Marriage & Divorce - 14 May 2007

Every time it's a holiday or birthday, my in-laws let us know at the last minute what their plans are and expect us to show up. My husband does not seem to be as bothered by this, it really bothers me when I have to cancel other plans because of them though. Oh, we've been married about two years.

2007-05-14 12:07:52 · 9 answers · asked by chocoextra 3

2007-05-14 12:06:53 · 16 answers · asked by kenneth h 6

He suggested that I should not even consider it until I have a net worth of at least 35,000.00. How important is money to a woman and why?

2007-05-14 11:59:57 · 14 answers · asked by Knowledge Thirsty 3

Husband meets and falls in love with someone else the wife decides they need to make their marriage work. Their grown children want their parents back together. The man returns to his wife, going to canceling for the last yr. He calls me the one he was seeing and says he made a mistake and he thought being with his wife was what he was supposed to do but he thinks about me every day and cannot understand after being with someone for that long and falling in love with someone else in just a few months. I am not going to see a married man and won't. i do care about him but i would be afraid he would do the same thing again. Life is to short for that. His children would never like me. I am just not sure it would ever work. He says they get along alrighte but something is missing. I changed my phone number and now he is sending me cards. I live 2 states away from him. I have not moved on and like i said it has been a year since i have seen him.

2007-05-14 11:31:22 · 12 answers · asked by dd 2

Got an answer to one of my other questions this morning that really made me think. The answerer said that you don't have commitment in a relationship until you are married. Am I the only person out there who doesn't see how a piece of paper could actually change your relationship?
For spiritual reasons, I can see why two people marry. But if you marry to gain commiment, what is the point? You shouldn't even be getting married with no or little commitment.
I feel that too much emphasis is placed on marriage.
What do you think? Could you also include where you are from, so I can a good idea of where people are coming from, so to speak. I have a feeling that people from the states put higher emphasis on marriage than that of people from other countries. Although I could be wrong.

All this coming from a woman who has just called off her own wedding :S

2007-05-14 11:31:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am in married i am seriously thinking of getting out problem is i dont have anything of my own car money or job what would you do if you were in my situation................

2007-05-14 11:19:28 · 12 answers · asked by Tammy 2

2007-05-14 11:18:55 · 19 answers · asked by Fancy_Chanel 2

I have a friend who says she loves her husband like a lifelong friend, but is not "in love" with him and doesn't think she ever has been. Many years ago, she finally agreed to marry him after a long courtship foolishly doing so after his repeated requests because she didn't want to shatter his dreams for them. Now they have children together and although she considers him to be an overall good person and father, she is generally miserable and has increasingly frequent thoughts of divorcing him in hopes of finding true love in a mate while she is still young. He senses her feelings and suspects that he does not love her, so friction is now occuring in the marriage. She tries to downplay it to him but she is losing the ability to supress her feelings.

She knows that marrying him when she wasn't truly in love was a mistake but how can she remedy the situation now? Does she simply have to continue to live with this mistake? Is this a justifiable reason to leave? She will read responses.

2007-05-14 11:17:34 · 6 answers · asked by CKApple 2

My husband does not celebrate any holidays or birthdays due to his religion (Jehovah's Witness). He is not yet a Jehovah's Witness but he follows that belief because he was raised that way. I am not Jehovah's Witness and although I don't agree with some things I have learned to accept his religion. We have been married for three years. My mom's side of the family is very close so we get together on every holiday or birthday. My husband never attends. They all know why he doesn't, but two aunts in particular continue to dwell on the fact that my husband doesn't participate. They say things like, "It's just Mother's day dinner" or "It's just a birthday dinner. Nobody is celebrating anything". For instance, we all went out to Mother's day dinner yesterday. My aunt asked me, "____ didn't want to go with us?" My other aunt called from out of state and asked if my husband went with us. They already know the answer before they ask. How can I put a stop to this without being rude?

2007-05-14 11:04:53 · 15 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

2007-05-14 11:03:27 · 29 answers · asked by Kristy C 3

Husband 33, Wife 26, been together for almost 8 years (dating & marriage). Wife walked out on marriage of 2.5 years. Gets her own apartment. Started affair with another man. Affair goes on for 6 months. Very intense and very serious. Says she loves him, wants to marry him and so on, all the while still married but not living at home. She is basically ignoring her husband. Says that she wants a life with this other man and is ready to file for divorce. At the 11th hour, wife has a change of heart and is trying to reconcile with husband who knows of the affair, but not how serious it was(wife omitted that). Both are in individual counseling but not in couples counseling yet. Affair was revealed only a month ago. Wife still hasn't broken it off with the other guy and they still talk to each other on the phone periodically. Husband and wife aren't living together yet but are spending a lot of time together. Is this marriage going to survive?

2007-05-14 10:53:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a two part question:

1) Define love between adults. I know this has been asked many times before and some great answers have been given, but I'd like to hear some new, fresh answers.

2) Is your defined love controllable? In other words, can you choose who you love and who you do not love?

2007-05-14 10:53:30 · 6 answers · asked by CKApple 2

Are we made of corresponding puzzle pieces?

2007-05-14 10:49:23 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

For 10 years we have been married, and I think she is a very selfish lover because she says it makes her sick too even think about doing oral on me, yet she gladly accepts me giving it too her. I don't think she understands the part about sex being non selfish...what do I do?

2007-05-14 10:43:45 · 30 answers · asked by Jeromy B 2

I've come to a cross road in my marriage. Ever feel that tension between your heart saying, "Yes," and your head saying, "No?" Well how do you make the decision? Do you follow your heart or your head when making the big decisions in life? An example please!

2007-05-14 10:38:16 · 17 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6

My wife and I filed for Chapter 13 two years ago and have a little over 2 years left on paying the debt back. This payment is taken out of my check each week. I will be filing for divorce in two weeks and I am curious if anyone has been through this or if any one knows what will happen. Will I have to continue paying all of this...will it be split...will I have to pay it plus child support? We have a 12 year old daughter. Any help is appreciated. Thanks!!

2007-05-14 10:21:52 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

but I didn't sleep with anyone

2007-05-14 10:19:30 · 25 answers · asked by db14 5

Yesterday my husband and I and my step son went on the river and my hubby was drinking. We left around 5 and went home. I took my step son home around 6:30 and asked my hubby to start the grill. The last time i had eaten was about 11am. (MIND YOU THIS WAS MOTHER'S DAY) When I got home, he was going to the neighbors (on the 4 wheeler) because it hadn't been run in a couple of weeks. Well he didn't start the grill until about 8, he finished cooking about 9. About this time he was trashed. The neighbors were over at our house and were talking and she wanted her toungue pierced (my husband is a licensed piercer) so he said he was going over there. I was fussing about him not cooking until late. I told him to start around 6, and he didn't, he was being really rude and short with me. So i told him to go by himself, i had to go to work the next day. Well when i took my step son home there was 1/2 tank of gas. When i went to work there was a full tank. He didn't home until 1 am! What you think

2007-05-14 10:14:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am about to have a baby me and my husband are separated and my family hates him. He was verbally abusive and so they have harsh feelings towards him so do I. I know that this is supposed to be a exciting time and it seems more stressfull than anything. I don't know wheter to call him when I am in laobr or not. He says that a time like this only comes once and he doesn't want to miss this time at the same time I have my family saying that he doesn't desrve to be there. What should I do I want this to be a happy time! I imagined him being there by my side and I also imagined my family being there also. It is a complete mess and I dont know what to do? Any suggestions?

2007-05-14 10:12:03 · 23 answers · asked by pittbull mommy 1

I am a 33 year old mother of 4 who is pregnant with a 5th. When I married my husband 5 years ago he had no children of his own and I agreed to have my tubes "untied" and have ONE child so that he can fulfill his dream of being a father. While all of my pregnancies were plagued with complications, the 4th one was the worst. I was hospitalized 6 times and wound up having to have an emergency c-section which resulted in further complications. Despite the sickness and complications, he still wanted more! Because of the c-section complications, I cannot have any more abdominal surgery. Because of other issues I cannot take birth control for longer than 6 months. My husband hates condoms and refused to buy them and he will never consider a vasectomy. Now, I'm pregnant again, suffering the same complications as the last pregnancy. He's happy that he has another child on the way and I'm miserable and suffering daily. I hate the sight of him and try to avoid being around him. Am I wrong

2007-05-14 10:07:37 · 59 answers · asked by weebit9898 1

Married to the woman of my dreams for 6 months now, and a problem is surfacing that I really dont like. I know communication is the answer, but my question is how. My wife constantly compares me to her brother in law. Not outright, but through subtle hints. I am a very open, loving and caring man. I bring flowers home every few days. I celebrate our anniversary monthly. We take small vacations monthly. I constantly tell her how beautiful she is (and she is!!!) I love shopping with her for her and her mom and my kids. Not so much for me, but occationally. I feel like I am doing the best that I can but am never quite good enough. It is different than when we were dating, not sure what is the deal. Counseling, communication, all that is good, just looking for some helpful advice in this stressful first year of marriage. I am commited to be the best husband God wants me to be, it is just hard to never feel quite good enough....

2007-05-14 10:02:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

i know no one likes to be cheated anyway but if you would had to choose between them what kinda cheating would you prefer........... mentally/emotionally OR physical/sexually?

2007-05-14 09:59:10 · 20 answers · asked by lavin tats me 1

2007-05-14 09:55:11 · 39 answers · asked by elfkin, attention whore 4

My ex and I have a "Parenting Plan" from the court stating I will get our sons every summer, however for the past 3 years he has "altered" the plan to meet HIS needs. It states ,I will get the kids from June 1 - July 31 paying all costs for traveling (I am in NY they are in TN) He makes plans with his wife, 2 daughters and our sons to go on vacation every first week in June (MY TIME) and wants them returned to him 2 weeks prior to the end of July even though he has both boys FULL time during the year.I only see them those 2 months.Should I file for contempt of court for not following the parenting plan? I have documented work showing harrasement from both of them towards myself as well;phone calls,IM's,emails,etc.I LOG everything(already thought of that).He phoned in April to say I would NOT be seeing my sons this summer AT ALL!That he would bring them to me for a day or 2 when he comes to NY to see his parents.

2007-05-14 09:53:30 · 8 answers · asked by Gina 1

Me and my wife have been married for 7 years (together for 10). She recently became pregnant with our second child and has become very clingy. I know it's from the pregnancy, but she is demanding all my spare time. (I work two jobs and go to school part time to better take care of her). I don't want much, but this past weekend some friends called at wanted me to hang out with them at the bar. My wife started crying, saying "you never want to spend time with me" and asking if I still loved her. My response was yes and I ended up staying home, (was very grupy about it though). How can I tell her I feel like I can't breath and need some space. My friends are planing a guys weekend at the lake over memoral day weekend but I'm afraid to even bring it up with how emotional she is.

Is there any way I can bring it up without hurting her feelings or seeming like I don't care about her, and still get to go.

2007-05-14 09:45:38 · 18 answers · asked by honest guy 4

Two years into the relationship he said he wanted me to move in with him - I was not ready. He told me that he had thought of marriage. We are now discussing buying a house together in the spring (we each already own our own homes) and he mentioned marriage (casually) for the first time in a couple of years the other day. Anyone think he plans to propose?

2007-05-14 09:43:46 · 19 answers · asked by jeri 6

I found a charge on my bank account. It was only 5 bucks, but I knew the charge wasnt something I had bought. I asked my husband if he knew what it was, and he said "oops, i signed up for a free trial of a 4 wheeling mag, but i guess i didnt read the fine print". Sounded fishy to me, but I had no proof otherwise. I finally did some digging. It was listed as RKNetmedia on my account, so I googled it. Apparantly, they are a company that runs adult sites. My bank couldnt give me any contact info for the people who charged me, so all I know is what I found online. I'm peeved that he felt the need to lie to me. For gods sake, if he wanted a membership to an adult site, he just could have talked to me about it. He knows I'm cool with that stuff as long as I am included or at least aware of it. So I caught him in a lie. And hes at work right now. What would you do?

2007-05-14 09:43:13 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

What does it mean if you are out to dinner with your bf (been together almost two years) and he says that he doesn't want to go through everything we have with someone else and then starts asking about what our future looks like. Is that him telling me he is ready to get serious? OR that he is afraid of our future....but doesn't want to do it over...so he is settling.... What do I do with this?

2007-05-14 09:33:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im 33, shes quite 34, we dont have kids!! our marriage right now is in the middle of big big crisis. I have told her that I can't see myself strong enough to maintain the commitment of being married. Obviously she got panic. We 've talking about this and she is scared because she is in a hurry to have kids. I have been thinking to have it with her, however I dont know if I can maintain the marriage forever. Now I do not feel so much deep deep love for her. I feel like a kind of love for a sister or a friend.... Need help!!!

2007-05-14 09:19:34 · 46 answers · asked by NewTiger :) 1

I have been married to my husband for almost 18 yrs, but for the last several, he has been getting consistently more abusive. He smacks, pushes, kicks, pulls me by my hair, spits in my face, and, most tormenting, the namecalling and mental abuse. He has alienated everyone we knew. He's told our family and friends that I am lazy and useless, and that I cheated on him.(This isn't true..we used to be swingers, & he prefered watching...long story!)
We live in the Midwest., and all my family is on the East coast.The only real witnesses I have to the abuse are my two boys, and they've left home, not on speaking terms with thier dad.
Various battles and bruises contributed to the loss of my job. Now, I am a slave/prisioner in my own home. He tells me if, when, where, and how long I can be gone, on the rare times he allows me to leave. My car keys and phones are kept locked and I must ask permission to use. He keeps me on a tiny $$. I am trapped, and worse, broken. How can i get out alive?

2007-05-14 09:16:41 · 45 answers · asked by secret 2