On Saturday my sister married a man she just met on Thursday. We are in the US, he lives in the UK -- he will be here for another week, then go back to the UK until September!!
The two of them have been talking online for a couple of months and before they got married she asked me to send her an email with my opinions of what she was planning...like a fool I did and of course that started a fight. I was then left out of all wedding plans, not even invited or asked to attend.
Now it's my bad that I didn't go and my mom expects me to suck it up and pretend to be happy. I am so hurt about being left out of my sister's wedding and her blatant disregard for the rest of us that I don't know if I can go to the family gathering my mom has planned this weekend. I'm supposed to go and play nice, but don't know if I can.
What would you do??
2007-06-04 10:53:51 · 13 answers · asked by SheDontKnow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All you can do is be supportive. I can only imagine how hurt you are by being left out, but be the bigger person and go. Be as nice as possible and know you've done all you can. The rest is up to your sister. While you may not agree with her decision, it's done. She will come around in time. Believe me when I say that husbands, friends, money, careers, possessions come and go and can be replaced...family cannot. She'll realize that.
2007-06-04 11:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by sassyredhead1968 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go and act like an adult and sister that you want to be. She has made a big mistake of marrying someone who she hardly knows and when it comes back to haunt her she will need family in her life, not one saying I told you so, but a sister who will be there when she needs her. Being happy for her has to be hard knowing you weren't there at her wedding, but life is short so don't waste time worrying about what happened but just having fun with her this weekend.
2007-06-04 10:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her what you just told us. Go up to her and tell her how you feel. You might find out she feels the same way you do, but is also too shy to say anything. Invite her out somewhere, go shopping, or just take a walk, whether she is your real sister or not, it sure would be nice to do things together, and get to know each other. You can build a relationship with someone no matter how old you are. Just remember this will be a good thing, give it your best effort.
2016-05-21 04:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by brigid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister asked your opinion and then left you out? I'd be furious at her too! How rude and selfish of her. I'm sure you would have gone even if you thought she was nuts for doing it! NO I wouldn't go to your Mom's this weekend, or if I did, it would be to have it out with my sister! I don't blame you for being hurt!
2007-06-04 10:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You told her what you think. I also think that she is making a huge mistake but nothing can be done about it now. Just be there and try not to say "I told you so" when it falls apart. Put a smile on your face and go o the gathering. Your sister is going to need you when the going gets rough -- and it will.
2007-06-04 10:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that's so crazy my sister just got married to a stranger to but all he does is eat all her money and do shitt all day . the only thing i can say is that its her life and what happens happens if it back fires you should be there for her. but you have the right to be mad . she having on of those mid life melt down
2007-06-04 10:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by BB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! Well I know how you feel... I'd just be there and support her cuz no matter what, she's your sister, and famliy should stick together through thick or thin. She'll soon get over it and forgive you
2007-06-04 11:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your sister and regardless of your feelings about her shotgun wedding she's going to need you one day when it all falls apart....go make nice and be there for her no matter what!
2007-06-04 11:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by juda75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go and tell your sister that you love her and you just dont want anything terrible to happen to her, that with all the awful things in this world you dont want her to be a statistic but if this is what she really really wants youll be there for her...its better that your there and she not need you than not be there and her need you right???
2007-06-04 11:01:41 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be happy for her, nothing else will help the situation. If you tell her it's all wrong even if you are right you're not helping your sister.
2007-06-04 10:58:01 · answer #10 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋