Is a marital affair ever justified?

Answer 1

The justification is never right. If there a problems in a relationship then they need worked out. even if the other person cheated it is still not ok because then a cycle of betrayal begins.

Answer 2

I think a marital affair can be justified depending on the chain of events. People are not perfect and tend to make mistakes. Marriages are filled with ups and downs and most times extramarital affairs are involved. As long as the couple seeks counseling to find out what went wrong or why he/she cheated, then they can start working on patching the marriage back up. Sometime people can be driven into extramarital affairs, and some people just do it because they can. Everyone is different, but an affair is justifiable.

Answer 3

No. If a marriage is having problems, do something to rectify that (counseling or separation). Having an affair is just adding problems to problems. And if a marriage isn't having problems than the person having the affair is just a cheat and liar anyway and shouldn't be in a committed relationship just waiting for the spouse to find out about the affair and be hurt. And if one spouse cheated and the other one does it to "get back" well, that's just the old "two wrongs don't make a right". Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 4

No. Even if the other person has cheated on you it is still not justified for you to cheat on them because you would only be stooping down to that level. Its perfectly normal to look at other people but when you go beyond that, that is when you have a problem. If you have feelings of wanting to have an affair you may want to see what the deeper problem in you marriage is rather than using someone to supplement your relationship in order to fill that empty space. Best of luck!

Answer 5

No.

People try to justify it all the time. But the fact is they want their cake and eat it too. They want to keep their options open at the expense of their spouse and their affair partner.

If the marriage is over, then get divorced. If you're married, then don't get involved with someone else. How hard is that?

Answer 6

Yes, affairs can be justified, but the cannot be made right.

I am not religious, but I still believe in making a vow and sticking to it. If a person is unhappy, the right thing to do would be to end the marriage before cheating or resisting the temptation to cheat.

Answer 7

Not only no, but hell no. If you try to justify it because your spouse cheated first, then you're doing it out of spite. If you truly love your spouse you would never inflict the kind of pain an affair can cause.

Answer 8

No an affair is never justified. Even if the other partner cheated first it still is not ok.

Answer 9

Yes, it is always justified.
Backgound: Research indicates that long before written history, primitive clans and tribes were living within small, highly inter-dependent social structures. Many of these groups had some type of ceremony marking the forming of a union or marriage between two opposite sex partners. Within different societies, independent unions of two people, were considered the best way to secure food and shelter, defend against outside aggressors, and raise offspring. Yet despite this proclivity towards marriage, and insistence that the marriage partners remain monogamous, human beings have been engaging in non-monogamous activities throughout history. ====> so it is in our genes, justification # 1.
Our historical concern about affairs is evident in the inclusion of extramarital affairs as one of the sins mentioned in the Ten Commandments. The fact that affairs are wrong, even considered to be a sin, has been ingrained into us through our social, cultural and religious upbringing. Yet despite the social and religious disapproval of them, they have been an ever present phenomenon for us to deal with.
=======> Justification # 2: No matter what the penalty is, our nature tends to break the rule of monogamy, apparently because it is not natural.
So why are so many people having affairs despite such powerful social and religious doctrines against them? . Some of these include dissatisfaction with the marital relationship, emotional emptiness, need for sexual variety, inability to resist new sexual opportunity, anger at a partner, no longer being "in love", alcohol or drug addiction, growing apart, desire to get a partner jealous... to name just a few.
=======> Justification # 3: It makes up happy and whatever makes up happy it is worth existing.
On the other hand, despite the fact that affairs have been a problem for married couples throughout history, and that there appears to be an increasing number of affairs at this time, we probably know that (====> Justification # 4: human nature is not to blame. At least not in the traditional sense as stated above.
Maybe our proclivity towards affairs is more a symptom of our inability to find satisfaction in our long term relationships because of the expectations we place on them in the first place, then any biological drive towards multiple sexual partners. Possibly our inability to remain "in love" with our partners as we grow and mature and our life circumstances change is what drives us to look for another intimate relationship.
The loss of the high level of passion and desire that existed in the beginning of the relationship may result in boredom or develop into a feeling of apathy towards the partner. Combined with all of the other stresses and complexities of long term relationships, such as financial problems, raising children, job changes, death of family members, change in status, etc., the loss of passion may lead to a desire to rediscover it in the start of a new relationship.

======> Justification # 4: The desire to experience the "new" or "forbidden" sexual relationship, but rather the need to re-experience the intense level of passion and the feeling of being "in love" and all which that implies, that leads to affairs. Therefore, extramarital affairs may be the result of the need of a satifaying emotional relationship. Possibly our need for intense emotional experiences leads to a desire to rediscover the feelings that come at the start of a new love relationship.
Finally, many people report feeling unappreciated, ignored, sexually frustrated and no longer desirable to their partners. They almost invariably say that they are no longer "in love" with their partners and lack the level of intimacy that they once had. =======> Justification # 5: Life is short and we are the only ones responsible for our own happiness... having an affair is a distinctive action of honesty toward ourselvesd because that comes after a careful analysis.

Answer 10

My opinion is no its not. You have vowed to be with one person and if you cant uphold those vows then you shouldnt be married. I dont think having an affair is ever justified.