Marriage & Divorce - 23 May 2007

...4 kids, (ages 14- 9) and a demanding, control freak ex-wife....sooooo every night this month he's gone to one of the boys baseball game until at least 10 pm. And in June he has to work nights because all the kids will live at his house for "visitation".
I normally stay at his house during the week and sometimes during the weekends when the kids are there. I have my own house, we don't live together, and we're not engaged.

The X has no concept of my BF's personal boundaries and she schedules all these "activities" for the kids and expects my BF to be at all of them - every night... and if he isn't there she makes a huge deal about it.

I just stay out of it and don't say anything- but when I told my BF that when he has the kids during the day and works at night I might as well stay at my house because he's not there anyway - he got upset.

What's that all about?

2007-05-23 09:53:35 · 22 answers · asked by Kaybee 4

2007-05-23 09:46:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why do men cheat on their wives? Does the sex get old? Do they find their wives unattractive? Is it a fantasy? Is it because thier wives don't give it up anymore? Or is it just because you can't keep it in your pants?

2007-05-23 09:43:34 · 21 answers · asked by breisingermela 5

Have just found out that my husband bought a £95 bracelet (for cash) for a woman in Holland, flew over and took her out to lunch on her birthday and gave it to her.

He says she's an old colleague and she's sad and lonely because her husband died of cancer 18 months ago.

But he kept it secret from me. When I asked about it, he lied. I eventually found out because after 19 years of marriage something felt very wrong and I started looking through his papers / texts.

What do I do next?

2007-05-23 09:39:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife always give me the kids and last night she said that why she give them to me because when she was younger she had to watch her brothers and some other little kids. and she said that she needed a break from our kids thats y she give them to me..and here is another 1 also... i also do all the washing and load and unload the dishes. my wife said that she did it soo much when she was growing up she need a break from doing it.....what do you think i should do about it??we are both 24 years old,been marry for 4 years.we have 2 kids... please help

2007-05-23 09:08:48 · 17 answers · asked by calcutta200224 2

I feel sad and left out in that I can not do what a normal mother could for her children. When my daughter was with me last summer, I took care of her the way that I wanted. However, when I was married, my ex and his mother dominated what she wore and did. I was not the primary person who made decisions for the child.

My mother-in-law constantly felt that my child was her child. She said that my daughter was her daughter and that I could not make her hair. She also wanted to make all decisions regarding what my child would wear to parties, etc.

I really had very little say in my chlid's life. It was not a good situation then and is not now.

2007-05-23 09:07:41 · 8 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

father would be lowered because I am going to re-marry.

2007-05-23 08:55:25 · 18 answers · asked by crazygirl 1

Note: that we were seperted because I caught her having an affair. The intent was to divorce.

2007-05-23 08:55:08 · 19 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

I was married once before my husband now, and in bed I was more confident. I would get on top and do "my thing", and when I first met my husband, I would not get on top or do anything crazy, I would make him do it all. The sex is great, but he seems to have to do all the work, and it is not me to just sit there. It's been three years now, and we are close in every part of our life, and he has mentioned for me to do stuff to him but now I just feel like it's been too long, and I feel embarassed. We have watched Porn, and done some kinky things, so it really is good, but I wonder why I went crazy with my ex who I didn't love nearly as much as my husband now.???

2007-05-23 08:54:13 · 7 answers · asked by Big B 1

He is all about enriching your mind reading and all of that and it's not like I watch alot of T.V. but when he's home I have to fight with him for half an hour to get him to let me watch T.V. for just an hour. I acctually schedule a half an hour of time before the show to fight with him so by the time we're done fighting can watch my show.

All I'm asking is for 1 hour is that so unreasonable?

I just need some new suggestions on how to help him understand that this is how I relax and I don't neccsarily relax the same way he does, which is by reading I have to really like the book I'm reading all he wants me to do is read self help/finance books which is Ironic considering I do all of our bills anyway but not the point. Point is someone please give me some thing I haven't thought of.

2007-05-23 08:47:44 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-23 08:41:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Have you ever cheated on your mate but you two are still together.Or cheated period and your mate has never found out.

And no I'm not in this type
of thing i was just curious


Please love your wife or husband and mean it!

2007-05-23 08:40:37 · 23 answers · asked by $Money$ 2

iv been in a 4 year realtionship and with a 6 month old daughter and we both got an attitude problem. we have never cheated on eachother or anything like that but our relationship has been up and down weve seperated twice for a few days than got back together and we usually argue about 4-6 times a week and its hard at times we thought of a break but when are about to leave we just put our clothes back and stay together.
how can we make our relation ship better? i need advice to calm ourselves down with our anger problem. please let me know what will work for our relationship i love him as much as he loves me and we want to live like a happy family our daughter is everything to us.

2007-05-23 08:39:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Should one be able to date before the divorce is final?

2007-05-23 08:38:30 · 25 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

I moved a year and half ago to be in the same town as my husband (1 hour away from my hometown). We now have been married for 9 months and I'm terribly missing my hometown. I have been pressuring him to move back there and leave his family and town behind. He seems okay with it, but I wonder if I am being selfish. I just don't feel like I fit in with his town and would be much happier back in my hometown. Am I being selfish for wanting this?

2007-05-23 08:32:36 · 43 answers · asked by Kelly H 4

I am 30.
I had never been in love before this Jan.
I met him in Paris, the same age as me, same background, he enjoys his job as I do, same life style, same value opinion, I like his friends, his family.
he is so sweet, so nice to me.
We fell in love at the first sight, he said, when I saw you for the first time, I said "wow" to myself, and I knew you are the one. And same feeling for me.

Everything is perfect.

How can I be this lucky? I always asked myself..

2007-05-23 08:29:26 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

Wife and I were seperated for a year and during that time I dated another woman. Does that count as an affair?

2007-05-23 08:23:20 · 17 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

My Ex-wife says she has no interest in me any longer , but is completely engulfed in my person life. We have two children, so I have to have so ties. The problem is, she will not let it go. She cheated on me several times in the past, which prompted me leaving her. The issue is know. She will go at all costs to make me miserable. She stalks me. She has broken into my office and stole my cell phone records and stalked some of my new femals friends. Any suggestions ?????

2007-05-23 08:08:28 · 12 answers · asked by Rainy Day 2

I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years, we have a 5 month old baby girl. He is an awesome daddy, and a great guy, however...I feel like I am doing it all. Working, cleaning, paying bills buying groceries, paying for daycare etc. He tries to help when he can but he has a lot of bills topay such as insurance,car, and school loans so he can never really throw too much to help me. I know he feels bad about it but it is just wearing me out and I feel it is so not fair that I should have to do this....I don't make that much either. I love him and I don't know what to do, I'm thinking about moving back home with my mom for a little while I just feel bad taking his daughter away, my mom lives 2 hours away. Any advice for me?

2007-05-23 08:08:20 · 6 answers · asked by volcomgrly23 3

2007-05-23 08:00:51 · 15 answers · asked by krk s 1

2007-05-23 07:59:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-23 07:31:14 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

why did you get married
are you happy that you got married why & why not

2007-05-23 07:17:39 · 26 answers · asked by shebas mom 2

When me and my ex got divorced 5 years ago we agreed on $400 a month for our 2 kids. Since then he has gotten a new job that makes alot more money. i increased it to $500 a month. That was several years ago. I know he has gotten some nice raises since then and he wont tell me what his income is. His girlfriend told me that his "take home" after taxes and health insurance is about $1300 every two weeks and he also has a part time job on the fire department but that income depends on how many calls he goes on and I dont know what he gets for that. He also just started his own paintball field with his brother and I know that as of right now they are not making anything cause they are still sticking money into it. Im not trying to be greedy but he has always had the privelage of seeing the kids whenever its "convenient" and has not had to be a father to them when he didnt want to be and when he does have them he leaves them there with his girlfriend and doesnt spend any time with them.

2007-05-23 07:12:02 · 22 answers · asked by sea_sher 5

My wife started a new bartending job about 5 months ago. The place draws in a younger crowd and she is there until close on the weekends (2:00 a.m. , not home until 3:30 or 4:00). In the past couple of months she has been wanting to spend more time with her co-workers, etc. who are ~20-25 years old. My wife is 39 years old. She even has a myspace and talks to them on there. Recently she has put a regular customer (male, ~25 years old) as a friend on her myspace. I also found some pictures of him ( from his myspace) she had in her bag that she takes to work. I asked her about them and she said she had them to show a friend from her previous work. She thought they new someone in common. I thought this was strange as she had ~7 pictures of this guy. She denies having an affair and I am trying believe her, but a lot of trust has been lost. She seems to like the younger atmosphere to much and not the family life at home,3 kids. she says she doesn't like to be around me lately too

2007-05-23 07:07:30 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

my fiance's x is telling me stuff about him when they were together such as he abused her and everything, but my boyfriend has said she was the abuser. I feel like I should know my fiance by now after being with him for 2 years and he has never done this to me...

2007-05-23 07:06:09 · 45 answers · asked by happybunnyjg 2

Hello!

If you had a spouse who often took clients to lunch and found out suddenly that they had been exchanging over 1000 text messages a week together in addtion to lunch would you be upset?

They swear they told you they were friendly with this client. (of the opposite sex) but all they said was "i went to lunch with lori/bob" when asked who "lori/bob" is the answer is "you know..my customer"

The spouse also purchased a gift on ebay without telling and had it sent to their office and paid out of a private account.

In addition...the spouse ONLY texts when they are alone...at night and during family hours. They have been coming home much later to stay in their car and text.

Also..they have been distant from home and easily agitated by the children.

Any opinions?

2007-05-23 06:58:56 · 56 answers · asked by foxinsox 6

me 'n' my hubby work all week days 'n' always very busy. we just have time to spend together only in weekends 'n' that free time he spends on watching football, most of the time, i sometimes get bored as i want to talk to him 'n' share things....?
give me the most suitable answer plz what shall i do 'n' how can i make him to talk with me more than watching football.
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2007-05-23 06:58:17 · 36 answers · asked by Priti 1

My husband who l love dearly got into some trouble and may be facing incarceration any suggestions on how to deal with it if, if the worse should happen? Has anyone went through this or does anyone have a spouse who is currentley incacerated and how are you dealing with it?

2007-05-23 06:56:44 · 8 answers · asked by its just me 3

Is it ok for a married woman to have male friends or a married man to have female friends? What if they are all married? Does it matter? Is this socially taboo?

2007-05-23 06:56:41 · 30 answers · asked by snowangel_az 4