She left 3 months ago for another man. For first month we did not know were she was. She had here mobile switched off. Just before her birthday she started to text people. Now she only text kids ( 19 & 22hrs old) once a week, if that. She don't phone them, she don't see them. She met with me a couple of times in 3 months, now she doesnt even return my e-mails for last 2 weeks. She only made one 30 second phone call to her parents. She ignores her freinds. Is she going through some sort of mental breakdown ? I wonder.
2007-06-04 10:44:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would worry about the possibility of this man trying to get her to cut off from everybody
cause that doesnt sound normal to me!
2007-06-04 10:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jemmax 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something is up with her, of course - and you can tell. But it is hard to know just what is the matter. he might be going through some sort of breakdown, or is being isolated by the man she is with. So I guess you need to figure out how to get some more information. Could you talk to your grownup kids who are in contact with her? Or any of her friends or relatives?
I would also suggest you find someone to talk to, a friend or counselor, for your own sake, because this must be so terrible for you. I hope that you can find out a little more what is going on and take good care of yourself too.
2007-06-04 10:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello:
I don't want to ALLEGE anything here,but this type of behavior DOES NOT SOUND NORMAL TO ME!! I am not trying to imply that this other man is an abuser,but alot of times ALLEGED abusers will meet someone,turn on the charm,and then make these people cut off contact with their friends,family,co-workers,etc.. Typically an abuser is a control freak who wants to brain wash and manipulate the person that they want to control,so they will fill their victim's head full of bologna and lies.
It sounds to me like she may have been suffering from a form of depression and maybe that is why she left because she felt unloved or unappreciated by her family,but I don't know so I cannot speculate or guess about how this woman was feeling at the time!
I hate to sound dramatic and I don't want to alarm you,but if you or your family feel that she is in some kind of danger,then maybe it is time to get the authorities involved. Again,I am not trying to upset you,I just wanted to send some (((HUGS))) your way,and that I am praying for you and your family at this very difficult time!! :-(
2007-06-04 10:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let it go. She's moved, on now you need to, too. If she's not seeing the kids, well, your children are adults now and the only thing you can do is give them advice about it if they ask. Unfortunately, you no longer are a part of her life. You can't control how she decides to be a parent or stay in touch with people. It's truly not your problem anymore. Good luck.
2007-06-04 10:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by k h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want anything to do with people from her past right now. Maybe out of shame or guilt of what she has caused the family. It sounds as if you still love your wife even after what she has done to you with leaving for this man. Could I suggest backing off from her so she can see that your not hanging around for her. Sometimes it takes a jolt for someone to realize what they have done before wanting to come back.
2007-06-04 10:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If has kids 19 & 22 then she is old enough to have a mid life crisis. Just be there for the kids,
2007-06-04 10:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is really weird i would look into it with the police and try to find her because it could be of the guy she left with is completely controlling or torturing her i am serious i would look into it much more deeply it could be a serious problem.
2007-06-04 10:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Or she has a mental problem or she is fool in love with "the other".No more old family in her mind;for her,is like a new life.
Unfortunately.women like these exist in our days.
Forget her.
2007-06-04 10:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible she is simply happy with her new guy?Considering her kids are grown up now & she can make him #1 priority.
2007-06-04 11:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is telling you she wants a divorce and to never talk to you again.
Give her what she wants, and move on.
2007-06-04 11:00:41 · answer #10 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋