Hello!
If you had a spouse who often took clients to lunch and found out suddenly that they had been exchanging over 1000 text messages a week together in addtion to lunch would you be upset?
They swear they told you they were friendly with this client. (of the opposite sex) but all they said was "i went to lunch with lori/bob" when asked who "lori/bob" is the answer is "you know..my customer"
The spouse also purchased a gift on ebay without telling and had it sent to their office and paid out of a private account.
In addition...the spouse ONLY texts when they are alone...at night and during family hours. They have been coming home much later to stay in their car and text.
Also..they have been distant from home and easily agitated by the children.
Any opinions?
2007-05-23 06:58:56 · 56 answers · asked by foxinsox 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't look good.
2007-05-23 07:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by kyeann 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The "spouse" is cheating. Maybe not in the physical sense (can't say that without proof), but in the emotional sense. And, more often than not.. those are the worst kind of affairs. If this other person is a client/customer.. why are they only texting to the spouse's personal phone? Why not use the business phone to TALK about what the client needs and then get off the phone as most professional business owners do daily? Sounds to me like..it's just an excuse to say the person is a client. They very well may be. But, any time that a spouse takes time away from their family to sit outside in a car and text someone other than their spouse.. some thing's not right.. I call bullshit on the whole situation. I say, confront the spouse. If the cheating behavior doesn't stop.. someones gotta go.
2007-05-23 07:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by Christine 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This definately sounds fishy. You should confront your spouse with this. Let him/her know you think something more is going on and even if it is not that the behavior bothers you. This relationship is beyond the business boundaries and I view it as inappropriate. If it were only business why does he/she hide in the car and text, he/she could do it in front of you. Or why doesn't it get taken care of with a quick phone call rather that endless texting after hours. Good luck & I hope all turns out well.
2007-05-23 07:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by becca 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I smell a rat. I think you have your suspicions too, or you wouldn't be asking. What client needs 1000 text messages - the average client would be contacted AT WORK during business hours, not at all times of day and night.
Also, a gift? Sent to the office, paid by priavte account We both know what this no-good is up to. Time to take action. Confront him/her - or go straight to a lawyer.
2007-05-23 07:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that if my husband was texting someone 1000 times a week, I don't care who the person was - I would be pissed. A grown adult needs to have better things to think about than obsessively texting someone. It seems that the person you are describing have lost their head over this "client" of theirs. I wouldn't tolerate such behavior from my spouse, period - I don't care if one wants to call it "cheating" or not. It is totally childish and inappropriate.
2007-05-23 07:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That doesnt sound too good to me! Is there anyway you can look at his/ her text messages??? If my husband was doing all of that, I would talk to him about it! I would tell him how I feel about this "friendly client" and ask him what is really going on!! I would be sooo upset! I would probably even try to get the "friendly clients" number and call them! I would try to trick them into telling me what was going on! lol! But, thats just what I would do! lol! I hope everything works out for you! Good luck!
2007-05-23 07:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by Love-A-Bull 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Highly suspicious behaviour. Even if it's not cheating, it's unacceptable. I had similar issues with a spouse hanging out at all hours of night after work at a single guy's house. I still don't believe she fully realises the implications of that behaviour... even though they weren't physically screwing, as far as I'm concerned they might as well have been.
2007-05-23 07:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by Ian S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1000 text messages does look like cheating, but there's a very small chance that this romance is just beginning and that the cheating hasn't started yet. Time to read all those text messages, and learn what they say.
Then you need to sit down with her/him and tell them that you realize that they are enamored by this other person, but that you love them deeply and that this romance is hurting your marriage, and that you don't want to lose them.
After that, it's their decision. It sounds like they are so infatuated that they may not think clearly, not realizing that this infatuation will cool too, (as all do) but there's little you can do if they insist upon having this romance but sit back, and watch them destroy your marriage. Prepare yourself financially in that case, start making plans.
2007-05-23 07:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Over 1000 text messages is way out of bounds. The purchasing of a gift without your knowledge tells you he's not being honest.
This leads me to believe he's cheating. Even if it's not physical, it's wrong. He wouldn't like it if you were doing this with another man.
2007-05-23 07:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by katydid 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes that's cheating. NOT COOL.
That's passed the professional relationship with a customer. Work is only work and that should only stay at work in a professional manner. You don't bring them into your personal life. and Texting, you should swith phone if your phone looks a like, switch it with your spouse without letting her/him know and see what the text is about.
2007-05-23 07:08:23 · answer #10 · answered by 0000 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cheating
2007-05-23 07:02:32 · answer #11 · answered by masterplanner04 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋