Okay my husband and i got married a month and half ago after 4 yrs of dating on and off.I was very unsure about whole thing because while i love my husband but i am not in love with him the way i should be.He's an attractive guy but i am not sextually attracted to him?I felt like i had finally landed the nice guy and this was the natural progression of things.I freaked out the day of my wedding i called an ex.bf from highschool up whom i am close friends but have had on and off flings with over the years to talk.I felt like my life was flashing before my eyes and i had sex with him.I feel horrible and now i am pregnant i had a blood test done to confirm.Husband and i used condoms but my ex and i did not.What to do i do?
2007-06-04 11:15:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My doctor said the odds the child is my husbands is very slim.My ex.bf is due to get married himself in 3 weeks.
2007-06-04 11:19:17 · update #1
Carly i told everyone i need to go out and think.Then i got married that afternoon.
2007-06-04 11:25:10 · update #2
Sounds like a future guest for the Maury show.
2007-06-04 11:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you're not in love with him, then the mistake you made on your wedding day was the wedding itself.
how could you look your husband in the eyes and say "i do" after f%#king your friend?
thats pretty scandilous, shisty sh%t. i can't belive you could acctually go threw with the marrage.
my gawd....
anyways, the right thing to do would be to anolle your marrage so your poor husband doesn't have to go threw the drama of the devorice in a few years when you get CAUGHT f#%CKING around again. you've already decided to be selfish and rewin your husbands life, now you're gonna have a kid.....seems like your not sure if you should tell your husband he's probly not the father. did you tell your f%#k buddy yet? see all the lives your screwing with because you couldn't keep your legs closed? and to top it off, if you're such close friends with this guy from highschool, then i'm sure you knew he was engaged aswell. I would sure like to see what she's gonna do when she finds out. girls like you are always the ones who end up alone. even tho you might be having his baby... he's still gonna stay with the other girl. your just gonna be the annoying scank he had a kid with.
2007-06-04 11:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by team hassolhoff 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have no respect fro your husband you should have not gotten married you should have said no because you are not in love with him. Have the decency to be honest with him before you ruin him and break his heart. Since you did this on your wedding day and it did not affect you till now you will do it again and you are ruining a mans life I hope he is through withn you after you tell him the truth maybe not about the pregnancy but about not being inoive with him you have no shame!!!What kind of person are you
2007-06-04 12:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by zeethevampyre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a month and a half along...and your doctor says he doesn't think it's your husbands? How the heck would he know?
Anyway, being just a few weeks along you can go to an abortion clinic and take a pill and get that all out of your system.....if that's what you want to do. I would hate to be in your situation.....but lucky for me, I didn't have sex with another man on my wedding day.......
2007-06-04 13:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by jezyka 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HE spent time along with his friends and kinfolk the completed 3 days we've been there for the marriage. did not elevate a finger to help with something and when I asked him to help with some elementary initiatives he have been given and suggestions-set. My husband have been given wasted and as quickly as we've been given to our honeymoon candy have been given pissed that he could not get my buttons undone. We argued approximately it, he left and did not come again until day after today at midday. he's a egocentric below the effect of alcohol and that i don't be conscious of why i assumed marrying him could exchange something.
2016-12-18 13:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by fennessey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to ask yourself whether you really wish to spend the rest of your life with this man. Marriage should never be a "natural progression" thing. Be honest with your man now. Better suffer now than suffer in guilt for your life. Life messes up sometimes, its not the end.
2007-06-04 11:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by wai_leong79 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to come clean with your husband, why would you waste his time and your time in a relationship if your not in love with him. Not only do you deserve better but so does he. What to do with the baby is your decision but I wouldnt abort. You need to call up your ex too he needs to know whats going on and you should do it soon.
2007-06-04 11:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On your wedding day, you had the time to get away from all the preparations, the relatives and friends, all the activities.... and still had time to call an old ex and then meet him for sex.... and no one noticed your absence???? Then you casually strolled back in and got married?
2007-06-04 11:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your husband the truth NOW. You'll just have the face the consequences. I doubt he will want to spend the rest of his life raising someone elses child so please be prepared to lose him. And please get some counseling for yourself, or you're sure to repeat this again in your life.
2007-06-04 11:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband what happened right away. If you wait, you'll only make things worse. If your husband loves you, he'll understand and with counseling and a lot of effort, you can work things out.
2007-06-04 11:20:30 · answer #10 · answered by Ivanna M 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋