I have a Mr. Mom on my hands. He's a great father, good overall man, non smoker and non drinker...problem is, he's perfectly willing to continue to allow me to work two jobs for us to make ends meet, while he works his 8-5 every day and watches my son while I'm working my second job. I'D RATHER BE AT HOME WATCHING MY SON!
Ladies, I know what you're going to say, and it's what I should do, but I'd hate to kick his lazy butt out, cause then my son would be watched by my pseudo-husband's sister, cause I'd still have to work 2 jobs for a while to be ok.
Just go ahead...let me have it.
2007-06-04 14:29:40 · 21 answers · asked by ron-D 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lol... this is perfectly normal for you to feel this way. I dont think you should kick him out or anything... Maybe you r just stressed out about working so much and not being thaere with your soon as much as you should be but I think the both of you are great people and great parents. At least your husband wants to help I know you may think that he should work the sec job (in reality thats how it should be) but at least he is there spending time with your son iinstead of out n about... sorry I am just trying to help you see the brighter side...
2007-06-04 14:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can he be a Mr. Mom if he's working 8-5? I can't see him as lazy when he works. You say he's a good man and a great father- and he HAS a JOB. As you say, kicking him out wouldn't solve the problem, only create more bills.
The real issue is why do you have 2 jobs to make ends meet? Seriously, you have 3 incomes to make it work- that's crazy. The first thing that you guys may be living beyond your means- cut back some of the expenses so you don't have to work a second job. There's got to be something you can do- read a financial book or something to get things together.
If you must, work out a system where you guys can switch for a while and he can work 2 jobs, while you stay at home part of the day (assuming you keep your higher paying job).
2007-06-04 21:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by Twin momma as of 11/11 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seeing how he is your pseudo husband, I think you should be glad that he's willing to watch your son. After all, your son is your responsibility which is why you're working two jobs. He has a job, that's the important thing. He's not lazy because he won't work 2 jobs. When he's not working at all is when you kick his lazy butt out. Until then, do what you have to do to make a living.
If you want to be with your son at night, then quit job #2 and let the bills fall where they may.
2007-06-04 21:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are calling him lazy because he only works 40 hours a week and then watches your son when he's not working? You have a warped idea of what lazy is.....why don't you just say that you resent that he gets to spend time with the boy and you don't. Have you asked him to get the second job so you can spend more time with your son? You have NO WAY to cut down expenses, so that spending time with your son is feasible?
2007-06-04 21:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So it's not that he isn't contributing, b/c he does have a job- you're just jealous of the time he gets to spend with your son? Quit your second job. Spend that time with them. You mention that you'd have to spend time working a second job before you'd be ok- hinting that you could survive on 2 and eventually 1 income. Why not your 1st job and his job? If you can't pay your bills without that 2nd job, talk to your Mr. Mom and ask if he'd consider getting a second job instead of you. If he's not, then you're going to have to deal with it.
2007-06-05 01:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute you work 2 jobs and he works 8-5 how deep in debt are you. You need to get a good paying job and dump these other. Then you need to tell him exactly what you think about the whole situation. If anyone should be working 2 jobs it should be him not you. I work 12 hours and so does my hubby. Do what you have to do.
2007-06-04 21:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in the same situation. I worked 2 jobs while he went to school during the day and then watched our daughter at night. Tell him how you feel, but on the other hand...if he's watching your son and doing the housework...is that such a bad thing?
2007-06-04 21:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by if you were important, you would know it 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing you have to look at here is:
if you leave your 2nd job to look after the kids, your husband obviously will need to get a 2nd job to keep making ends meet right... well, if he was to get the 2nd job, would he earn more than you are now?
dont be selfish in this matter, someone is going to have to do it, you could look at it as "why should i have to do it" but then, if you change, he's going to be thinking the same thing if it changes. If he's great with the kids and housework, and you ARE making ends meet.. why change a formula thats working? you need to determine whats more important. At the moment, i see the most important thing here are your kids, their happiness, and their future.
keep that in mind.
2007-06-04 21:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother was the supporter of our family growing up. My father was unable to work for a short amount of time. Not to mention that when he was working, his temper often made his situation temporary. It is not traditional, but my father did all the things that a SAHM would do. I do understand your frustration, but at least your son is being taken care of by his father and not have to be in daycare.
2007-06-04 22:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by Princess Gracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already tired from two jobs so i am not going to give you any more hassles. Set a limit tell him you will work two jobs for a certain time limit then it is his turn. Does he help around the house?
2007-06-04 21:38:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋