. Recently, we have just purchased a rental property. This past weekend I went furniture shopping with my mother, and we used my credit card for her purchases. We agreed that when the bill came in, she would pay me. (Due to credit issues my parents have no credit cards). I know they will pay the bill as soon as the bill arrives, and I will not be charged any interest. The amount was $7,000.00 When I told my husband, he blew up, saying I should have consulted him first. I did not even think of consulting him, because, in my mind it's a non-issue. We will not be "out-of-pocket" at all... it was just more convenient to use my card. That's all. He would not have approved the use of the credit card, in hind sight, I know this.
Anyway, he became so irate that he actually physically assaulted me. For the first time in 28 years, he laid a hand on me. I feel totally devastated. He was drunk at the time.
Should I leave?

2007-06-04 10:25:47 · 18 answers · asked by Unsure 1

Im married now for 10 years. i rencently well not recently but started messing around with this girl i met. she is also married..for 9 years..i guess we were both unhappy but have kids and homes. our issue is that we cant stop seeing each other. we try to break it off but one of us keeps calling back and miss each other. then we hook up and back to being an affair. its been a year now. its hard and im stressing. we both say we want to leave and be with each other but no one will leave the house first. i am willing but i dont think she is. so i stay and find myself wanting her more than i do my wife. i think about her all the time and she does me. she calls and we meet up at the store or i go over when her husband is at work. we talk about kids life love famiy. what do i do. its stressful now i dont konw what to do. im lost. even now i want to see her. they say if you love something let it go. if it comes back it yours. well we did that 3 times and she still is here? is she mine or not?

2007-06-04 10:07:41 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I were separated for 1 month and I ended up sleeping with a mutual friend of ours a few days before getting back together with my husband. Its now been a month and I think I am pregnant. I know if I tell my husband about this we will end up divorced if the kid is his or not....I love my husband and don't want to lose him and I don't believe in abortions either. Any advise would be helpful.

2007-06-04 10:03:07 · 15 answers · asked by Just me 2

Just curious. I personally don't believe all the soulmate/spiritual affinity terminology, however I know several people who do. How many of you left a marriage after many years because you thought you found someone else who was your soulmate, only to realize later that this other person was not really your soulmate?

2007-06-04 09:49:58 · 8 answers · asked by Scott O 3

2007-06-04 09:24:35 · 30 answers · asked by Ally 5

Or same question to courting couples, are you a good catch.

2007-06-04 09:22:10 · 25 answers · asked by denis9705 5

I've been with my current b/f on and off for several years and he has finally decided to settle down. It's all I ever wanted from him, but a few weeks ago I met, what seems like, the perfect man. I can't put my finger on what makes me like him so much, but it feels like our souls are connected somehow.
Should I give up a life time with someone I've wanted forever for someone I just met?

2007-06-04 09:14:38 · 72 answers · asked by Anonymous

I married my husband BECAUSE he wasn't affectionate or demonstrative, and had a low sex drive. We were a perfect match. We both were really into our careers at the time. He used to spend 2 weekends a month camping with his friends and I was fine with that. Sometimes we traveled together. When it came time to have kids, we both agreed on when and how many. I thought things were fine.

Now, many years later, he has changed into a person that wants lots of sex and affection. The problem is I haven't changed, I'm still the same. He seems to think our incompatibility is my fault because he is now more "normal" than I am. He tells me my number one priority s/b to make him happy, but if I fake it or have to drink a little first to try to accomodate him he gets mad! He doesn't understand I can't just change because he wants me to, he acts like I'm doing this on purpose! How could I have prevented this, and how is this my fault? Should I just tell him to find someone else?

2007-06-04 09:09:34 · 16 answers · asked by Ronnie 2

On my previous question, somenone answered, that the poor father doesn't get to see the kids, as much as the mom, and he is not a atm machine!

What difference does it make , regarding child support , how much time the father spends with the kids? They still need a roof over their head, and food on the table, and clothes on their back! My ex made a choice not to see his children much! So he shouldnt have to pay? That deosn't make and sense!

What's your opinion?

2007-06-04 08:57:15 · 21 answers · asked by Sunday 3

the adults, does this count as child porn? How do you know what sites don't contain couples under 16? lol

2007-06-04 08:54:42 · 9 answers · asked by Vic 1

If a married girl living far away from parents and is hospitalized, her husband doesn’t want to tell her parents about her condition.

Now her birthday is approaching in 4-5 days. And doctors haven’t allowed her to talk and move, as she underwent a serious operation.

How to tackle this situation when her parents and friends call her on her day?
What are the excuses that can work effectively?

Plz suggest me.. this is a real situation.
Thanks.

2007-06-04 08:46:26 · 11 answers · asked by ManhattanGirl 5

I can't believe the state of the NC courts. My husband's ex wife gets a buttload of support and alimony. She is a college educated teacher living in a county desperate for teachers.
Yet she "works" at a pre-school in a church 4 days a week for only a few hours a day and can't understand why she has trouble paying for the $200K+ house she had to have.
Do not misunderstand me, I give a rats behind about a huge house, and I like where I live - we have totally different priorities.
What irks me is her whining to the kids that they are doing without because "daddy doesn't give me enough money"
What utter B.S. Its more that they do without because she won't get off her Oprah watching lard butt to work for all the expensive stuff she just HAD to have!
Hell, her lack of contributing to the finances is part of why her marraige ended anyway!
Grrrrrr........ this sound right to any of you????
(My husband works upward of 50 hours a week and I work full time too)

2007-06-04 08:44:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am married for last three years . There is no chemistry between me and my husband. I need expression in love and very emotional person. My husband is nice but very different . I need to be loved. I have sex wid him as my duty but from inside i hate it. Now I am in love wid a man who is also in same situation. We have no kids . We do want to marry each other but we are afraid to hurt our partners. We cry all the time , life has become so difficult. I can never tell my husband that I am leaving him. We dont know what to do. For both of us love is very important and we love each other purely. Can you suggest what should we do.

2007-06-04 08:42:55 · 21 answers · asked by payal w 1

a woman has done for you?

2007-06-04 08:39:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous