What should I do? I believe there is a difference in babying and comforting. And I can't stand the negative talk that she has with the girls!!!!
2007-05-14 05:27:31 · 18 answers · asked by karakalkel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband's ex used to accuse him of this kind of thing from time to time. No big deal.
Kids can deal with being parented different ways in their different homes.
Let mom do it her way. You guys do it your way. Let the child experience the best from both of her parents (and the adults the parents choose to partner with).
Don't bother exchanging words with mom regarding this. If she brings it up, then your boyfriend can talk to her about it, but, basically, he should say "I'm glad that you're there in our daughter's life, so that we can balance each other out" or something like that - noncomittal, respectful.
If she brings it up to *you*, just say "That's something
2007-05-14 05:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
She probably is just upset that her child is seeing daddy with another woman. Time will lessen her attitude. Stick in ther and try talking to her. Ask if there is anything you can do differently to make her more comfortable besides leaving your man. A mommy is always going to be protective, she can't help it. Keep in mind that she is the mother, and he is the father. You are the girlfriend, you are kinda like the p*ss in the fruitloops in her eyes. Sorry for the reality check but if my husband tried to add another woman to my children's lives I would be really picky too. She however is not doing anyone any favors by being negative towards the children about you.
2007-05-14 05:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by M. Nurse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His ex may need a reality check that the way she is cared for at her ex's home may be different than what she does in her home. Usually, a mother fights with her ex's girl over not being loving enough with a child. Not the other way around.
She may not like her daughter having another "Mom" in the picture. But, when people split up, it does come with the territory.
Continue to be loving with the child if you are going to be a permanent fixture in her fathers life. And let your man deal with her.
Good luck.
2007-05-14 05:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not an educated woman. An educated woman would listen to what you have to say and decide for herself. She has no idea what his feelings are for you. She is involved with a man who sleeps with other woman, steals their money, and she thinks he wont do this to her. He will. She will be supporting children that he eventually strays from. You can't trust him because he wasn't honest with you about her. Everyone goes through a relationship like this. I had one friend move to another state with a guy, they rented an apartment and she never say him again. She quit her job to move then he was gone with no explanation. These things happen, but they say more about the loser they are than you. I dated someone who lied about everything and though I didn't like the lesson at the time, I appreciate it now because its hard to get anything over on me now. I'm sure there were signs that you overlooked but will never over look again. In the future, you will find a good guy and it will be a good situation, just don't believe all men are bad. In my case, my husband left me for a stripper, but you move on and hope for the best.
2016-05-17 23:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is the little girl? no one can be pampered to much and that little girl will know what she can expect at your house and at her real moms. (this is ok) the more peole to love her the better off she is. As for the ex wife, she's afraid you will take her place and her daughter will love you more. IT can take a while before she figures out that no one can take the place of a mom, she will grow up eventually untill then good luck
2007-05-14 05:43:52 · answer #5 · answered by lilkismet73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently she is angry with her ex not you. Don't take it personally. She will act this way with all woman that may try to get close to her ex. She should be grateful that her children are in the company of a woman that is comforting,encouraging and positive; and not in the company of a drug addict, abuser etc. You get my drift? You are doing good things for the baby. Keep up the good work!
2007-05-14 05:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by Belinda O 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Keep calm, explain to her there is a difference between being there for support and trying to be the mother. Ask which would she prefer someone the girls can turn to if needed, or someone who doesn't care; if she answers the latter then she obliviously doesn't care and is just trying to score points off you.
Concerning the negative talk, explain to the girls that you are there for them, despite differences between you and their mother.
2007-05-14 05:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mark J 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you don't like it leave!you wouldn't want a stranger snooping in your purse just because you left it at their house.so back off and feed the kids and make sure that their safe,and smile speak nicely.or let the dad find a real woman to fit the bill.not a cry baby girl.
2007-05-14 05:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
1. Don't forget who the actual parents are.
2. You're the GF, not the step-mother, and as such have no legal rights in the matter.
That being said, the mother needs to understand that you ARE (at times) the adult in charge, parent or not.
2007-05-14 05:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by gromit801 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
One.... no more "words" with her. She is the child's mother and your words with her will only hurt the child and damage any relationship you will have with her. Get control of that.
Ignore her and don't acknowledge her stupid jealousy. She is probably doubting her own parenting skills and is taking that guilt and putting it on you. It's not your fault.
You just keep loving and mothering that little girl. You are with her dad and that is part of being in that relationship with him. Don't fight with mom.... ever. You focus on your family and let her destroy her own.
2007-05-14 05:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋