Should one be able to date before the divorce is final?
2007-05-23 08:38:30 · 25 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wish that was the case morally... I have friends that were divorced in 60 days... mine took 4 years... I'm sorry, but I just couldn't wait that long... It was paperwork and fighting... This isn't a marriage... and I just hated not having anyone in my life...
Yet, it's hard for me to say it's ok... Confusing
2007-05-23 08:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Oula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question but painfully vague. how long did you know him before you were married? Why did you get married? Are there kids involved? Are they with you. How was the S/D,hostile peaceful? How long were you married. How old are you. Why did you get divorced? No judgments but Don't you think these variables would be important to make an accurate evaluation? Or are you looking for some one to just say,"Go girl". OK "Go girl" when he loses you for a younger women. what do I say? Aw I m so sorry. even this cant be said because you did not say your age , the age of your ex, or the age of your rebound. Any ways have a good time.
2016-05-21 00:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It differs per each relationship. If you have no kids and have agreed that there will be no reconciliation then I suppose you're free to do whatever. Yet, if there are children involved then you should refer to the legal codes in your state. What goes on behind closed doors does not always stay there, and you wouldn't want your children to suffer for that. I think that it depends a lot on the individual relationship and what seems good in your heart and head. None of us can give you a real right or wrong answer on such a subjective issue. So take some time and think it over for yourself.
2007-05-23 08:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by MiMi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people date before the divorce is final. The problem is, that most people later are surprised by the amount of grief they feel when the divorce is finally granted and they haven't coped with all the feelings of the break-up, separation and divorce before getting involved in a new relationship.
2007-05-23 08:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
first of all the intent of seperation is not to divorce, but find out if you acctually want to divorce. second i don't know what the word vow or commitment means to you but all i can say is if you promised then you should keep your word and atleast wait for the divorce before actually comencing a new relationship. Who knows you may discover you don't actullty want a divorce.
2007-05-23 08:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by nosa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be great because most people start before they separate. Your getting a divorce to be through with that person , so you should go out and have a good time. I would wait to start a a relationship that may lead to marriage because you need to think it over real careful before you get in another mess and I mean they can get to be a real mess after you marry, then they show. their true face. Go out and have good time and shop around before getting tied down to another disaster.
2007-05-23 08:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can date before the divorce is final you just can't marry. and not all separations are with the intent to divorce, some are to take the time to evaluate to see if you both still want the relationship.
2007-05-23 08:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by JM 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
as someone who is in this situation i say yes....depending on the circumstances of course....now if it's a trial separation then no but if it's understood by both parties that the relationship is over and there's no going back then why not?....the reason i'm still "separated" and not divorced is because as a 21 yr old, raising a 2 1/2 yr old daughter it's hard to come up with the $400 filing fee to get the process started.....plus it's soo time consuming to fill out that packet....ugh....
2007-05-23 08:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by sxyitlngrl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally wouldn't, being that according to the law and to god I am still married. Being that a divorce takes a while this would be a good time to reflect on my past relationship and to see what I also have to work on.
2007-05-23 08:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by *AntA mAriA* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what is at stake.
If you are seperated from you wife and you are filing for divorce, I wouldn't make it a known fact of dating to anyone until the divorce is final. Goes back to point, what is at stake?
If you plan to date before your divorce and you have community property, she/he may end up with it all & it goes back to what is at stake and what your state laws are...Grounds? etc...
2007-05-23 08:43:26 · answer #10 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋