Do You Follow Your Heart or Your Head?

Question

I've come to a cross road in my marriage. Ever feel that tension between your heart saying, "Yes," and your head saying, "No?" Well how do you make the decision? Do you follow your heart or your head when making the big decisions in life? An example please!

Answer 1

Well remember that we have a head to think for just plain "common sense" we all come to a cross road in our marriage, however, when you say make a decision with your heart, just say feelings! Remember feelings change, they are never the same. God even said that we must not rely on our feelings, but we need to make a decision because it is the right thing to do. Don't throw away something that you know that God allowed to happen, if it wasn't supposed to it wouldn't be. Sometimes we think they are aligned with one another: meaning the heart and head, but depending what space we are in at that time sometimes they don't line up. Please pray over major decisions in a marriage. I don't know exactly what decision it is, I do know for ex: the heart could really love someone that is not our spouse, but our head should tell us that this love should not be of the same essence as that love for our spouse" I hope this helps. If not read Ecclesiastics......

Answer 2

Okay first you should always follow your heart. I am not sure what you are asking but here's some advice... In A MARRIAGE there is an unspoken trust, commitment and bond. Do yo really think there a lady out there that fill your wife's shoes? She knows all your dirty little secretes and if she don't she should! You know how you feel about her and if she's anything like me she's faithful, loyal, and caring. Do you really want to take that leap of faith?If you do why? There is nothing like coming home and finding supper on the table with a clean house and a big kiss. There is a reason why you married her, find it again. There are so many things you can do as a man to improve your marriage.#1 pay attention to her #2 pamper her #3 listen to her #4 be completely honest no matter how much trouble you think you r in if she loves you then she will forgive you no matter what( just don't make your bad deeds a habit!) it just takes time. I suggest that you take her on your fist date again and watch her face light-up. If this is not the advice you were seeking I am sorry , but I really think marriage is a sacred commitment not to be taken lightly. Love her!

Answer 3

For the man, I think it depends on how old you are.

When we were young meeting our first "love", we could feel our heart pounding and the pain when there was argument. As we age and mature, we realize the world is bigger than we used to see it and there are multiple perspectives in everything. There is never a single factor in most decisions.

I grew up in a conservative culture. My parents always said blood is always thicker. I share the same blood as my parents, siblings, and the children I father. This is a fact that will never change in my life. It seems to imply that the spouse, being an outsider, is lower priority. Where I stand, I try to build a life with the wife based on love and a vow. But everybody can see that marriages don't always last. So the point is if and when a decision is to be made, blood first (my children).

Answer 4

Head, Heart or Gut. That is the eternal struggle. I've made some decisions (important ones) where I've followed my head. I got good results and I have followed decisions where I've followed my heart.
When i followed my heart I might have harder times adapting to the decision, but no only have i gotten the most pleasure out of it but i got results my head could never imagined or factored in.
If you want your life to an adventure you have to listen to your heart because it knows a little more than you head. In my life i have proof. If you check your life you'll see proof of which works best for you.

Answer 5

If you follow your heart in any life decisions you won't come out with the best outcome. Making big decisions means you've really wrapped your head around all the pros and cons. An adult weighs these things out, a child leads with the heart.

Answer 6

You follow your heart. If you love someone and you get a divorce because your head told you too, that is when the truth will come out. You then realize how much you really loved your spouse and you will suffer incredibly if you ignored your heart.

At that time you follow your head, because you will constantly think about your spouse and the good life you could have had. Then think of any way that you could get your spouse back into your life, but that's when it will probably too late.

Answer 7

This kind of tension exists even after the decision is made...You have to see ahead (the long run) and understand how things are affecting your life ( children if u have them) and then decide which road to take.IT is definitely not easy and to stick by your decision is also quite difficult .

Answer 8

I follow my head becouse my heart is too dumb sometimes in making the right choices.

Example: im single so What ever!

Answer 9

I follow my heart, there was a time when my head told me to go but I stayed. Things got better, was just a rough patch. So glad I stayed, now I understand the for better or worse part of vows.

Answer 10

Well i know i love my husband, but your heart won't literally break, but your mind will. You can be some miserable that you can have a nervous break down. But you need to talk to your spouse about the problems you are having before someone does get hurt.