My husband and I were married for almost 30 years. We each have a tattoo with both our names on our arms. What do I do? Do I keep it because of the 30 years invested in the marriage? Do I cover up the names because we are no longer married? How will another man feel if I have my now ex-husband's name tattooed on my arm? What do I do?
2007-06-04 08:00:13 · 40 answers · asked by Sue W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
before I get to my answer, what the heck is "nawl"?
anyway, if it's a picture that can be filled in with color, do that. (like a ribbon or some sort or a heart, etc) if it's just a name, then you can get a cover-up tat, and you'll never know it was there. No one can predict how another man will feel about a tat you got when you were married, fully expecting to go the distance. If he's understanding, he won't mind, but if he's insecure and immature, he'll probably have a hissy fit. It'd then be up to you as to whether you'd like to invest more time in a man with that low of self esteem.....
If it bugs you to have it, get rid of it. If its something that really doesn't bother you, don't sweat it.
2007-06-04 08:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by usmcmama826 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you got the tattoo it was all about you and him. Another man can't get upset because you had a past life before you met him. For the record, tattoos and fine but names are such a thing of the past, You can get it covered with a flower, cat, lion, whatever interest you.
Just to make this a bit more interesting. If you chose to keep it, how will you feel in 10 years when you find out that your ex had your name covered up the same year he left?
I think a cover-up is in order here!
2007-06-04 08:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband had that problem. His first wife's name was on his arm, and he just covered up her name. The only name he has now is "mom".
I'm sorry your marriage dissolved after 30 years together. That's a long time. Just black out his name, but keep your name showing. You'll always have yourself to love. Good luck in your future.
2007-06-04 08:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by Weezilmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would either just keep it or have it altered so that it doesn't look like a name anymore. I would also think that your next partner would probably be pretty understanding about it, given you were married for 30 yrs.
I have 2 tattoos and I do regret getting them (I was 18). They are not names but they are still cheesy. One day I will probably have them removed.
2007-06-04 08:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE Main reason why I don't like tattoos.
You can go to a dermatologist and get advice on laser therapy to remove the tattoo. It's painful, and may leave a scar - but you won't have your names on your arm anymore.
2007-06-04 08:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm not married and i don't have a tattoo so the only help i can really give is keep it there. the two of you must of had some good times together. if some guy starts buggin out b/c you have your exhubby's name on your arm they really don't care for you!
2007-06-04 08:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oops. Well, 30 years was a helluva run anyways. Go to a good, reputable tat shop. They can often make text into some sort of intricate design.
2007-06-04 08:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by Gaius Caligula 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should get it removed...
its expensive tho! i am getting my birthmark removed and it is the same proccess as getting a tatoo removed and i have to pay about 3 grand a month and so far its been almost 3 yrs...
but its almost gone! Plus my Parents have been paying 4 it (which is nice) since they know im homeless ...
so your probubly wonder "if he is homeless then how is he on the computer?"
good question im @ the local library!
2007-06-04 08:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Names are one of the poorest tattoo decisions one can make, unless they are your children's names.
Tats can be removed so you might want to look into that. I'd never have a name put on me anyway, but certainly wouldn't want the name of someone I'm no longer with to be on my body forever.
I would imagine your next boyfriend wouldn't think it was kewl. If I dated a guy with an ex girlfriend's name on him somewhere, I'd just think he'd made a really stupid move and wouldn't want it visible when we were together as I wouldn't want people to assume it was my name.
2007-06-04 08:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no matter how much you love someone,you are married to someone.it don't matter.rule number one do not tattoo any man/woman that you're in a relationship with on your body they aren't guaranteed forever,if anything i have my kids name tattooed on my arms and not my husband's name,absolutely not.
2007-06-04 08:52:45 · answer #10 · answered by nickkie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋