Marriage & Divorce - 14 May 2007

I seriously dated a girl for 3 years and stupidly made promises to be married, then renegged. This kills me, just I thought she would wait, it was how i was feeling at the time! Prob just being a guy, scared,etc. I thought things were fine and out of the blue last Sept. she said she needed time alone. Well, she immediately reconnected with an old bf and they were married 4 months later.She has been married for 3 months and we spoke for the 1st time since the wedding last week (she called me) and she told me she only got married bcs she wanted to be a wife, and that she would only get divorced if he GAVE HER a reason, but that she wouldnt do it bcs. she would feel too guilty. Didnt say anything about LOVE. But, she said she FEELS loved and SAYS she is happy (like 1000 times she told me). What do you think about this? She keeps on calling me, but ends up yelling at me and is still very upset. Will it last? Is she honestly happy?I am so devastated, taking depression meds now.

2007-05-14 09:15:03 · 6 answers · asked by rickie7611 1

OK, so we're wishy-washy about should we have kid #2. When we ACTUALLY talk about it, like for real sit down and no sarcasm, we both agree that kid #2 is a good idea, but it's scary and can we do it, are we patient enough, do we have the money? It's hard. When we don't honestly talk about it, like just in passing, my husband's always like no way, no way, no way and I'm always like yes yes yes.

I sort of chalked it up to a loss because my little one will be 4 next month and we've never made up our mind, but then my husband brought it up again the other night and said how he knows we should have baby #2. We talked about how wonderful babies are and all that, but (of course) didn't like - make up our mind.

What's the best way to just help him figure out what he wants? He's said before that he needs help from me sometimes on making up his mind because he just can't do it - is this one of those things? How do you do that?

2007-05-14 09:14:06 · 7 answers · asked by Jax 4

sorry guys, i posted wrong question earlier.... ant opinion is much appreciated! thanks...

2007-05-14 09:12:44 · 4 answers · asked by justinne 1

We left 4 years ago for a vacation, and never returned. We have a home now in a neighboring state, but I am lonely and I want to go home.

2007-05-14 09:11:09 · 4 answers · asked by izzymo 5

I know this is not the right category, but I felt I would get the best answers here.

What would you do if you went on a job interview with the state, and then they called you to come in and take a typing test which makes you feel you have a good shot at it, but then another department from the state called you in for an interview, and you really want that job. There is no guarantee you will get either one, but if the first one was offered to you before you heard from the one you really want, and the pay would be the same what would you do being that there is no guarantee for either. If I was to turn down the first one that I do want as well, but not as bad as the 2nd one then what happens if I don't even get the 2nd one.

2007-05-14 09:09:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

We got married March 9 while he was home on leave. He has since gone back overseas, so we're dealing with the distance thing but we've been arguing a lot lately over the phone. Almost nitpicking about stupid things, and bringing up old arguments and exhausting them until we drive each other nuts. He will be home in about a month for a visit, and then I'm moving there in September, and things are 100% better when we are together. Has anyone ever had this problem? Is it because of the distance and that we are both frustrated? Any advice to fix this problem, or should we just stick it out until I get there? Please, only serious answers. Thanks!

2007-05-14 09:09:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-14 09:03:08 · 23 answers · asked by craig s 1

I Have been married for almost 10 years, for all the time, my husband has been bad with me, always telling me that I was not pretty, always putting me down, including other members of my family. He has said that I am smart, and that he is with me for that reason, but that he always had very pretty girlfriends before me. And of course ha has always said that he is not happy with me. We have two beautiful children 3 and 8. At first it was very hard, I use to cry any time he would insult me, because it just hurt, but since about two years ago, I don't really care about his insults, they don't have any effect on me, he has notice that, specially when I told him that I am sorry that he is not happy, and that he should go and find his happiness somewhere else. I don't want to have intimate relationships anymore with him, I can't, I even feel abused in that way. Sex now feels like sexual abuse. We are getting counseling but things don't change, about the way I feel. He, seems worry now

2007-05-14 09:02:21 · 10 answers · asked by Mrs. Frog 2

2007-05-14 08:42:58 · 29 answers · asked by buttercup331106 1

The other night, I was dreaming of being touched and was enjoying it, I started to wake up and my husband was kissing me while I was sleeping, and having sex with me! It was the wierdest feeling...

2007-05-14 08:32:00 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

and is pushing him away from her.. She has yet to mention it to me but her husband has called me and told me about it. He is not asking for my help but just wants someone to talk to. I cant tell my friend because, knowing her character, it will aggrevate the situation and she will be even more upset with him. Her husband has told me that she is having an affair and he has his sources and he is very very sure..

I want to speak to her about it, I want to hear her side of the story but I cant. I feel like I am betraying her by not telling her that her husband has told me but I cant bear the consequences and trust me on this, the consequences would be too severe for me to bear..

Her husband is calling me and telling me everything, wanting to meet up and all.. he is a little depressed so I am worried that he would do something silly.. but my fiance prefers that i stay out of it.. how do i tell him? how should i handle the situation? should i talk to my friend too? I dunno what to do.

2007-05-14 07:38:34 · 19 answers · asked by i am who i am 2

2007-05-14 07:37:14 · 18 answers · asked by rk E 1

after they divorce?

2007-05-14 07:20:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

my boyfriend and I have been together for 14 months. Im 19 and hes 20. Ive already moved out hes still lives with his dad. His dad only has one arm and i respect my bf for staying for that reason but his father did everything before he had a son! We both have stable jobs and good income, Im ready and he wants to marry me just not right now, I have a disease that disables a person as they get old, and I want a family in a couple years! I know Im being impatient but he is too slow!!!! I love him so much and really we are meant for each other. How do I try to be more patient or should I stand my ground. Please help.

2007-05-14 06:57:44 · 9 answers · asked by Kaden James born 4/11/2009 2

How can I get a Merriage Certificate if i marry with a Girl who is not a Hindu not a Muslim

2007-05-14 06:55:55 · 6 answers · asked by sunny 1

i am trying to work on a holiday visitation schedule with my kids father and i dont know what would seem fair. for the last 6 yrs i've had my child every holiday in the a.m. hes gotton her by noon and returned her by 5-6pm that way shes with my family for a few hrs in the am and his in the afternoon. fathers day he has her and mothers day i have her. now we have to talk to my childs guardian ad litem regarding this because he wants more than that which i think is more than fair, but his new fiance doesnt. can someone help me and please help me find a fair and resonable solution!!!!! thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-05-14 06:46:58 · 11 answers · asked by shanluvs423 1

Were they extra jerky to you, I mean did everything you do piss them off, I mean everything, to the way I cough, eat, drink my soup, etc. Is this just evidence of someones hardened heart?

2007-05-14 06:44:13 · 13 answers · asked by fstmx 3

2007-05-14 06:26:37 · 18 answers · asked by Jiggy 1

my husband and I have been married for almost 6 years. About 2 years after I married him he began to stare at women. Ok, I understand that it is normal to see, but not to stare.. an example, just the other day we went to some horse races.... some women who were ok... were passing by...he stared at one of them (he was oblivious that I was watching him).. looked her up and down several times and smiled at her... I got so mad.. after I told him about it.. I said and do not deny it... because that is not manly.. so, he didnt deny it... he said that he was not going to change because that was the way he was... that he was not doing anything wrong.. but, my perspective is.. when you stare at a woman like that.. they seem to like it...especially if they are lonely women... and that can lead to something else.. am I exaggerating??? because I feel that I am not.. I feel that he should have a little more respect.. I honestly do not care if he looks, but PLEASE don't stare

2007-05-14 06:18:51 · 29 answers · asked by ; ) 4

I need some ways to spice up my sex life with my hubby please helpppppppppppppppppppp! My problem is I dont feel to comfortable doing the kinky stuff I want to get out of that we have been together for 6 years now and I need some spice.

2007-05-14 06:17:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I made the mistake of cheating on my wife. My wife knows about the affair. I didn't expect to fall in love with my girlfriend but I did. I have a 6 month old child with my wife but not sure if I love her anymore.

2007-05-14 06:11:15 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married 13 years, to the love of my life. We have a wonderful affectionate caring trusting & loving relationship. The only downside has been that we have not had sex for 7 years. We have no children, so I have not gained weight and got baggy and saggy. I am pretty, confident, hardworking, I am there for my family and his. It started off more less as soon as the ring was on my finger. He didn't initiate sex often, so I would. He rejected me many times, saying he was too tired, not in the mood, depressed etc. I believed him. We tried to have sex, or at least just oral sex but he could not maintain an erection. He kept telling me it wasn't me, it was him. I thought he had a erection problem and didn't want to compound the problem, so I gave him some space. Now he has told me I don't turn him on & that is why we haven't sex. He partially wants to stay with me because he loves me our life together etc but another part of him thinks he is missing out. What can I do?

2007-05-14 05:44:45 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

We drank all night, played pool, and when we got back to my place, we painted the cats red, white, and blue for Memorial Day. Why isn't my wife talking to me?

2007-05-14 05:38:42 · 27 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

i think my gf may be cheating when i am gone but i want to be sure so i f i can have some bugs put in or cameras it would be helpful

2007-05-14 05:36:48 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

she is about 15years younger than me and is a friend of the family. But, I am so damn attracted to her. Her husband doesn't appreciate what he has.

2007-05-14 05:36:34 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

What should I do? I believe there is a difference in babying and comforting. And I can't stand the negative talk that she has with the girls!!!!

2007-05-14 05:27:31 · 18 answers · asked by karakalkel 1

Here is the story... a friend of mine had a paternity test done and it was determined that the father was the father of said child. She proceeded to go to court to try and collect child support for their child, who is 8 years old, but every time they try and serve the father with papers he keeps saying it isn't him at the door. They (whoever is serving the court notice) wrote the description down of the person answering the door, and it is him, but this is the third time he has denied it is him and so her case cannot proceed and she can't collect support for her child. What is her next recourse in this situation? If he was already established as the father of this child why can't she collect child support? He does work, etc.

2007-05-14 05:22:14 · 17 answers · asked by Monique 5

Well i'm married and pregnant. i was just wondering is it wrong for a married man to text and call his ex girl friend or am i just being selfish. he tells me there just friends and i really should trust him. but i personally think its wrong. is it?

2007-05-14 05:06:08 · 37 answers · asked by Stephanie W 1

2007-05-14 04:57:46 · 22 answers · asked by kibebrau 3

2007-05-14 04:44:49 · 40 answers · asked by Moe 1