I was married once before my husband now, and in bed I was more confident. I would get on top and do "my thing", and when I first met my husband, I would not get on top or do anything crazy, I would make him do it all. The sex is great, but he seems to have to do all the work, and it is not me to just sit there. It's been three years now, and we are close in every part of our life, and he has mentioned for me to do stuff to him but now I just feel like it's been too long, and I feel embarassed. We have watched Porn, and done some kinky things, so it really is good, but I wonder why I went crazy with my ex who I didn't love nearly as much as my husband now.???
2007-05-23 08:54:13 · 7 answers · asked by Big B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Has your body changed? I know when I first got together with my husband I was a lot more free, but after being married and 2 kids I'm not as comfortable with my body and am more self conscience about certain positions.
2007-05-23 08:59:36 · answer #1 · answered by linda m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being too self-conscious. Just get on top and go until you come, and move in the ways that work for you, and don't even concern yourself with his wants until you are done. He'll probably love it.
I know exactly what you are talking about, same thing happened to me.
Also ask yourself if your husband now is a little too kinky and that's what bothers you somewhat?
2007-05-23 16:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you let you self get into more things in your second marriage you didnt let happen in your first marriage your first husband did every thing to you that you now do instead of your new husband doing what was done with your ex the only thing i like to have done other than the normal sex is having the gal give oral and i like to give her the tongue down on her clit you can give me a holler if you would like
2007-05-23 16:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares why about your first husband? forget him... do what is good for the both of ya now. Quit, worrying so much and ENJOY this marriage.
2007-05-23 16:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by Ginger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and do 'your thing'. If he is surprised, tell him its the porn thing that got you thinking and you want to experiment.
Do NOT tell him about the sex with your ex. That would most likely bother him and affect his lovemaking.
2007-05-23 16:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you care what your husband thinks of you.
The Ex was more for the experience.
2007-05-23 16:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with snack_da It's easier to be freaky and sexual with someone you don't care as much about.
2007-05-23 16:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋