Marriage & Divorce - 4 June 2007

i've been w/my husband for 11yrs, married for 4yrs. we're in our late 20s. we hv 3 children together (all by him, of course), where our youngest is just a month old. we've been ok up until 6mos ago, when he ran into an old friend. i found out 2mos later that they were having an affair. he didn't deny it, neither did she. h/ever, she supposedly 'took responsibility for her actions' and assured me she 'backed off'. coincidentally, that's when my husband filed for divorce. recently, i found out that they're still together. btw, she has one kid herself. oh and don't worry, i'm getting him for all that i can and deserve.
but what do u guys make of all this?

2007-06-04 17:55:33 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

The 2 people are both married to others. One has young children, the other has grown and gone children. The man kept saying goodbye and coming back, but the other one finally said goodbye due to the situation being heartbreaking for her. (The man has the young children).

2007-06-04 17:39:03 · 17 answers · asked by Brownie52 1

This has probably been asked before but....

When marriages do you think some people get divorced because it is an easy way out? If you ask me, I would say yes, just look at the divore rates now compared to the past
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I mean have we become soo lazy that we don't want to even work out our problems? Nothing good comes easy....Just wanna know your opinion

2007-06-04 17:34:07 · 18 answers · asked by a person 5

a father was ordered to pay for college for his daughter but she dropped out of high school. Is he till legally responsible to pay?

2007-06-04 17:27:36 · 13 answers · asked by becky b 1

Ok people I am in trouble I am a 27 year old married female who going nuts because I am not gettin enough sex from my husband we have been married 4 years our sex life sucks I try to spice it up by buying all type things he wont use ,he says hes tired ,he works as if I dont ,we have 3 kids which I work and take care of while he plays xbox and when i go out with my girlfriends on the weekends he will get mad but he does not take me anywhere! I am a very attractive women and the attention I get from men is unbellivable but I dont wont their attention I want my husbands,do u think he is cheatin on me?

2007-06-04 17:18:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have a long history together. We got together in high school. I graduated from a four year college but he didn't. He's been working since I graduated but I can't get a job. We were just talking about moving out of state and then we had a few drinks and he packed his bag and stormed out. I have no friends and don't want to call family. He has a history of being impulsive when angry. He's pushed me to the floor and thrown things at me. He's slammed doors in my face and called me names in front of our daughter. Whenever we talk about these things we work out that we are both disrespectful, but I never call names and rarely yell or throw things, especially if our daughter is within earshot. Both of us drink more and more. Perhaps if we were happier we wouldn't drink so much. Both of our families think that the other family's spouse is to blame. One fam. is blue collar and the other educated white collar. Our daughter has told granma that it's her fault mom/dad are fighting

2007-06-04 16:12:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

kids can you relaTE YES NO THEN NO GO SO I HAVE A HO YO SO NO I LIED THOUGH JUST GO YO

2007-06-04 16:03:16 · 20 answers · asked by caughtdreaminshoot 2

My boyfriend comes from a very traditional Italian family. While he is more modern than what his upbring taught him, he still believes in a lot of traditional gender roles. As do I. I went to school, have a degree and work full time. We both believe in equal financial contributions to the home and equal responsiblities with child care (we don't have kids, yet) He also does believe in helping with chores; however, we both agree that the wife tends to over see the domestic upkeeping of the home. I was raised that way, as was he.

The problem is, I'm domestically challenged; despite growing up with a mother who had a pristinely kept home. I'm afaird my inability to have a well kept home will reflect badly on me to my in-laws. My FMIL is an amazing cook and has a nice home. My bf brother's wives (all 3 of them) are also great cooks and have lovely homes.

I believe in a clean house, but can't seem to kept it neat all the time. I'm a bit scattered and not well organized.

2007-06-04 14:53:24 · 10 answers · asked by Answer Girl 2007 5

I have a Mr. Mom on my hands. He's a great father, good overall man, non smoker and non drinker...problem is, he's perfectly willing to continue to allow me to work two jobs for us to make ends meet, while he works his 8-5 every day and watches my son while I'm working my second job. I'D RATHER BE AT HOME WATCHING MY SON!

Ladies, I know what you're going to say, and it's what I should do, but I'd hate to kick his lazy butt out, cause then my son would be watched by my pseudo-husband's sister, cause I'd still have to work 2 jobs for a while to be ok.

Just go ahead...let me have it.

2007-06-04 14:29:40 · 21 answers · asked by ron-D 7

2007-06-04 14:19:06 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm actually admitting something here to the world, that I don't admit to my wife. I don't trust my mother-in-law, really I don't. I always throw away the food she makes me in case it's poison.

2007-06-04 14:17:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-04 14:10:18 · 24 answers · asked by shelby 2

What if we took "fidelity" out of marriage and recoginized it for what it is???

A financial merger. Each spouse is a partner. What if we agreed to keep the merger intact, agreed that neither of the parties was going to be the other's sole eternal turn on, acknowledged our sexuality, and allowed an occasional,discreet, perhaps shared, oh, "liason", with another party.

What if we agreed that the union would remain intact and that each partner could "liason" at their own discretion, together, separately, whatever they're both comfortable with.

I'm not talking about constant abuse. I'm talking about that rare occasion you just know your gonna regret passing by....

Would the kids be raised with two parents?

Anyone out there secure enough to admit that their partner may one day desire someone else? Why does this have to be "the end"?

Lets face it, at 54% divorce rate, we may want to be more realistic in an adult relationship.

2007-06-04 14:01:07 · 17 answers · asked by Puresnow 6

We recently found out that his ex wife who recently remarried is wanting to relocate to Texas (my homestate) with her (now) husband and take her son with her after telling my fiance' he can have custody through signing an agreement. This agreement wasn't notarized let me include. We are afraid we'll have to go to court and fight this and we don't have the funds to fight this in court. Can she legally do this having sole physical and legal custody of her son after signing this with my fiance'? Let me also include her now husband and my fiance' are both ARMY in which we have a house here in NY and she's moving to be with her (now) husband in Texas considering he's stationed there and we can't just pick up and leave due to our home purchase. What are the chances we'll get custody of his son without having to deal with court or having to deal with court?

2007-06-04 13:55:25 · 9 answers · asked by Nichole W 1

They lack confidents............ & feel " Oh, my god she didn't look like the GAL I saw the other day"

2007-06-04 13:51:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my husband for 5 years, married for 1 year, and lived together since day 1 of our relationship. I know he wants children because we have talked about it a little in the past, but now every time I bring up the idea of starting a family he shuts down and changes the subject. I understand this is a big deal, but if he is not ready just yet that is all I need to hear, not silence, a joke, or a different subject. Any ideas on how to bring it up with scaring him away?

2007-06-04 13:50:13 · 10 answers · asked by mjb8099 1

I love them both and want them to be happy but my sister in law is taking it so hard. My brother istigated the divorce and no there is not another woman he just isn't happy. How can I be loyal to him and still be there for her. I told him that I have no intention of not having the same relationship with her I always have. He did not respond negatively or positively. Anyone else in or been in a similar situation?

2007-06-04 13:47:49 · 13 answers · asked by Only hell mama ever raised 6

My husband of 8 and a half years has cheated on my 4 times and yet, I still love him with all my heart. He wants to work it out...do I stay or do I go?...it's not just us, we have 2 daughters as well. I don't want to stay just for the kids, but I was raised to forgive, forget, and move on. HELP!

2007-06-04 13:47:00 · 15 answers · asked by if you were important, you would know it 1

okay so my husband lost his job, we are living with his mom, trying to stretch the money we have until he can find work. im sick of our money going down the drain. trying to find ways to cut back on expenses. cleaning ideas, food ideas, anything will be appreciated

2007-06-04 13:31:41 · 8 answers · asked by lydia manning 2

i am currently married. my husband asked me if we should have an open relationship, which means we can have sex with other people but tell one another when it happens... Should we do this?

2007-06-04 13:29:14 · 12 answers · asked by Lisa T 1

Do you think it is true that if a young woman (lets say between 21 and 25) is dating a much older man (between 50 and 60) that it is because the woman had no father figure and is trying to compensate or find a father figure? Do relationships like this ever work out?

2007-06-04 13:25:51 · 8 answers · asked by L Bosh 1

My divorce will be final in 15 days. My soon to be ex-husband left me for another woman with two kids. Since I moved out she has spent the night every weekend he does not have our 2 kids. Our divorce decree states that he can't have a member of the opposite sex spend the night when our kids are there and that he can't drink when our kids are there with him. This past weekend was his turn to have the kids and he called me one night and said that his girlfriend was going to have to spend the night because her car was tore up and he was too drunk to take her home. I found out from my children that they slept in the same bed together that night. I would like to do something about this, but I am not financially able to put out any more money on the divorce than I already have. If I tell the judge when I go for my court date, do you think he would do anything about this? Does anyone have any advice on this?

2007-06-04 13:23:35 · 10 answers · asked by compassionatejen 1

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2007-06-04 13:23:27 · 26 answers · asked by Thomas P 2

He has a history of cheating also. My children are 4,3,1,and 1 month old. I guess my biggest fear is for them seeing this and my girls growing up thinking this behavior is ok. He has almost became very violent. I know once I leave him my life will be better, but I'm afraid of going throught the hurt of not having him with us. Or I think the hurt is more so of a failed marriage. Please tell me what you think I should do., I have been verbally abused so bad that I really can't think clearly!

2007-06-04 13:19:57 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-04 13:19:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

What the most expensive thing you have taken back to a shop to get your money back beacuse you din't want it. Do they give you your money back?

2007-06-04 13:03:29 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hubby what i did?Okay my husband and i got married a month and half ago after 4 yrs of dating on and off.I was very unsure about whole thing because while i love my husband but i am not in love with him the way i should be.He's an attractive guy but i am not sextually attracted to him?I felt like i had finally landed the nice guy and this was the natural progression of things.I freaked out the day of my wedding i called an ex.bf from highschool still friends to talk.I felt like my life was flashing before my eyes and i had sex with him.I am pregnant now since my husband and i always use condoms its likley not his.I feel horrible and sick about it.Consirdering just moving out i dont want to hurt him leaving a note?

2007-06-04 12:44:32 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

the only problem is she wants to take him 2 the cleaners.Hes offered to give her the house the car and all the contents and take care of all their sons needs and wants.he just wants her to leave his stocks and bonds and half of his retirement alone. does anyone have some good advise on what he needs to do about this situation

2007-06-04 12:43:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Anyway, we have 2 kids and seperated due to her lies and not wanting to support my business as I had helped her start her own. After the seperation I wanted councilling and she flatly refused as she just wanted space, which was fine. During our 7 year relationship said she hated me, lied, stole from a business account and did not accept her responsibilities (I did the cooking and ran the household budget). I asked her if she had cheated on me and she said she had not, which I believed as she is a christian. 9 months on I have moved on,am happy looking after our 2 boys 3 days a week, she knocks on my door saying she has some confessions.She wants to tell the truth and has told me that she did cheat and has been with 6 guys in the time we have been seperated yet has only ever wanted me.Says one guy has threatened her with violence.Has she come back to me because I am a good provider and husband or is she scared. Do I accept apology,goto counceling,Does she deserve my love/trust? Help

2007-06-04 12:06:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay- well my hubby and I are both 21,we have a kid together and another one on the way..
Whe nwe got together we seldom had this problem ( premature ejactulation)
And when it did happen I bit my tongue, I didn't want to hurt his feelings or pride..

But now, it happens almost EVERY SINGLE time. It is to the point where I dont even want to have sexbecause I know it is just doing to be a huge dissaopintment!
When he starts foreplay now, it jsust REALLY pisses me off!

2007-06-04 11:51:21 · 11 answers · asked by SS_COPE 2