wife thinks I am a liar?

Question

my wife thinks I am a liar. We are newly married. Even for small stuff
she thinks I am not telling thr truth. She sometimes accuses me that
I am lying. She says I have a habit of lying.

One example is ...she asked me if i know which door the neighbor uses..
backdoor or the front ..and i told her I did not know..and she
said I lied to her..and she says she wants to hear the truth..i told
her i do not know which dooor they use..and she said I lied that
I know..

well i am not sure why my wife is concerned with small stuffs. What should
I do so that I do not get pissed off..may be it will go over with time.
i do not want to loose my temper or start a fight over it ..trying to
prove that I did not lie...i clearly did not lie

any suggestions dealing with these kind of situations

Thanks

Answer 1

She has some major trust issues. There is nothing you can do. She will need to have some counseling to deal with it. I would bet her father lied to her or her mother all the time. Talk to her about some couple's counseling and those issues will reveal themselves and get dealt with.

Answer 2

She is a patient. Get her medically checked up. Keep quiet most of the time & give short & to the point reply when she asks anything. By experience she will come to know that u tell the truth. Neither have any argument nor altercation nor lengthy discussion on any topic for the time being as she is too much immature to be equal to u in life experience related matters. A woman like her may make a mockery of your prestige, dignity & honour in public places or in front of outsiders if such attitude continues. This problem comes to many newly married people b coz the wife suddenly coming from one place of her parents where many family members r there to a new place with husband where lifestyle is totally different to make a nuclear family & having not many persons to talk & discuss so many things. Take her to beautiful sights a little far from your place of living weekly to enjoy & talk only about love, romance & happiness & ask her ideas how to make the house of a newly married couple the happiest within your resources. Tell her that you r very intelligent & when she is very happy on this , immediately ask her to give her intelligent ideas how to increase the family income by all legal means after a lot of thought for few days. Instead of answering her questions pose such tricky questions about day today needs or activities to put hes mind in deep thoughts. Soon she will be okay. It is possible that u may not be loving her that much she deserves or both of u may have physical incompatibility for sex, say one is slim & other is stout. That can be corrected in 3 months. Arouse her daily for sex & do every night to reach orgasm to please her maximum without fail. Many married couple do not know & never reach orgasm in whole married life b coz G-spot of both do not touch at all. In such cases surgical removal of the foreskin of man is recommended & both start reaching orgasm daily. After that wife becomes completely cool in behaviour as she gets maximum benifit & bliss of marriage & actually realising the tremendous necessity & importance of marriage for a woman. Even if that is not the problem , this formula will bring sea change in her behaviour. Most of the ladies r angry on husbands b coz of less sex than necessity. Find it out.

Answer 3

My X wife did the same thing. It seemed she just wanted an excuse to argue. Or was she just trying to get my attention or was she guilty of something. One day we were driving and passed a car. She accussed me of being in that car with a girl at that moment. Whats wrong with that picture? My wife was a drug addict... Could she be on something including medication? Did you just meet her? You didn't know she was like this? I spent several years being the perfect man. That is exactly what she couldn't believe. Maybe she is trying to find fault in you. Are you perfect? Does she think you are trying to pass yourself off as perfect? Talk to her about that. Let her know you are not perfect. But if you are, some people just cant handle being less than the other. Make her feel equal. My relationship ended because she wanted to drink, smoke, and do drugs but I didn't. If she never feels equal, or if she feels less or if she thinks you are not as smart as her? See, its a no win with women. Just give more attention

Answer 4

If she is unquestionably having a era lasting that long, then she could pass see a physician NOW. I had problems with this, might have a era for 3 weeks, off for a million or 2 weeks, on returned for 4 weeks. It replaced right into a considerable sickness which required scientific interest. Rule out wellbeing problems till now thinking she's mendacity. If no wellbeing problems are there, then you definately can proceed with out doubt as to what to do next.

Answer 5

Time for counselling. Should have done this before "I do" but now is as good a time as any.

With the counsellor (or your minister, or other respected third party) acting as mediator - ask your wife why she thinks you lie all the time - especially about silly stuff that shouldn't matter anyway?
Why is it important to know what door the neighbor uses? How silly.

but you're right - this needs to be stopped before she pushes you into doing something stupid - like lying for real.

I truly suspect this is just a symptom of something more serious. It's really time for counselling.

Answer 6

Sometimes, when people get marry they start to realize that their spouse will be with there for the rest of their life. This make them to rethink everything and reevaluate their spouse. So, after doing so, they can find that it seems to them that they no longer love their spouse (they think so). And as a result, they might get depressed because they might think that their choice was not correct one and their is nothing can be done about that. With time they start acting accusingly to express their frustration and dislike.

Therefore, before you do anything else... Right after she tells you that you lie, ask her if she actually LOVEs you. Ask her right after the incident. And if she said that she does love you, then ask her why she doesn't not trust you. Otherwise, this totally different story...

Answer 7

First of all trust is a big part of any relationship. Why is she accusing you of lying all the time. You both need to sit down and talk about why she feels everything you say is a lie. All relationships are going to have ups and downs, but to constantly accuse there is a problem that needs to be addressed, I suggest asking her what the real problem is and address it or get counseling.

Answer 8

She seems VERY insecure, what you describe is quite odd. Try to reassure her every day how much you love her, how attractive she is, and that you will never lie to her. Apparently she has had some past history where someone she cared about has lied to her a lot. She might need counseling to get past her mistrust issues.

Answer 9

Sit her down in a calm moment. Look her in the eye and tell her; "it really puts me off when you accuse me of lying because I dont. Stop it now because your accusations are driving a wedge between us". I hope this helps, coz your wife is really being petty. Your neighbour is not your business and if she wants to know which door they use, then she should monitor them herself.

Answer 10

your wife sounds like her problem may not be with you ....sometimes women are hurt or lied to in past relationships and the scars from it still affect them , i understand how frustrating this may be but try to be understanding and talk to her about it you are newlyweds and you have to learn to understand each other on a deeper level than before and also trust is one of the most important things when it comes to marriage. but if this does not work you may have to seek professional help and try talking to a counciler .....hope this helps