Okay- well my hubby and I are both 21,we have a kid together and another one on the way..
Whe nwe got together we seldom had this problem ( premature ejactulation)
And when it did happen I bit my tongue, I didn't want to hurt his feelings or pride..
But now, it happens almost EVERY SINGLE time. It is to the point where I dont even want to have sexbecause I know it is just doing to be a huge dissaopintment!
When he starts foreplay now, it jsust REALLY pisses me off!
2007-06-04 11:51:21 · 11 answers · asked by SS_COPE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is against me having "toys" becasue he has a complex about it.. like he's not good enough or something.
We have the ring things, and they are useless to us atleast.
2007-06-04 14:06:56 · update #1
And like I said we already have one child together we don't really have enough time to do it more than once a day or have time for him to "rub one out!"
2007-06-04 14:08:23 · update #2
LOTS of guys have this problem, and it needs time, love, understanding, and work.
Have you considered that he thinks your so incredibly sexy and he's so turned on by you, that he just gets too excited? Could it be that you are an incredible lover?
Since you are both young, my suggestion is that you let him get into his foreplay, have sex, and when he ejaculates, give him 5 minutes, and start again. Or, masturbate him until he achieves orgasm, then begin foreplay and intercourse.
Blaming him and getting angry at him is sort of childish, and doesn't help to accomplish anything except make you both feel resentful.
In time this will pass, but ti migh take a LONG time. I had this problem, and it persisted for six years, until finally I was able to go more than 5 minutes the first time without "relieving" my pressure before we began.
Thank god my wife was understanding.
I just kept reminding her that she was the most incredible lover I'd ever had, and I couldn't help myself. Fortunately we were able to do a lot of experimenting to see what worked the best for both of us.
So, dont get angry, get some satisfaction. And learn to work around his "issue," he's not doing it to piss you off, and he probably feels bad enough without you laying a guilt trip on him.
Oh, and the Stop and Squeeze technique that most people talk about... that doesn't work for a lot of us, especially when our lover gets too excited. Sometimes you just have to let it blow, and start again, or keep going.
2007-06-04 13:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by KGene1969 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a more common problem than people realize. But take heart, this can be a fun thing. For one, quickies are quick and excitable. My hubbie is the same. Yes he is very turned on by me. But he stays at full attention afterward and he can be pleased several times a night which really builds my confidence. So let him take control first then its all you. We also like to do others things for him to ejaculate first then have intercourse. And remember when you are pregnant your vaginal area is more confined and tight. He may enjoy that, and some guys like pregnant women, it's like look what we made.
2007-06-04 19:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by gemandjam2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should take it as a compliment. Not ***** about it. You made the Man a Daddy, you obviously excite him. Give it some time. All men go through it. There may come a time when he can't get it up on some given night. Then you will be beggin' for the "quick shot". Oh, if you are pregnant right now, you may be a little hormonial unstable, so keep that in mind as well.
2007-06-04 19:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by Ponyboy99 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont get upset. it happens to all of us. some more than others. but you can go to an adult store and buy certain rings and toys that will help with that issue.or maybe have him do certain foreplay activities that you can achieve your climax and then let him have his in that minute.
or take it as a compliment, that means your were so good that he couldnt take it anymore.
also do it more times that once. the second time always takes forever or longer than the first. so does the third, and fouth times. so you might be in for a long night ifyou can get him to do it that many times.
2007-06-04 18:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a talk with him I mean two kids and suddenly the premeature ejaculation now!! It could be a medical condition as well if he can't help it maybe he should go see a doctor and find out what is going on with his system. Don't blame him it doesn't seem like its his fault so talk to him and be serious and don't be harsh men have feelings too but maybe he will see a doctor to find out what is going on.
2007-06-04 18:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by zeethevampyre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of getting "pissed off," perhaps you should question why this is occurring. While it is normal for most men to experience this, it is not normal for someone so young to experience it on a regular basis. He should see his doctor to be sure there are no underlying health concerns and also the doctor can help get to the bottom of non-life threatening reasons. Be supportive and nonjudgmental
2007-06-04 19:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by Banríon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about when he starts fore play, he takes you to the point of true bliss. Or have him empty one from the chamber, Rub one out, about an hour before sex. This way he will have a longer hang time before the big bang. It works, trust me.
2007-06-04 18:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by papabear7630 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That just means that he really likes your vagina. He can't help it. My wife turns me out almost every night. I have to finish the job with my tongue most of the time.
2007-06-04 19:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of blaming the guy, how about taking control help him with his problem.
2007-06-04 18:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
come on over i have an idea how to deal with this problem
2007-06-04 21:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by doug h 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋