2007-06-04 06:35:38 · 18 answers · asked by Robert B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I love how many of the girls say it is wrong BUT they would be the first to send in their girlfriends to see how messed up a guy is (OR they think he is). There are the same amount of GOOD women and there are men (and vice versa). If you want to know what your wife is doing behind your back then go ahead, BUT BEWARE OF THE CONSEQUENCES IF YOU ARE WRONG AND GET CAUGHT. If your wife is trying to suprise you for your birthday, and you find out, then the suprise is thrown out the window.
Checking the computer history is o.k. BUT if you use AOL or YAHOO Mail, you would only see the sites they went to (not read the e-mail that is sent/received). If you really want to know what she is doing, you can try hacking into her e-mail and read it. That is why if I am going to cheat (KEYWORD ... IF), I would use my work e-mail address, not my yahoo e-mail address.
If you don't trust your wife, if it is something new then o.k. BUT if it is something old, then WHY THE HELL DID YOU MARRY HER?
jk
2007-06-04 06:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read your other question too. I guess, you already did the snooping.
The short answer is you need your wife's email password to check email. The files are only stored on your computer if you download mail into outlook or something of that nature.
Sorry your wife has posted an ad (if you confirmed it was her). For what it's worth though, I am married and posted one on Match-dot-com. The only reason I did it was because one of my college roomates told me she was running and ad and I couldn't read her profile unless I created a profile of my own first. I had no intention of meeting women, I just wanted to make fun of my old roomate. I assume it would be easy to see if the ad was serious or just a joke. Either way, she is hiding it from you and that isn't good.
I would suggest getting at the root of the problem. Ask a lot of questions. Give her an easy out, and if she takes it...let her go. If she doesn't want to breakup, tell her you found the ad. Cut the wound wide open, and begin healing.
If you let it go without addressing it, you will resent her and always be digging through her stuff for evidence. Not a healthy way to live. This all starts with having an honest an open conversation about where your head is and where hers is.
2007-06-04 08:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by DH1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with the other answers entirely. I checked and found that ms messanger is installed and other devices that open email that I was told weren't there in our computers. One can even get the fact that the message is read sent to their cell phones. There were camera devices and speech recognition devices and other resources that people use for live messenger. Email files are kept in files in the computer but almost impossible to open. I wish you luck but mine denies it all and he even has timers set to time when they come in. I hope your wife is not. It is very sad to know about. I am sorry I found out. His dishonesty is ruining our marriage. I know that something in not right and he stays on that computer like clock work daily. He even gets up at 3:00 in the morning to check it sometimes. good luck. If you are not seeing other devices it might not be true. I visit this site and never use email but blocked emails. If she is not doing it and you accuse that will ruin your marriage too. I suspected mine because of other internet activity he denied. Don't got there unless you are sure.
2007-06-04 08:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by nolongeractive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. you can't. has she got a separate email account? If so you will need the password to log on to it unless it is open - if she uses gmail yahoo or hotmail these are password protected. But if you have reached that stage it is time for a heart to heart with her. If she finds out you have been checking up it will make the situation worse. Do you want this?
2007-06-04 06:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you suspect her of being up to no good. If so I would just talk to her. Not go snooping around her email account that's a bit childish don't you think
2007-06-04 07:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by mrsknowitall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... I don't believe you can. My fiance checked my e-mail and although I had nothing to hide it really hurt my feelings that he didn't trust me and went into my personal space. I suggest you talk to your wife before you go digging in the dirt!
2007-06-04 06:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by lottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be able to. Sometimes when you try to pull up previously accessed files it will ask for password verification. You would have better luck looking at the history.
2007-06-04 06:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by Briana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to check her email? If you suspect something you should talk to her about it.
2007-06-04 06:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your life is in danger, snooping is never a good answer. You should learn to trust your wife and not mess with her personal belongings.
2007-06-04 07:01:44 · answer #9 · answered by deekay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't go snooping around in your wife's stuff. If you have a suspicion about something, ask her straight out.
2007-06-04 06:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by Aquaria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋