Marriage & Divorce - 4 June 2007

My marraige was over before 6 months had passed. My ex was abusive (cliche I know but he admitted the first round, went to counseling, stopped drinking and I thought we'd be ok)
He was a financial catastrophe, and after he stopped drinking turned really mean (I think they call this a dry drunk)/
So, from the time my father learned I had included his home on the restraint order, and threw a fit on the phone while I was at work (total lack of respect) we've had little contact.
I don't understand why my father now has weekly dinners with this jerk, has had the ex's parents to dinner (this never happened the whole time we were married!) yet he doesn't call me ever. Barely says hello when we see each other at family gatherings either.
How can a father turn his back on his daughter for an admitted abusive jerk?
Why doesn't he see that its wrong?
I could never EVER choose my children's spouses over my own children. Unconditional love is supposed to be unconditional, right?

2007-06-04 08:39:22 · 9 answers · asked by Kelly K 2

2007-06-04 08:31:51 · 22 answers · asked by A Devils Eye 1

My son has (over the past couple of months) been causing pain to himself when he gets angry or frustrated, Its seems to mostly be when his dad gets on him and he can be very harsh with his words. My son does seem a little sensitive to things, but I think it is because he has no self esteem. The first time I really noticed was when I saw that he had a couple of faint black eyes and when I asked him where he got them he said "oh I did it" and I knew he had becuase I heard him in his room the night before and it was after his dad had been real hard on him. There has been other times and I try not to make a big deal about it incase it is for attention. I am torm with what I should do. He does also seem immature for his age and some kids will be his friend until someone else comes along better then they make fun of him and it hurts. I told his Dad this morning what he has been doing, but I am wondering if maybe this isn't a good environment (my husband can be verbally abusive)

2007-06-04 08:25:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-04 08:21:59 · 17 answers · asked by kathy s 1

Is controlling and does not participate in anything with his wife, mocks his wife in public, does not cooperate in parenting his kids with his wife and does not want to discuss the situation? Would you leave him?

2007-06-04 08:19:12 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-04 08:12:55 · 41 answers · asked by J 1

My bf (black) wants me to come to a party this weekend..he said to be the entertainment.....I have NEVER done anything like this...anyone ever have?

2007-06-04 08:11:55 · 13 answers · asked by R R 1

Or to even feel a bit hostile towards the idea?

2007-06-04 08:07:27 · 20 answers · asked by Lane 3

Please give me an advice on how to dump this guy. I've been dating him for 13 months. his ex-wife and kids depend on him too much. I realize I am not ready for this. I want a man with no kids. (but later on, have one of our own). I am afraid I would have to pay for everything if we get married. so, help and do not be cruel please. I need something I can really use so I can get out of this but I don't want to offend him. thanks.

2007-06-04 08:07:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife thinks I am a liar. We are newly married. Even for small stuff
she thinks I am not telling thr truth. She sometimes accuses me that
I am lying. She says I have a habit of lying.

One example is ...she asked me if i know which door the neighbor uses..
backdoor or the front ..and i told her I did not know..and she
said I lied to her..and she says she wants to hear the truth..i told
her i do not know which dooor they use..and she said I lied that
I know..

well i am not sure why my wife is concerned with small stuffs. What should
I do so that I do not get pissed off..may be it will go over with time.
i do not want to loose my temper or start a fight over it ..trying to
prove that I did not lie...i clearly did not lie

any suggestions dealing with these kind of situations

Thanks

2007-06-04 08:06:41 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I were married for almost 30 years. We each have a tattoo with both our names on our arms. What do I do? Do I keep it because of the 30 years invested in the marriage? Do I cover up the names because we are no longer married? How will another man feel if I have my now ex-husband's name tattooed on my arm? What do I do?

2007-06-04 08:00:13 · 40 answers · asked by Sue W 1

because I have basketball, and I think the toe broke when I put my foot into the shoe. Can you break a toe? I didn't think it was possible. My wife says I'm a moron.

2007-06-04 07:55:16 · 23 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

When my girlfriend proposed to me some 3+ years ago I said I would do it on 1 condition - NO BIG WEDDING! This was both of ours 2nd time and I wasn't even sure getting married again was the right thing to do... BUT - she was SO in love with me and so sure about this - I thought it will work out Next week we will have been married for 3 years and we now have 2 daughters together - and I have to say - I never thought I could love someone like I do my wife.. I am just CRAZY about her... which brings me to my question. She recently mentioned that she really wanted a big wedding with me and she only went along with it because its what I wanted. Also - she mentioned that I never even proposed - and when I look back on it now I realize what a DICK I was and I'd do anything to make it right. Our anniversay is next week - I was thinking of taking her out to dinner then getting down on one knee & finally proposing... I also jotted down some vows I would have said at our wedding. any thoughts?

2007-06-04 07:43:31 · 9 answers · asked by Doogie 3

I'm just curious. I'm waiting. However, whenever people find out I'm waiting, they always ask me why. I have never heard anyone ever ask someone who wasn't waiting why they weren't waiting.

So, for curiosity sake - for those of you who aren't waiting - why not?

And for those of you who are waiting - I'll go ahead and ask you why, too.

2007-06-04 07:38:41 · 28 answers · asked by muchadoaboutnothing 3

Anyone been through the same thing? She has a strange history, affairs with priests and married men, all of whom have now died? He is very rude to me and I don't want a divorce because I strongly believe in my marriage vows and I want to keep a father for my children who are all under 18. Any suggestions?

2007-06-04 07:38:36 · 85 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are in a role reversal marriage. My husband stays home and takes care of the house and I work full-time. Lately, I almost find myself making excuses for why he is home. Is there any reason why I should be embarrassed that he is a full-time homemaker? I say this because a lot of people will automatically say, "Oh, when he is going to get a job". Any advice?

2007-06-04 07:37:00 · 40 answers · asked by Claudia 1

I am 21 yrs old still in college who is divorcing after 3.7 months of marriageLong story short we took 4 month break before marriage i had a fling w/ex.bfand got married unaware i was pregnant w/ ex.bf child.I will only be getting about 6,450 from the divorce not much.My parents are at their summer home not coming back till november.They would not even listen past words divorce and refuse to talk about anything till they get back told me to find a way to take care of myself in mean time.My cousin foud a house her mom owns as house flip she rents out about 25-30 min away from where my family(relatives),parents live, and my ex.bf lives in the same town 5 mins away.The home is small bugilo w/back yard.The area is what she calls blue collar workers town but i have heard that area has a bit of a shady reputation.This is not the sort of place i ever expected to live.Am i beeing a snob?
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2007-06-04 07:25:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it possible in India for a wife to claim rights on the property owned by her husband during divorce?

2007-06-04 07:24:41 · 6 answers · asked by kk 1

2007-06-04 07:07:17 · 36 answers · asked by gerald k 1

Is it better for a parent not to date and concentrate on raising the kid until the kid is 18 and out of the house?...or is it better for a kid to have one step parent and the biological parent so he can grow with both parents?? whats the damage when a parent remarries brings the new steparent to the kids life and then there is another divorce?
Is there any information (statistical numbers, websites ) about this??

2007-06-04 06:57:03 · 21 answers · asked by coolmarine24 2

our relationship has run its course. any attempts to talk have only ended up in arguments and she very inconsiderate and unappreciative but everytime i want to leave, she starts trying to be nice. Its been 5 years of this same routine and i cant take it anymore. how do i get myself out of this mess

2007-06-04 06:46:15 · 8 answers · asked by the dude 513 1

I recently posted about being married to a man who is good to my kids but I am not in love with him. I should also not that I have been talking to a friend of mine in a "more than friends" way. My husband is nice, overly sensitive but a great father. I am not happy here. I was pushed into marrying him and I am not a very strong person so I have never spoken up about my feeling till now. Now that I have I have become a wreck- I dont want to hurt him but I need to be true to myself. Now everyone who answered the last question said I need to think of the kids, I am- they are my life. If mommy is crying everyday or depressed on a daily basis how is that good for them. If daddy wont even talk to me then what? I told him i was not happy, but he makes me feel so guilty, he has always been good at that. I am not leaving him to run to another man, I would be leaving him to find me, then I might find that I was wrong about him or that the other is good for me. I know I a a messed up person, help

2007-06-04 06:44:16 · 16 answers · asked by Sun of the Dark 1

She has plenty of jewelry and clothing already.

2007-06-04 06:40:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-04 06:35:38 · 18 answers · asked by Robert B 1

My husband and I recently got married and have been living together for almost two years. We had a financial emergency and have come up sixty dollars short on the rent. We haven't ever been late before.

When I explained this to my husband, instead of taking it calmly and just saying "we'll just have to be late then" he freaked out and said "I'm going to call my mother and get the money!!"

I don't understand his behavior. His mother is really bad about making him feel awful for asking for anything from her and she'll guilt-trip him and lecture/nag him for his 'choices'. He is aware of this and has stated that he dreads asking her for anything.

I get paid at the end of the week and while the rent will be a few days late, we'll manage it on our own without having to deal with the tears and guilt-trips. I think this is the better solution...what do you think?

2007-06-04 06:35:21 · 11 answers · asked by Kitten 4

Trying to market to newly married couples

2007-06-04 06:24:19 · 2 answers · asked by Paige P 1

I'm 23 years old and I've been with my husband for 7 years, since I was a sophomore in HS. We have 2 young kids now, and we are going to try again for baby #3 soon. We had a miscarriage a little while ago, and I wanted some tips on how to focus things on our making love, rather than making a baby. Any ideas on how to spice things up?

2007-06-04 06:15:33 · 16 answers · asked by Las Vegas 2

If yes, why

If no, why not

2007-06-04 06:11:15 · 49 answers · asked by Antares 6

My step-son has been through a lot in his young 7 years. He's survived living in an orphanage for 20 months, being adopted, having his Mom leave 10 months later, re-marry a year later, have a baby, and have his dad re-marry (to me). His Mom is getting divorced again. I am in no way judging her (this is between her & her husband), but I know that my step-son cares for his step-dad very much. Stepson spends the summer with his Mom before coming home for school. He's going through this now while with her and she's already said he's acting out. What is the best way to help him cope with the divorce and loss of a step-parent? I have no experience in this except for being the stepmom... do kids go through the same normal feelings even when it's a stepparent?

DH and I want to do whatever we can to help stepson out as much as possible. He usuallly talks to me a lot and will open up with me more than anyone else. I want to do the right thing! Please help! Thank you.

2007-06-04 06:01:45 · 7 answers · asked by enhanna 2

I must be the stupidist person, I am married to a decent man, he is good to the kids. I have never felt deeply for him, we have had a very rough 4 yrs of marriage- you name it, we have had it already. We have discused divorce, even filled out the papers. I am not sure if we are both insecure or just sure yet- I am not wanting this to be the biggest mistake i ever make. I have been talking romantically to a close friend recently. I am confused, I have always had a strong connection to this friend and now there is the opprotunity to be more. He is fantastic, really. I am just afraid- I am at a crossroads in my life and I don't know which path to choose. The one I have been on but never been fulfilled in or the one with the friend which is uncharted but promising. Am I being selfish by wanting more in life than what is now? Will I always regret not taking the other road (whichever i choose)? Please explain why this is happening in my life? Why can't I be?

2007-06-04 05:59:26 · 17 answers · asked by Sun of the Dark 1