If yes, why
If no, why not
2007-06-04 06:11:15 · 49 answers · asked by Antares 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes..because a friend shouldn't keep something so bad from her. Tell her..and be there for her through the pain.
2007-06-04 06:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! The reason respect. Your friend with someone for a reason. You can be honest and forthright about all sorts of things. That's why you have friends. You respect her opinion and respect who she is as a person or she wouldn't be your closest friend. Have the respect as a friend to let her know what you know. Because if you know obviously others do or will too. How would you feel if you found out that your spouse had been cheating and all these people knew about it and didn't tell you? Not only would you feel heartbroken and betrayed by your husband but betrayed by the friends that were suppose to watch your back not make you feel/look like a fool! She is putting all of her time and effort into a relationship that obviously means d*ck to her husband or else he would be sleeping around like some whore. Personally all of my friend have talked about the same senario. We all agreed we'd rather hear it from our friends then find out later from someone else or for ourselves who know's how long down the line. Not only would we be there for each other but we make that lying & cheating S.O.B. wish he were never born! Good luck to you and best of luck to your friend.
2007-06-04 06:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this were my BFF and I had proof I would tell her. Normally I'm all about minding my own business, but for me, when I consider you my best friend I think that you are from my blood. I take anything that happens to you very personally. Also, I'm not known for being a good liar or holding my emotions in check...so my BFF would know I had a problem.
This is one of those questions that will turn out poorly either way. If I tell or don't tell, I could lose a friend.
2007-06-04 06:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, well I got into trouble with a situation like this in high school. My cousin was cheating on my best friend and I told him (my best friend) because she wasn't going to and because she was really promiscous. He broke up with her and she never spoke to me again. I felt bad at the time and some said I should have minded my own business, but I would probably do the same thing again. Especially if it was a marriage. I would probably tell the husband I knew and give him a chance to tell her himself, but make it clear that if he does not, I will. I would want to know (and most people probably would too).
2007-06-04 06:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, because she's going to eventually find out. And if she finds out you knew & didn't tell her, she will be VERY upset with you and you will probably lose her as a friend. If you tell her now and she doesn't believe you, she may get mad and not be your friend for a while. If this happens, you should be patient and understand that she's hurting and that she will eventually realize that you were only trying to help and that her husband is the jerk, not you.
2007-06-04 06:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by snacgirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I will definetly would be the one telling her, but I will get proofs to back that up. So that I don't end up being the one that likes the husband ( you know how it gets!) It's not fair that she is in the drak like this. I wouldn't judge her whatever her descision is, but I will definetly offer to be there for her for anything!
When that happened to me, I was very thankfull that this one friend told me. Every one pretty much knew but didn't have the courage to tell me. I thank to that friend every day because, I was making so many plans with that person I was in a relation with. I trusted him a lot, when my friend opened up my eyes I actually got so many answer to my questions, and the best descision in my case was to leave it.
Be supportive for your friends, and if you are going to tell her be tactfull and don't rubber it in her face kinda way.
2007-06-04 06:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jeenie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell her. I always saw it as, "I rather see you get hurt by the truth, then by a lie." If you don't tell her and she finds out that you already knew, she probably won't forgive you either. Do her the favor and tell her so that she can find somebody that treats her better than her husband and will also respect the relationship. I hope its not YOU that he is cheating on your friend with.
2007-06-04 06:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by mrz_lr 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How can I say this, hell yes. I think about the golden rule, would I want my friends to tell me that my boyfriend/husband isn't true? Of course. Your friend deserves to know. She might get upset but I think she will appreciate it. I've told a friend her husband was cheating on her and she was grateful and my friend told me my ex boyfriend wasn't true and I am glad because I wasn't being made a fool out of and I wasn't in the dark about things.
2007-06-04 06:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jordan D 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have been there! My best friends husband was sleeping with his brother's wife and I knew it! I struggled with it at first, but I did end up telling her. She was in denial at first. Of course he denied it and accused me of trying to break up their marrriage so I could sleep with him - ha!! After I told her, I just stepped away from the situation and waited for it to all unfold. Eventually it did. He left her and ran off with his brothers wife. Although our friendhip suffered momentarily, I was the first person she called when he walked out.
Do the right thing! Don't worry about the possible outcome. If you know for sure, she needs to be told. You cannot control what she does with the information and you shouldn't try to push her into anything. Just share what you know and be sure she knows that you are there for her. When it really matters, she will turn to you. In the meantime, let her know that you are honest and that you really care about her!
2007-06-04 06:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by Kailey 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES!
1st of you said "Closest friends" hello wouldnt you expect the same?
better hear if from someone she trusts than to find out on her own. at least shell have one of her "Closest firends" shoulder to cry on .
If you know something like that for sure as a "Close friend" it is a given to tell her or your a piece of S*** for a friend. actually you wouldnt be a friend at all.
oh by the way i have told a "Close friend" that her husband was not faithful and had proof to back it up
2007-06-04 06:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋