Define love and is it controllable?

Question

I have a two part question:

1) Define love between adults. I know this has been asked many times before and some great answers have been given, but I'd like to hear some new, fresh answers.

2) Is your defined love controllable? In other words, can you choose who you love and who you do not love?

Answer 1

no love can't be controlled. it just happens. u find ur self doing things u never done in ur life. u care for that person so much that u can't imagine ur life without that person. and when that person makes u mad u can't really stay mad at them for some reason. u never get tired of that person even though u been together 24/7. and when ya are apart, all u can think about is being with them. and sometimes u just get so mad that u wanna stranggle them, but at same time u wanna grab and kiss them. Also, little things that u don't like what they do, u end up putting up with it. Love is a very powerful thing!

Answer 2

Love is accepting of someone else completely for who they truly are.

I can very easily choose to find fault in people and be overly critical. The more fault I find the less I care about them. Think about it in a marriage. Husband and wife accept each other and they are nice to each other, but if they pick on each other for every little thing and there is fighting. Then again look at the parent-child relationship. The parent that accepts their child the way they are are give the child the feeling of love, but the parent that yells are the child makes them feel unloved.

Answer 3

How can we choose where the heart leads us? & trust me when I say, it was a lesson learned. Love to me is not being able to imagine your life without the other person. They are your best friend, your support system and the only person that you would be willing to be with 24/7.
Love is the best thing that you can ever have, it is more important than friends, money, or anything material.

Answer 4

1. I have no frickin' clue anymore. I once did, but now I'm not sure at all. When I think I know what love is, I am tested beyond my endurance by it. Either that..or I am a masochist and I just don't know it.

2. You can't control who you love, it sneaks up on you and gives you a huge whallop in the back of the head just to completely mess with you

Answer 5

Question number one....
Love is caring for another person, pledging your loyalty to them, spending your life with them, being willing to sacrifice if necessary to love, take care of, or nuture them. It's giving, taking....and still letting them be free enough to be themselves.

Second question....
while I agree that love can be a very strong emotion, and if we let it, it can "control" us in some ways, I believe ultimately that our Higher Power (whoever that may be for you if you have one) gives us the gift of free will.
If we could not control who we love, then when a spouse died, would our "love" not die with them? But we live ahead, and find another person to "love" and share our lives with.

Answer 6

Love is tied to the heart and is not rational. The head controls. Therefore, love cannot be controlled.