Do you think it is true that if a young woman (lets say between 21 and 25) is dating a much older man (between 50 and 60) that it is because the woman had no father figure and is trying to compensate or find a father figure? Do relationships like this ever work out?
2007-06-04 13:25:51 · 8 answers · asked by L Bosh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think the last two posters are more on tangent. I loved my dad and he was great. He was six years older than my mother and I figured that was a good age to look for older than me. And for a long time those men gave me pieces of the security I had with my dad but not all of it. Go figure I'm dating someone six months younger than me now that is more like my dad than any of the older men I dated previously. Everything we see in relationships doesn't have a simple explanation like she's missing her dad and dates older men or he had a bad relationship with his mom and he treats women badly. How we act and what we look for in a relationship is a culmination of life events to that point.
2007-06-04 13:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure it's about finding or needing a father figure. I just question why a young woman would want such an older man except for financial situations. You have nothing in common and are so out of generational issues, that I can't imagine what you would have to share. You are not even on the same page. I'm sure there are plenty of situations where you can find they "work" but it's not for the reasons that most people marry and want to have a life together. It becomes an arrangement. Most people want to share a life together, building a family, having similar interests, and being within similar age factors.
2007-06-04 13:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible. All depends on the underlying motivations. Seems that if the old guy is super rich, all problems go away (until he dies). Otherwise, there are issues of social stigma, children and their rearing, and sex.
A very young girl with no resources or little love might be attracted to a father figure. But as she matures to, say 30, her view of the world will expand and won't need the father figure anymore. Unless, she has no earning skills and he has lots of money.
2007-06-04 13:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessairly the father figure replacement--but it could be looking at an older man with a sense of security and hoping that the sowing of wild oats may be past,on HIS part, so trust issues will never have to be addressed.
A different type of security, I suppose.
If the feelings are reciprocated, why would it not last?
2007-06-04 13:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm dating an older man and its not for his money.He is the sweetest guy i have ever met. My dad has been in my life all through it so it's not a father figure kind of relationship. My older man treats me better than any younger punk would.
2007-06-04 13:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Or it could be the other way: people who like older women/men had a very strong connection to their opposite sex parent, and is trying to recreate that dynamic with their significant other.
2007-06-04 13:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by Somes J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and yes, but not always, none do.
2007-06-04 14:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
money
need i say more?
2007-06-04 13:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋