Husband meets and falls in love with someone else the wife decides they need to make their marriage work. Their grown children want their parents back together. The man returns to his wife, going to canceling for the last yr. He calls me the one he was seeing and says he made a mistake and he thought being with his wife was what he was supposed to do but he thinks about me every day and cannot understand after being with someone for that long and falling in love with someone else in just a few months. I am not going to see a married man and won't. i do care about him but i would be afraid he would do the same thing again. Life is to short for that. His children would never like me. I am just not sure it would ever work. He says they get along alrighte but something is missing. I changed my phone number and now he is sending me cards. I live 2 states away from him. I have not moved on and like i said it has been a year since i have seen him.
2007-05-14 11:31:22 · 12 answers · asked by dd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even though he was separated when you were seeing him before, he was still married. So not seeing him because he's married is already a mute point.
Of course the kids want their parents back together. It doesn't matter if they are little or adult, that just the way it is. Kids always want their parents together. And of course she wants to make things work, whatever the reason she left was didn't pan out, so she's falling back to him.
He needs to decide what to do with his life, not what you may or may not want him to do, not what his kids want, and not even what the wife whats. It's his decision that he has to live with. Nevertheless, the decision has to be his. Ignore him, and let him decide what he wants in his life.
I wouldn't be sitting around waiting, I'd find someone who appreciates me and wants nothing else but to be with me.
Good luck.
2007-05-14 11:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him and be the better person. He failed his wife with cheating (whether sexual or not) and their marriage will NEVER be the same again. But it can be successful in its own way.. Be the better person and rise above his failure.
The kids are his family and they may have his grand kids. Going with you would make him miss all that. Too great a price. If the wife (however disappointed she is) is willing to allow this marriage to try and succeed, (it can if they are forgiving), then you should honor that and stay away. Please. You can move on. it is the RIGHT THING TO DO, and you will be glad that you did the right thing. I am.
2007-05-14 11:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by thisbrit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing. Cut him off. He is still in his marriage. YOU have been waiting for someone that had other obligations when you could have been living a wonderful life with someone who didn't. You still have time. Don't waste another precious minute on all this drama. If he'll do it to her, by the way, he'd do it to you. What kind of deal would THAT be? Find an honorable man, Love.
2007-05-14 11:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the husband did not "gave all the happiness" if the wife left him for another man. Don't dwell on all the husband has done for the wife, think about what was important to the wife the husband has ignored, there are two sides to every story.
2016-04-01 01:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is easier for him to go back to an known and stable situation. He is comfortably set with his grown children, lifestyle finance and properties, and even some moral high ground. Indeed, his children won't like an outside whom they see as a home wrecker.
That's the way it goes
2007-05-14 11:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write "Return to sender" and send the cards back. If his wife sees them in the mail, let him be the one to explain this to her. Maybe that'll be the eye opener she needs to realize what a loser she's married to.
2007-05-14 11:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay away, he may do the yo-yo thing with you and wife. Besides, just his returning to her should be enough of an answer. like you say, life is too short, get on with yours.
good luck
2007-05-14 11:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by jcampwick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor and move on. This will never lead to anything good as he has not let go of his last relationship.
2007-05-14 11:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be with him go for it. Just tell it's the last time you will trust him with your heart.
2007-05-14 12:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wowo that sounds like a real mess. good luck with it.
2007-05-14 11:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by Lovemykids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋