i am in married i am seriously thinking of getting out problem is i dont have anything of my own car money or job what would you do if you were in my situation................
2007-05-14 11:19:28 · 12 answers · asked by Tammy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would get some independance. Even a part time job in retail will give you some self-esteem, time away from home, and socialization. It also lines your pockets with a little extra cash to pamper yourself.
2007-05-14 11:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by whitexsaucer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way possible that you and your husband can work on things to make them better for the both of you? I hate to hear people say they want to "get out of a marriage". I am sure there is more to the story and only you and him know what you go through with each other everyday. But I think it is important that we do all that is possible, provided both parties are willing, to save a marriage. If the situation is that bad then I wouldn't let not having my own money, car, job stop me. Do you have any friends or relatives that could take you in, even if you do have kids? I mean if you are really desperate there are always shelters. Do you belong to a church? If so, talk to your Pastor or some of the church members. In the meantime, try to gain some sort of independence.
2007-05-14 11:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your reason for getting out, if your husband is abusing you verbally and/or physically leave now you can go to the police and they can help you get into a shelter if you don't have family or friends that would take you in.
If it's for other reasons, try getting a job or going back to school. Get any type of job, and try to save a little, if your husband gives you money for the house, put some away on the side, so you can build a little nest egg. Talk to family and friends to see if they can help. Good luck.
2007-05-14 11:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i would say to you, don't let that discourage you. if it's a situation that you truly need to get out of, by all means leave. don't feel trapped. just because you don't have your own doesn't mean that you can't get your own. everybody had to start somewhere. i'm sure it would be hard at first but you'll be happier trying to reach your goals and making things happen for yourself. it will only make you a stronger person. you must believe in yourself and not rely on him and the things that he has or proves for you. follow your heart and don't be afraid of the unknown. good luck to ya sweetie
2007-05-14 11:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jazzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Aunt is leaving my Uncle this week and after several attempts at leaving with nothing but the clothes on her back..she went back...this week she's leaving; apartment, clothes, furniture, help from me OF COURSE...so my advice plan,save,wait and do it when you think it's right not because he didn't put the salt away or did something miniscual to tick you off because in the long run you'll just end up either going back or becoming homeless. Good luck
2007-05-14 11:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by Gina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in your situation...I want out more than anything but I am trapped right now...so I am living with my hubby as roommates now trying to save up...maybe in a few years when my youngest starts school it will be easier to get out on my own...unless you have family or friends that can take you in, than you are trapped...
One important thing, you didn't mention if you have kids or not...do you? If you don't...get the hell out of there...how old are you...go back to your parents for a little...I have two small kids, that is why I am trapped...I also want them near their father...
2007-05-14 11:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by poker_fan_in_nyc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI Tammy,
Marriage can be difficult and rewarding, ut when its ovr, its over. Love itself is not enough to keep people together. If its time to jump ship, muster up the courage and jump, you'll be thankful later.
I am speaking from my own experiences, currently ending my third marriage after 13 years, not due to love, but the stress of our lives after five years of hell. We lost everything after 9/11, and my wife id not take it to well. Best of luck to you.
I'm a Canadian who recently has moved to Vancouver, she's in the states, and likely to stay there. Staring over at 50 is ner fun, but you can do it. Not sure how old you are, where you live or just wat happened to your marriag, but don't let oney stop you from finding a better life.
2007-05-14 11:33:29 · answer #7 · answered by CaptainRehab 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would go to church and find Jesus, He can change any-ones heart .
go and talk to the pastor and talk to some other ladies there.
God bless you!
Please don't listen to people who have been married 3-times, telling you there is a back door.
2007-05-14 12:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by fstmx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting out of being married???? No, I'd hang in there and at least try to work things out if possible. If not, glty.
2007-05-14 11:29:01 · answer #9 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd find a job, earn my own money and be gone.
2007-05-14 11:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋