would you prefer if your spouse cheats on you emotionally or physically ?

Question

i know no one likes to be cheated anyway but if you would had to choose between them what kinda cheating would you prefer........... mentally/emotionally OR physical/sexually?

Answer 1

Well....as you said, nobody wants to be cheated on. However, if it were to happen....I think it would be MORE painful if it were an emotional cheat.

Sex, for men, is usually not an emotional experience. They can go out and have sex just to have sex. If it was just to get laid.....that's one thing....but to have an emotional relationship with someone....you actually have to put effort into it for their to be feelings. It's not like they just appear out of thin air.

However, a physical cheat would mean that you're not good enough your spouse has to go elsewhere....

They both are bad for their own reasons......but I still think I'm going to stick with emotional being the worst.

Answer 2

I think that we all lean on different people emotionally for things that we need at that point in time. Therefore, it would be a lot easier to accidently become emotionally attached to someone. I also think that if they feel this, but don't physically act on it, it shows that deep down they have a much deeper love for you.

Either would hurt a great deal, but the thought that your partner chose not to follow through physcially when she was tempted shows she has respect, and feelings for me. (even if at some point she thought she was in love with someone else. Chances are it was mearly lust)

I think if a man/woman cheats on you on it is showing such lack of respect. I don't think anyone who could do that could truly love you. It is just weak.

So..... Emotional affair for me. But I am not saying that it wouldn't hurt, and I would have a big hard look to see why she wasn't leaning on me.

Answer 3

I wouldn't choose neither but, if I had to choose one it would be "mentally"...I think I'm more mentally and emotionally strong that it wouldn't affect me if he had a connection with another woman mentally/or emotionally rather if it was physical or sexual......I think either way it would be hard because cheating is cheating...Sometimes just the intent to cheat is often harder but, just the thought of my partner yearning to be held and cradled by another woman for me is hard to gasp***

Answer 4

I consider you Sarah , in our moderen society , intercourse is a tad frugal .. and extremely lots so printed and stated during our lives .. however whilst 2 human beings trully love one yet another , intercourse will become lots better than actual , and creates a tie between 2 human beings .. yet whilst that loving choose isn't there , the tie looks to no longer form .. yet whilst/if the different learns of that sexual episode's happening , conflictions do/will arrise .. the determination of interplay i've got faith would desire to be mutual , and stored to yourselves as a private happening .. however , hugging is in simple terms a controlled notation of affection for friends .. would desire to on no account be seen as actual cheating..

Answer 5

Well, I had my husband do BOTH! He starting screwing this whore and ended up falling in love with her. So, since I know how both of them hurt, I would have much rather have found out he got drunk and stupid one night and made a mistake. Sex is sex. But to know that he gave his heart to someone else, kills me so much inside. I think he thinks I am having a hard time getting over the fact that he stuck his you know what in some other woman....no, thats the easy part, knowing he fell for someone else is the hard part.

Answer 6

I'd prefer my spouse not cheat on me period and if he were contemplating it i'd prefer he'd be honest and opt out of the relationship to avoid hurting me anymore...fortunately I do not have to worry about this because I am married to the most loving, trustworthy, faithful man on the planet...

Answer 7

An emotional affair would be hardest for me. Sex can happen between people who don't even know each other. An emotional affair means that there is an investment in feelings and friendship.

Answer 8

i cannot seperate the two. but it seems to me that the physical part would be easier to control. sex with someone else is obviously wrong. i think that my husband would be unable to have an affair without having some emotional involvement. so if he had sex it would already have been emotional for a while.

Answer 9

I would prefer for him not to cheat but if he does I could deal with a sexual affair but not an emotional one.

Answer 10

To me, I'd rather have the sexually cheating done. Anybody can have sex but to have my husband sit on the computer and talk intimacies to a stranger, is more personal to me. I have cheated sexually on my spouse, first time last summer, and I have no regrets. Sex is sex.