What is the best way to deal with a "friend" that has been cheating with MY husband?

Answer 1

Kick her ***, LOL let them both go and leave.

Answer 2

She's not a very good friend if she went behind your back to sleep with your husband. Kicking her a** would make you feel better, but it wouldn't solve anything. Confront her and your husband at the same time. Tell her that you are no longer her friend because she betrayed you and your trust in the worst way possible and you would never be able to trust her again. Then tell your husband he is a dog for cheating with your friend and to get his sh** and get out without looking back. Cheating on you with your friend is worse than cheating with a complete stranger. That is the ultimate low other than a family member. Get a divorce and find you a good man that would never cheat and a new friend that you can trust. (get a straight man for a friend and you'll be good to go because he will never sleep with your husband!) They are both low down dirty dogs and they deserve each other. They will never be happy because once a cheater always a cheater! F*** them both and move on girl or you'll wonder forever what's going on when you're not there.

Answer 3

Girl, with a friend like that, who needs enemies? I'd end the friendship, first of all. Some boundaries are just almost unforgiveable. You can forgive her, and still send her on her merry way, though. You should have a BIGGER problem with your husband. Your friend does have a committment to you to be loyal, but the real committment should be from your husband. He's the one that agreed to be your life partner. Can you trust him now? If he'll cheat with your friend....then what's he doing out there with no-name people? You can't just keep running off every chic that has a fling with him, and really be happy. The problem is really HIM and that's where the "dealing" should start. I'd tell him if he wants to be with me, then he has to knock it off...the end. You teach people how to treat you, and something has led him to believe he could sleep with your friend and the consequences he'd get from you weren't harsh enough to keep him from doing it...so that tells me either he doesn't care, or he thinks you'll take it.
I'd probably rip my "friend" a new one, send her packing from my life...and then grab "the bull" by the horns, and let him know I'm not up for games, and if he insisted on playing them, he could find another "heifer" to do it with.

Answer 4

Whup dat TRICK!!!! LOL! Don't describe her as being your "friend". she was never your friend to begin with! the next question should be, what's the best way to deal with a cheating husband!!!! don't dismiss his acts either. it bothers me when women are quick to go at the female when the husband (one who's supposed to love you most, protect you and be there for you when no one else will) is the one who betrayed you the most. He should have been able to turn her down and tell you that your so called friend was really your foe. think about it this way if you can forgive your husband for being with your friend, you may as well forgive your friend too. but not everybody see things the way i do. hope it made sense to you.

Answer 5

Kristy,
I suppose if you are going to "keep him, you had just as well keep her too". That way they can be close and they won't have to sneak around you. I probably would be more likely to dump both of them. I could not imagine any trust between two married people after something like that has happened. Could you ever trust him again? I sure would not. It would be difficult to be very trusting of her also, wouldn't it??? I hope you are forgiving. Pray for GOD's assistance, you are probably going to need it. Have a great week.
Thanks,
Eds

CJ may have the right idea. I am not sure. Children make all of the difference in the world. Please do not crush their fragile world!
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Answer 6

You have two issues: your " friend" and your husband.
By definition she is not a friend. She broke your trust. She is now someone that has harmed you and will do it in the future.
By definition he my be your husband.

Consider the following in dealing with your husband.

the most successful marriages have the following factors in common, any failure of any two can destroy a marriage.

1. Married after age 25.
2. Common goals.(children, careers, material or none material)
3. Religious compatible(Hindu's and Jew's are a bad mix)
4. Low maintenance
5. Close social economical class(poor +rich only works in the movies)
6. Communicates(even most hidden secrets, honest, trust, and no mental abuse statements).
7. Sexual compatible.(this includes fantasies, wiliness to accept someones differences).
8. Similar likes and dislikes(opposites may attract, but they do not stay together)

Answer 7

I would not deal with this "friend" at all. I would completely cut her out of my life. As far as your husband, have you decided what to do about him?

I am sorry this has happened to you. My husband cheated too but at least it was not with someone I knew.

Answer 8

Go round to her house and use her bathroom. Find her toothbrush, put it where the sun don't shine and put it back. Imagine the look on her face when she brushes her teeth lol.

If she doesn't know that you know confide in her and tell her that you think your husband has been playing away as you have got crabs or some other sexual transmitted disease.

She will think that he's been cheating on you both.

If she has air conditioning in her house, put something like fish in one of the air vents. It will be ages before she finds it and the smell will be everywhere.

Try and film them having sex and then email it to everyone you know.

Put a sticker on the back of her car saying 'Fancy a SH*G'

The list could go on and on but I wouldn't want you to get vindictive.

Answer 9

you tell that ***** to stay the hell away from your husband and family! You tell your husband that you love him but are not going to put up with this type of garbage ever again. Let him know that you are going to contact a pi or cheaters and will know if they are sneaking around again. If he tells you that he still loves you then you make sure that there are no extra little moments when he can sneak off to be with her.

Answer 10

Battery Acid

Answer 11

is she married? I say invite her and her husband over under the pretence of having a couples night and just when they get comfy exclaim "so I bet you're really uncomfortable being in the same room with your husband and your lover?" and then whip out proof of their infidelity...kick her and your husband out on the street...ok I know it's childish but seriously confrontation is the best answer...with proof that cant be denied....