Yesterday my husband and I and my step son went on the river and my hubby was drinking. We left around 5 and went home. I took my step son home around 6:30 and asked my hubby to start the grill. The last time i had eaten was about 11am. (MIND YOU THIS WAS MOTHER'S DAY) When I got home, he was going to the neighbors (on the 4 wheeler) because it hadn't been run in a couple of weeks. Well he didn't start the grill until about 8, he finished cooking about 9. About this time he was trashed. The neighbors were over at our house and were talking and she wanted her toungue pierced (my husband is a licensed piercer) so he said he was going over there. I was fussing about him not cooking until late. I told him to start around 6, and he didn't, he was being really rude and short with me. So i told him to go by himself, i had to go to work the next day. Well when i took my step son home there was 1/2 tank of gas. When i went to work there was a full tank. He didn't home until 1 am! What you think
2007-05-14 10:14:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He said he was riding around, that's why he put more gas in the truck. But WTF??!! I am seriously peedoff about this and i need some advise! Please give me some advise! Thanks!
2007-05-14 10:16:20 · update #1
I'd confront him and ask him what his deal was and the fact that he acted like that on Mother's Day is rude and disrespectful. Iv'e gotten treated like that and what I've done is ignore the person for as long as I can, until the silence finally gets broken somehow. If he doesn't seem to be remorseful even after that, then something else might be going on. Men don't have to be jerks all of the time, you know?
2007-05-14 10:23:20 · answer #1 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow....so he was trashed, and then he went out 'riding around'?!?!?!?! Sounds like a real winner.
I have no idea what you should do. I wouldn't suspect him cheating like some of the people on here have said. I have no idea how some people draw the conclusions they do, lol.
Just sounds like there are some issues here...and he's being obnoxious about whatever it is that's bothering him. Might just be a communication issue. Talk to him...that's really all you can do.
Make sure it's a time when he's NOT drinking, and preferably when you don't have your step-son. You need to let him know that you are upset with his actions, and find out what the problem is.
Just make sure to let him know this bothered you....sometimes men don't really 'get it', lol
Good luck, and I hope this can just blow over and not turn into a bigger problem for you!
2007-05-14 10:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by jezyka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound good :(!! But maybe he put gas because he knew that u had to go to work the next day. The best thing for u to do is really talk to him and maybe when he's explaining this to u, u will know if he is lying! :>( Good Luck:)
2007-05-14 10:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by hippie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is disrespecting you incredibly and you should never let that continue. Don't get a divorce right away, but don't let anyone treat you with disrespect, especially your husband.
You cannot let him get away with this, because it will happen again. Confront him and don't give up until you are comfortable with the way your are being treated in your marriage.
2007-05-14 10:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's just lucky he didn't get a dwi or worse. best start checking his stories out behind his back. my 2nd ex was a bad alcoholic. i was too at one time but cut back. I'm not throwing stones but know what it's like when you start doubting a drinker. All you can do is find out for yourself. Get friends to keep an eye on him when he is out and away from you if possible. Follow him yourself. But get to the honest truth. One think a drunk won't do is tell the truth....
2007-05-14 10:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're the one who married the drunken loser - either live with it and stop complaining or kick him to the side of the freaking road. He obviously values alcohol more than he values you - it's your decision to allow that behavior to continue.
He probably took $exual favors as payment for the piercing - that's wha tyou want to hear anyway.
Stop asking questions you already know the answer to. What kind of role model is this dude to the kid anyway?
C'mon, it's not that hard, THINK!
2007-05-14 10:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your husband is a complete ***. Find one that doen't get ****-faced on Mother's Day and stay out all night. Then you need to figure out why you were attracted to someone like this in the first place.
2007-05-14 10:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by hottiecj *~♥~*~♥~* 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like because he was drinking he was acting this way. Does he act this way when he isn't drinking? If not, then maybe you can get him to lay off the juice some.
2007-05-14 10:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by April First 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you couldn't just start the grill yourself? Or order a freaken pizza? You married him, you have to live with him the way he is.
2007-05-14 10:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would think it would take more than this to consider leaving and splitting up. Surely this is/should be something that can be discussed when everyone is sober.
Really :-)
2007-05-14 10:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by corvetteflyingpilot 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋